Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Perception

Perception is reality....it is YOUR reality. When we perceive something as being a certain way, to us it is that way for everyone. What we have to remember is that it is our reality, not reality. That saying "perception is reality" is not true at all, it needs to be modified to "perception is the perceiver's reality".

Many times we have an idea about how things "are" or how they "should be". Sometimes we are looking for something. When we have those preconceived ideas or ways of dealing with the world, we constantly fool ourselves.

People who are prejudicial are a prime example. They believe that all people of a certain race, creed, or sexual preference, are all the same (and usually in a negative way). When they look at people in their "prejudicial" group they automatically "see" those things that upset them, even though they may not be there at all.They fear those people or situations in some way, and that is why we get a negative reaction.

We cannot apply terms like "all", "always" and "never" to people. It just doesn't work. People are a product of their environment, and that is most profoundly effective before the age of 6 years. That is when we learn how we are going to be. Are we trusting, analytical, open, disbelieving? All of those things are shaped by our environment and our ability to learn and perceive the world.

When people are not taught to have  an open mind, to research, and to not jump to conclusions, they make many mistakes in life. They miss opportunities, friends, even happiness that they would have found in things that were different, unusual, or even a bit scary.

There are people who see signs in everything, people who hear "ghosts" in every creak, and who see issues with people that are really their own issues. When you see a person who uses the same language or terms when talking about others they do not like, you will know what they person persieves themselves as (or fears others will see). People who take , take , take, call others "thieves"; people who decieve and trick, call others "liars"; people who are afraid of their masculinity call others "homos" , or some other similar derogatory term. When you hear the same terms coming out of a person's mouth over and over, you will know exactly what that person is, or believes themselves to be...and perception is reality, right?

Be careful of not jumping to conclusions, as the old saying goes, when you "assume", you make an ASS out of U and ME.

DO unto others!!
DO the RIGHT things for the RIGHT reasons


Peshaui Wequashimese



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Monday, November 25, 2013

How to really clean house....

The way to really clean house.....move. Drastic, I know.

I have found things I forgot I had, which isn't really house cleaning, but packing and preparing the house for showings, is a whole adventure. I have cleaned areas that I never clean ,like the tops of door trim (oh please you never clean yours either). I have winnowed out my metaphysical library and will share it with others. I am also pulling some fiction books from a book case that I have read a few times, it is time for someone else to enjoy them. I have tossed things away, given things away, and lightened the load. I have also painted, fixed, cleaned up, replaced and put away so many things, it is hard to list the tally.I can tell you that about 40 bags of leaves left the yard (we have a large piece of property with about 15 trees, big ones, with lots of leaves).

Matt has cleaned the garage, something he has been saying he would do since he moved in here, and you can actually move through there, and GASP, park a car in there!

We have walls repaired where the last owner did a poor job, new lighting, new ceiling downstairs, and the back porch is free of spider webs for the first time in eons...sorry spiders.

The house is CLEAN, it is ALMOST magazine clean.

So onward and forward we go. A new home, another CLEAN home, very clean, and it feels good. We were making plans and they have all come to fruition , each one manifesting to what we wanted and needed.

Now I am going to manifest a quick sale, not just a sale, that is always a good thing, when you sell quickly. When you have a day where you really want to clean your house, act like you want to sell it and sell it quickly, you will be shocked at the difference!

Now to stockpile some wine for our housewarming party!

Manifest well, with good intent & the results are quick and fruitful.


Happy Thanksgiving!
I am thankful for all of you!




Peshaui Wequashimese



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Wednesday, November 20, 2013

New Horizons

There have been three to four months now where I was thinking of decreasing or ending my time with a group. There were a few things that bothered me from one person making all the decisions and having complete control of club actions, to the group becoming what was "quantity" and not "quality". It wasn't fitting what was comfortable for me, and each trip, each change, was met with an upset, a disaster, or a change that caused an upheaval. Things were changed for the better, then reversed. Things were constantly in flux, all because of personal decisions and issues.

Most recently when helping a client , the local media was called in, which is fine, but it would have been nice if we were all asked first. I didn't mind, but some others did, but they went with the flow to help the homeowner. Club leadership spent more time with the media than the client. I felt so sorry for her. Then, without asking, the leader took the homeowner's Ouiji Board and left with it.They TOLD her they were taking it, but didn't ASK. I had told her what to do with it, and made it safe for her. I wouldn't have bothered closing it off for her, if we were just going to pass it on to a collector, let him do it! I am sure it is in safe hands, but that isn't the point. I felt like I was on an early episode of Haunted Collector.She wasn't asked, and was surprised,  as what we had told her 2 days before was now totally different that what was happening.It wasn't my decision, and to me it was the wrong decision.

I planned on pulling way back and just being around for cleansings and blessings. I wanted to limit my time and schedule other things in , and re-vamp what I was doing with the paranormal. I wasn't here for media attention, drama, or upsetting clients. I was here to help.  It took so long to decide what to do , as I didn't want to let others down, or feel like I wasn't truly helping. I no longer feel that way for sure!

Anyway, it was a bunch of things, all different things that made me decide to limit my time. Then a trip. A trip that included many of the group, and we all had a great time, or so it seems. We were divided into groups, which was a good thing. Apparently I didn't pay enough attention to an individual (who was in another group), and all of a sudden there were meetings, discussions and phone calls about me.

I will be, and always have been,  a person to speak my mind. I tell you , straight up, to your face what I think. I may temper it , and I am always polite about it, but I am flat out honest about it. I approach directly and sincerely. I sometimes take WAY too long and let people walk all over me, which is something I need to change, but I always get there....when I do get there....it is OVER.

This trip included several people who were not from the area, that I rarely see. I spent time talking and laughing with them...about 20 minutes. It was a "hen meeting", a bunch of women laughing. Some came in and joined, others left and went to unpack. A loose , happy, fun gathering. This was hours before the investigation started. We weren't neglecting our duties, but socializing, talking, planning, and talking about traveling to haunted locations out of the area....Well that 20 minutes away from those who run the group was too long.... apparently.

Instead of asking or talking to me about it that night , or even that whole week, it was talk ABOUT me time. I have a problem with that since I am so up front. That had sealed my decision for me. Time to go. I had been nothing but generous, planning trips, giving rides, lending money, paying deposits, holding meetings at my home and more. The thanks I got....being slammed to others while they smiled in my face.

One person said...well "so and so" didn't think you talked to them enough. I am sorry, but last time I looked, friendship works two ways. You see me and I am talking to someone and you want to talk to me, walk your happy butt over and say "hi I want to talk to you". When people hold crap in and gripe about it to others , rather than the person they are upset with, I have NO TIME for those people.I have no time for negative, unhappy souls who spend their lives miserable. I have better things to do.

It wasn't simply being "talked about" it was flat out character assault.It was a barrage that included members, and friends of mine.It all came back to me (I guess no one expected the people who were being "talked to" to notify me). I was being called a liar , and not a true friend, and a plethora of other things. I was shocked, but NOT surprised. This is far from the first time that this type of drama has happened in this group. When I found out the reasons why people were upset, I felt like I was in third grade, not even high school. I quit. Like I said, I pull no punches, I quit loud, hard, and with finality. When I am done, I am done.

I had been talking to some others prior about having a travel group. Those of us with the time, health and money to make multiple long trips around the country going to haunted sites. Rawlins, Wyoming is one place many of us would love to go. This would not be feasible with the group I was in. It wasn't anything official yet and I even remarked to my husband, and a few friends that the trip where all this drama happened , would be my decision making moment.I was leaving or staying, which would it be.  I had no idea how right I was. The nonsense and childishness  that came out of that trip made me make the decision to go , but also to just have my own investigative group. A group that would vote on everything, help people, and go places and have fun. It would be kept small and NOT include people who were afraid to "ghost hunt", weren't really into it, didn't have emotional or mental issues, never show their face at an event , lived 500 miles away, needed media attention or really couldn't afford to go anywhere. I was tired of dealing with people issues, tempers and drama.

People quickly came to me, others who feel as I do, and they all jumped on board. It started with 7 people and now is a dozen. The group I left went into a day long war. People were ousted if they liked me, were in my group , or defended me. None of which is right, or legal...but that's OK, that is par for the course there and why I no longer am there. I had no problem with people in  my group being in the original group, but the original group did. They were told they weren't allowed to be in my group and to ....and I quote...GET OUT NOW.

I don't have time for control freaks, or drama, or people being hateful and nasty to others. I was so glad I was gone.The fact that people thought they could limit me, yet still have me around to do things, AND talk about me behind my back, FLOORS me . I was good enough to keep in teh group and use, but not good enough to be advised of group decisions. I was good enough to have around to use for blessings and cleansings, but not good enough to not be slandered to the group behind my back. Really?

Just limiting me would have fit happily into what I was looking to do. Not a problem, but use me for my abilities and slam me to everyone behind my back...why would I stay? Simple answer...I wasn't supposed to know I was being talked about. I was supposed to quietly stay and be used and abused....no thanks.

I ended up with 12 seasoned investigators so far. Ones with cars, phones, investigative equipment and the ability to pay for trips. I don't think there will be an ounce of drama , or one issue with that group. Thank goodness.

The hate and untruth that was spewed just because I didn't pay enough homage to one person is something that is beyond imagination, but it did what it has done in the past, made a new group form. This isn't the first time, nor I suspect, the last. It isn't even the first this year! There are very good paranormal groups that wouldn't exist if it weren't for the drama pushing them out to form their own groups. There are now four that I know of,  that exist just because of the drama of this group.

I do remain here for anyone who needs help. Advice, teachings, blessings, cleansings, and of course investigations. I have a group of dedicated and experienced investigators in two states, and they are all wonderful people who get along and have fun. We  hope to add to our group, but are setting the limit at 15.We want quality, not quantity. We are Paranormal Research  and Investigations, Ohio Valley.

This is one of my new horizons, this and a new home are currently happening, and a new center for the raptors is also in the works. I have even more ideas and plans, but one step at a time. All good change, all bringing me into better energy and better company. I am sure most of you now know I have quit that paranormal group, but for those that did not, now you do! I will no longer be associated with them in any way. I remain friends with people in the group and will not allow the leadership of that group to tell me who I can be friends with, and who I can do things with. I would hope others also will not.

When you plan your new horizons, the Universe may have bigger and better plans for you. Go with the flow. Let those bigger horizons come. Closing the old doors are hard for some, and situations dictate how hard they need to be closed, or how firmly they need to be locked. Go with the flow.....and let it carry you on to bigger and better things!


Peshaui Wequashimese




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Tuesday, November 12, 2013

The answer is" when it isn't fun anymore"....

People ask all kinds of questions all day long. I asked myself a question a few months ago and the answer of whether to continue forward, or take another path came down to the same answer you can supply for just about anything. The words may have to be adjusted a little , but basically you know it is time to move on when it isn't fun anymore.

This applies to hobbies, jobs, friends, partners, businesses, and even where you live. There should be an amount of pleasure in all of these things, some more than others, but they all have to have that "fun" or "pleasure" factor, or else it becomes a chore, drudgery, stressful and upsetting. There is no need to add any of those things to life. Now please do not tell me how you can't afford your dream house, so you live in a place you hate. There are not only places in between nirvana and hell, but it is in your power to change it. No one said it would be easy!

It isn't always easy to walk away or make big changes. Sometimes a lot of time, energy and even money is invested. When we cannot find a new avenue however (remember the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results), to attack problems from, we have to walk away.

People think that walking away is a bad thing. It is desertion, it is giving up. It isn't always that. "Giving up" only happens when you have NOT tried everything and have NOT done your best. When you have always given your all and things are not going right it is the Universe's message to move on.

Sometimes things start out differently than they end up. You have high hopes and goals, and they get changed by circumstances, people or availability of money or time. Then the plans need to change and may change to a place where there is no pleasure.

I have a bad habit of making things better for people. That sounds like an oxymoron doesn't it? Being a "fixer" is great until is gets to be your responsibility to fix and maintain, instead of your benevolence. "Help", isn't "help" if another person is not also working towards their goal with you. Then you can be enabling. I don't mind helping, I love helping, but helping means others are participating. Sometimes I get in so deep and am watching what I am working on excel and improve, that it takes a bit for me to realize that the person I was helping is now sitting on the sidelines taking it easy (the reason they needed help in the first place). One of my lessons to learn.

The moral of the story is, if it isn't fun anymore, don't continue. My job is fun, even though there are days when it is frustrating, it still is fun. Every day doesn't need to be a hoot for your life to be fun, but the scales need to be tipped in the right direction! My job is still fun, my marriage is a blast, my hobbies are fun, and my friends are fun. A little adjustment here and there every now and then doesn't hurt, and I do make those adjustments.

Many fear change, and that is usually from the unknown. I don't have a fear of the unknown, but a thirst for the knowledge of it,  to make it known. We are looking at finding a new home, one with more room, less maintenance and more "style". A home we will buy together instead of the home I bought years ago.This will be a major change, and already there are major changes going on all around me. Life is taking off again, and now I have to go and catch up.

Change is good, it finds you new people , hobbies, challenges, and more fun.

Do it until it isn't fun anymore, and while you are at it, do unto others......



Peshaui Wequashimese




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Thursday, November 7, 2013

Need help....ask.

I am sure that you have seen little signs in shops all over that say "Need help...ask". People are usually ready to help , but need to know you need it, want it, and what you are looking for. That means you have to ....ask.

I have seen people do the craziest things. Things from ridiculous to rude in the name of needing help. Sometimes they don't actually need help, but they go through so much energy trying to disguise the need, that they could have used that energy to solve the problem in the first place!

People do so many things to get in their own way. They wait until the last minute to do things, they don't plan, they get in over their heads (both energetically and financially). They are rude to people and then wonder why they don't respond favorably. They rush, they get upset and generally make a bigger mess than there was in the first place. Then they ask for help!

Most recently I have seen and heard from clients of people doing inproper things in the hopes of others "helping". I put "helping" in quotes, as some just want to be lazy and have others actually "do" for them.

When you want help, voice a specific need and see what is offered. Then make your plans and decisions based on that. Sometimes the answer is that you will have to wait to achieve that goal as you are not ready or do not have the help you need.

I have watched people move others around as if they were chess pieces on a chess board to get where they want to be. All they had to do was ask instead of inconveniencing everyone else. It didn't matter if the solution for themselves involved making others need help, it just solved their issue. This is unfair, selfish, and rude. It is reacting in a fear based manner (see yesterday's blog), instead of acting in a positive and faith filled manner.

I have also watched people "fish". They ask for help, but won't explain what is going on. They tell you they need something, but never why. It is usually a dramatic request. A friend was asked for money by another person , but the person would not tell them why they needed the money. The request was denied with a firm, "no".

People also try to manipulate others into helping by making them feel guilty. This is mental and emotional abuse. Never tolerate a person who gets what they want by putting fear or guilt into others.

Threats are sometimes used, "help me or else", this in another example where you just walk away, no need to tie a person like that even stronger to you by repeating a behavior that you will later regret.

Some don't ask at all , but sink nto a huge mess that they need others to pull them out of, they like being "saved", and allow the worst case scenario to happen when it didn't need to.


When you have an issue that needs to be resolved you first have to decide if it is that important. The answer may be to walk away. I have seen people struggling to hold on to cars and homes they can't afford, the answer may just be to sell the item, not to ask for help in paying for it. Then once that decision is made , you have to decide YOUR plan, and you have to have a starring role in the plan, and then see if you need help executing it. When you need help, you clearly state the issue to those whom you think can help and see what solutions are offered. Pick one, and give it 100%. Then make sure that you do NOT get into that same situation again!

The answer is not to inconvenience or change someone's situation in any way to make your better, it is not to make people feel sorry for you or wonder about you. It is to take action.

 As always, "Do unto others" and "Do the right things for the right reasons"

Peshaui Wequashimese




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Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Act, don't react

This past month has been a very busy time. Big decisions were made and are still being made, but the good news is, all of the hard thinking seems to be out of the way. The thoughts were about business, groups I am in, and a very serious change that had to occur. It was also about health, and it was about what the next step in life as far as business and where my husband and I call home will be. I had to put blogging aside for a bit, but I think the ship is steaming along just fine now and I can concentrate on teaching.

The old saying is that when it rains it pours, and it is easy to imagine that it just seems that way because we are already involved in changes, decisions or an outright mess. The next little straw can easily break that camel's back. Yet when you understand energy, you know that everything DOES usually happen at once. When you have productive energy around you , then you are productive, in every aspect of your life.
When you are angry, everything gets a piece of that anger. When you are in peaceful energy, things may be happening all around you, but you are at peace.

So what to do when the deluge comes? Breathe and move forward. The saying that is popular today is "Keep calm and______" . The funny part is that this is NOT new. The "Keep calm" was originally "Keep calm and carry on" and was a motivational poster in 1939 during WWII in England. Everything old is new again. The posters were rediscovered in 2000 and have been making their way into the mainstream ever since.

This is really sage advice. When we act out of fear , we aren't acting , but reacting. Reacting takes no rational thought, just a response that is often one you would not have in saner, calmer and quieter days. When you act out of fear , you never make a good decision. You may go through a process that you call "thinking" , but if it is inspired by fear, it is not CLEAR thinking and will lead you down a path you won't like.

I recently watched a person go through this process. His spiral downward was slightly noticeable at first, then greatly apparent by the end. The thoughtless process made the issue, bigger, more complicated and eventually unsolvable in a good way.

We need to act, not react, and we need to do that early on in the process. I will give you an example, this is something my clients do all the time and it drives me crazy. They lose a job. Bad to do, yes, but that is not something you can "undo" so the "act" and "think" process is already too late. It would be great if they worked to KEEP the job, and sometimes it is inevitable, but most times it isn't. Let's assume for example that after losing the job they get 6 months of unemployment benefits. Guess when they start looking for a job? You guessed it, month six. They also look for a "better job". How hard do you think it is to get a "better" job if you were fired from the last one? Pretty darn hard. It is difficult for people to see their role in things sometimes, but if they had more clear sight, they probably wouldn't be in the "almost losing the job" situation in the first place.

Act, don't react, and always have a Plan "B". Always be ready for life to hand you more change as you are going through the first crises. When change energy is around you, it is all around you, not just in one aspect of your life. Don't react. Stop and think clearly. Get a trusted friend to help bounce ideas off of. Make sure that you ground yourself. Take a walk and expel some of that frustration and anger energy while you are going through the problem solving process.

The energy around you is what you create, so as the British said in 1939, "stay calm....and"  THINK. Stay calm and ACT. Stay calm and PLAN. Better yet, do it beforehand and be ready for just about anything!

Life is what you make it and like energy attracts like energy. Attract the right energy!



Peshaui Wequashimese




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Friday, November 1, 2013

Spirit presence does NOT equal "Haunted"

There are spirits in every place you go. Some are residents, some pass through, some follow you around. People will say that they have no spirits in their house (they always do), or claim because they captured an EVP, or saw something unusual, that the house is haunted. Neither one is actually true.

Spirits are everywhere, so if a spirit in a home or office makes it "haunted" , we are all haunted. Every one of us has at least one spirit guide. What are spirit guides? Dead people. So there is at least one "ghost", of a special nature looking over your shoulder right now.

That spirit guide goes everywhere you go, so you bring a spirit into every building you walk in to. "Haunted" is an overused word. It used to be a terrible thing for a house to be haunted, now it can be a selling feature!  Some homes, and especially hotels and other large commercial buildings , earn a higher asking price because they are haunted. Capturing an EVP does not make a place haunted, it means a spirit (possibly passing thru) had some thing to say to you.

Recently a client told us her house was haunted because a medium saw a little girl there. A medium will see spirits in EVERY building they enter. The spirits are everywhere, and that does not mean a place is haunted.

What exactly makes a place haunted? "Haunted" is prolonged , regular, and obvious spirit activity. It does mean that the spirit most likely resides there, but it doesn't have to. The place may have a bunch of "regulars" who pass in and out. It means the spirit is constantly making itself known in our material world. It may be even getting to the level of wanting you out. When we have spiritual activity of this level, it is a haunt.

When we have activity that is beyond spirits, and involves activity of non human spirits, then it is beyond haunted, the site is possessed or invaded. A site can have both. Sometimes human spirits are trying to control or maintain activity on a level of nonhuman activity.

Some places are merely a place where spirits pass through, they don't stay. When a spirit doesn't stay, it can't be haunted, yet there may be hundreds of spirits there each day. This is a portal, and they exist mostly due to natural circumstances. Things that create portals that are not natural are, Ouiji boards, ceremonies, and large scale disasters. Natural things that make the atmosphere just right for portals are, running water (underground streams for example),  high electromagnetic fields, people with psychic or mediumistic abilities, ley lines, certain crystals, and places of high energy over thousands of years (like the Aztec cities or Stonehenge). Combine any of these and the "traffic" can be phenomenal.

Today people get their information from TV shows. It isn't always "bad" information, but it is usually a tip of the iceberg, and a little knowledge IS a dangerous thing. There are still universities offering parapsychology classes, the science of the "paranormal". I took one back when I was a senior, and it was eye opening. This was before TV shows and books galore. We have come a long way, but knowing what the parapsychology pioneers knew, will help you truly understand the "other side".

Try reading books by Lyod Auerbach and Hans Holzer to start. Go to the arcane to learn more, the Rosicrucians, Masons, and New Dawn. There is so much really good information out there.

Just remember,spirits are everywhere!!!

Happy All Souls Day!




Peshaui Wequashimese




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