February first is a celebration called Imbolc on the Celtic calendar. The Celts were a strong, intelligent and proud people.
Imbolc was a time to honor the goddess Brigid who was later also honored as a Christian saint. Brigid is honored on February first , as that was when the lambs were said to begin lactating and bringing life back into the world. The Church at first took her day and changed it to February 2, and honored Mary at Candlemas (the blessing of the candles, bringing light back into the world). Later she became St. Brigid in her own right. Both days and ladies were honored as part of spring returning and the world going back to being light and productive. The timing is just about half way between winter solstice and spring equinox.
Imbolc is one of the four cross quarter days (half way between solstices and equinoxes), of the Pagan calendar. The others are Samhain, Beltane and Lughnasadh. The day was celebrated with butter, milk, bonfires, and weather prognostication (which we still do on the second of February for Groundhog Day). That day is said to be the day that the hag (witch), will go out to gather her firewood for the rest of the year. If she wants winter to last much longer , she will make the weather beautiful on February first so as to have fine weather to gather her wood all day long. If she wants a quick end to winter, she will allow nasty weather as she won't need to be out long gathering wood, and will sleep most of the day.
Brigid is the goddess of poetry and healing. She is also associated with holy wells and sacred flames. Candles are lit to bring warmth and light on her day to welcome in the light and warmth of spring. Light a candle today for Brigid!
Happy February!
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C) 2012 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Monday, January 30, 2012
Always take on a new challenge
"Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young".
Henry Ford
Life is a series of lessons, but that doesn't mean that you need to sit back and wait for one to hit you square between the eyes. You can take on new things, and learn ahead of the lesson so that the lesson is not so hard. Most things that we learn from good parenting will serve us well through life, if we always keep in mind what our good parent would say in any situation. The problem is, that not everyone had good parenting.
There are also things that on the surface may seem more like "fun" things to learn. Classes that take just one or two days total, or a few months. Things that you learn for fun. Fun is an important part of life and the positive energy that you put into it. It is also full of value you may not see on the surface. Who did you meet in that class? What wisdom did they share? What other doors did it open for you? Was it something that had a huge impact, it could be! Not every moment has to be spent doing fun things, but we can make mundane things as fun as possible.
We need to always be learning, and achieving. Once we meet goals and challenges, it is OK to move on to other things. People can sometimes get stuck and overdo things. Think about it. How many figurines can you collect? How many miles can you run? How many dogs can you own? How many events of the same type can you attend for how many years? You stop learning, you get bored, you run out of room, you harm your wallet, you harm your body, and the worst part is you stagnate your spirit.
I used to collect things, it was the thrill of the hunt, but after a while you wonder where you are going to put it all! I used to run 6 miles , twice a week, then I thought....what am I going to do when I reach 10 miles? Where do I find the time? What am I doing to my knees, ankles, and ladies...seriously...breasts. It isn't good for you in that sense, and lord knows there are a bunch of other cardio workouts that are kinder on the body. It was better for me to "keep it fresh", and I did. I sold many of the collectibles , and took up cardio kick boxing (which is much more of a cardio workout than running). I used to know everything there was to know about Fords, especially Mustangs, I was a judge for the national Mustang group in several categories. I haven't take a car to a car show in years. I studied dance for 20 years, and even took guitar and piano lessons. I met some awesome, talented people. There is just so much to learn, know and do!
The wonderful thing about life, is that there are options. Check them out, see what they have to offer, learn something new.
Learning is the only way to stay fresh, young, alive, and to grow. That means taking on new things. This doesn't necessarily mean that you have to get rid of the old. You may have to drop some of the old things that aren't working for you anymore. You many have to make room for the new, figuratively and literally.
Life is about the energy that surrounds you. You want it to be healthy, positive, inquisitive, open, abundant, honest and FRESH. We don't want to walk around saying "all is good", nor do we want to walk around saying "the sky is falling", as I have written before, all things in moderation!
Part of that energy is a flow of learning. There is so much new coming to light during 2012. Be part of the wonderful new energy, not the stagnant old energy! Be fresh, energetic, new and abundant. Be wise.
Learn, research and grow!
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wold.May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission
Henry Ford
Life is a series of lessons, but that doesn't mean that you need to sit back and wait for one to hit you square between the eyes. You can take on new things, and learn ahead of the lesson so that the lesson is not so hard. Most things that we learn from good parenting will serve us well through life, if we always keep in mind what our good parent would say in any situation. The problem is, that not everyone had good parenting.
There are also things that on the surface may seem more like "fun" things to learn. Classes that take just one or two days total, or a few months. Things that you learn for fun. Fun is an important part of life and the positive energy that you put into it. It is also full of value you may not see on the surface. Who did you meet in that class? What wisdom did they share? What other doors did it open for you? Was it something that had a huge impact, it could be! Not every moment has to be spent doing fun things, but we can make mundane things as fun as possible.
We need to always be learning, and achieving. Once we meet goals and challenges, it is OK to move on to other things. People can sometimes get stuck and overdo things. Think about it. How many figurines can you collect? How many miles can you run? How many dogs can you own? How many events of the same type can you attend for how many years? You stop learning, you get bored, you run out of room, you harm your wallet, you harm your body, and the worst part is you stagnate your spirit.
I used to collect things, it was the thrill of the hunt, but after a while you wonder where you are going to put it all! I used to run 6 miles , twice a week, then I thought....what am I going to do when I reach 10 miles? Where do I find the time? What am I doing to my knees, ankles, and ladies...seriously...breasts. It isn't good for you in that sense, and lord knows there are a bunch of other cardio workouts that are kinder on the body. It was better for me to "keep it fresh", and I did. I sold many of the collectibles , and took up cardio kick boxing (which is much more of a cardio workout than running). I used to know everything there was to know about Fords, especially Mustangs, I was a judge for the national Mustang group in several categories. I haven't take a car to a car show in years. I studied dance for 20 years, and even took guitar and piano lessons. I met some awesome, talented people. There is just so much to learn, know and do!
The wonderful thing about life, is that there are options. Check them out, see what they have to offer, learn something new.
Learning is the only way to stay fresh, young, alive, and to grow. That means taking on new things. This doesn't necessarily mean that you have to get rid of the old. You may have to drop some of the old things that aren't working for you anymore. You many have to make room for the new, figuratively and literally.
Life is about the energy that surrounds you. You want it to be healthy, positive, inquisitive, open, abundant, honest and FRESH. We don't want to walk around saying "all is good", nor do we want to walk around saying "the sky is falling", as I have written before, all things in moderation!
Part of that energy is a flow of learning. There is so much new coming to light during 2012. Be part of the wonderful new energy, not the stagnant old energy! Be fresh, energetic, new and abundant. Be wise.
Learn, research and grow!
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wold.May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission
Friday, January 27, 2012
Obsessions can equal negative energy invasion
Obsessions are those things that control your life. They are things that if you do not do them, you have an increased amount of anxiety or guilt which disrupts your life. People are obsessed with many things, like people, food, exercise, and repetitive motions , to name a few.
There is a difference between really wanting to do something and NEEDING to do something. There is also an issue when the need is increased constantly. When two glasses of wine isn't enough, when one hour in the gym isn't enough, when hearing from your partner five times a day isn't enough...you have a problem.
Yesterday I watched Dr Phil talk about anorexia. Anorexia is all about control, any easting issue is. When I first learned of it back in high school it was talked about as simply an eating disorder, and yes, all about control. Today doctors realize there are other ways of having anorexia besides eating and vomiting. Some carefully count calories to a point where they are obsessive about it, and end up starving themselves. When they don't know the calorie count (maybe they are out eating with friends to put on a front), they vomit or take laxatives.It depletes not only protein , but iron, and other nutrients as the intestines never get a chance to absorb the iron and a whole set of other issues arises. There are sugar issues, and more and more and more physical problems arise. They also exercise themselves to death. Too much exercise and too little food doesn't build muscles, the opposite happens, the body eats its' own muscle. Ever see a person who diets excessively, works out every day and they have no muscle tone? Baggy eyes? They are slowly devouring themselves.
Obsessions are things that the person who has them, cannot see them for what they are. There are usually people around them though. They can be a help or an enabler. Enabling is terrible, and there are even websites now encouraging your girls to become anorexic. Seriously a sad state of affairs. The enabler is usually a parent, and sometimes a spouse as eating disorders and control issues are now popping up more and more in people over 30.
The 2012 Universal changes include taking better care of our bodies. It doesn't mean running a half marathon each day (like one anorexic on the show did until she got to the point where she was hospitalized). Don't over do things, ever. The key in life is moderation. In everything. It will be what keeps you stable. Don't overeat, over drink, over exercise, over do it in any way. When you go into the extreme energy, you are an open door to that energy which will and can take control of you. People ask how you can open yourself to negative , harmful energy, or even demonic invasion. This is the easiest way. Overdo things. Now, if you had a day where you worked too hard in the yard and your muscles ache, that isn't going to do it....but when you become obsessed, or worse yet, dependent on something that alters your behavior and way of thinking , you open the door to that "bad energy".
When people seem crazed by drugs and alcohol, that is a sort of possession. Not like "The Exorcist", but it is bad enough where their lives are controlled and they are not making rational choices that are good for themselves. The girls starving and exercising to the point where their muscles are eating themselves, is an invasion of energy that wants to harm you. You open the door wide to those things that are out there which are harmful to the body, mind and spirit. They never lived on this earth, and they don't live in "hell", but they do exist. They love to mess around with people.
Unhealthy habits should be avoided, that is common sense. Repetitive unhealthy habits can lead to a person swimming in energy that is beyond unhealthy, even to the point of danger. People who spend their lives drunk and high are open doors for partial and even full possession. It sounds crazy, but unfortunately it is true.
Do not allow your wants or desires to dictate your day. If you feel that you MUST do something, it is time to quickly wean yourself off of it, or it will take control of you. Good things like dieting, exercise, cleaning, working, and even religious worship , can becomes obsessions or reach an extreme that is unhealthy and dangerous.Just think of the religious extremists who bomb innocent people. Just because something is good for you, doesn't mean it is still good for you in excess.
Moderation is the key.
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.
There is a difference between really wanting to do something and NEEDING to do something. There is also an issue when the need is increased constantly. When two glasses of wine isn't enough, when one hour in the gym isn't enough, when hearing from your partner five times a day isn't enough...you have a problem.
Yesterday I watched Dr Phil talk about anorexia. Anorexia is all about control, any easting issue is. When I first learned of it back in high school it was talked about as simply an eating disorder, and yes, all about control. Today doctors realize there are other ways of having anorexia besides eating and vomiting. Some carefully count calories to a point where they are obsessive about it, and end up starving themselves. When they don't know the calorie count (maybe they are out eating with friends to put on a front), they vomit or take laxatives.It depletes not only protein , but iron, and other nutrients as the intestines never get a chance to absorb the iron and a whole set of other issues arises. There are sugar issues, and more and more and more physical problems arise. They also exercise themselves to death. Too much exercise and too little food doesn't build muscles, the opposite happens, the body eats its' own muscle. Ever see a person who diets excessively, works out every day and they have no muscle tone? Baggy eyes? They are slowly devouring themselves.
Obsessions are things that the person who has them, cannot see them for what they are. There are usually people around them though. They can be a help or an enabler. Enabling is terrible, and there are even websites now encouraging your girls to become anorexic. Seriously a sad state of affairs. The enabler is usually a parent, and sometimes a spouse as eating disorders and control issues are now popping up more and more in people over 30.
The 2012 Universal changes include taking better care of our bodies. It doesn't mean running a half marathon each day (like one anorexic on the show did until she got to the point where she was hospitalized). Don't over do things, ever. The key in life is moderation. In everything. It will be what keeps you stable. Don't overeat, over drink, over exercise, over do it in any way. When you go into the extreme energy, you are an open door to that energy which will and can take control of you. People ask how you can open yourself to negative , harmful energy, or even demonic invasion. This is the easiest way. Overdo things. Now, if you had a day where you worked too hard in the yard and your muscles ache, that isn't going to do it....but when you become obsessed, or worse yet, dependent on something that alters your behavior and way of thinking , you open the door to that "bad energy".
When people seem crazed by drugs and alcohol, that is a sort of possession. Not like "The Exorcist", but it is bad enough where their lives are controlled and they are not making rational choices that are good for themselves. The girls starving and exercising to the point where their muscles are eating themselves, is an invasion of energy that wants to harm you. You open the door wide to those things that are out there which are harmful to the body, mind and spirit. They never lived on this earth, and they don't live in "hell", but they do exist. They love to mess around with people.
Unhealthy habits should be avoided, that is common sense. Repetitive unhealthy habits can lead to a person swimming in energy that is beyond unhealthy, even to the point of danger. People who spend their lives drunk and high are open doors for partial and even full possession. It sounds crazy, but unfortunately it is true.
Do not allow your wants or desires to dictate your day. If you feel that you MUST do something, it is time to quickly wean yourself off of it, or it will take control of you. Good things like dieting, exercise, cleaning, working, and even religious worship , can becomes obsessions or reach an extreme that is unhealthy and dangerous.Just think of the religious extremists who bomb innocent people. Just because something is good for you, doesn't mean it is still good for you in excess.
Moderation is the key.
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Veil is getting thinner
The veil between this world and the next has always been thin to some of us. We are able to reach beyond and see, hear, and feel things that are not known on this side of the veil. There are some that can clearly converse with others on the other side and bring back information that is based on personal knowledge.
Part of the energetic change of 2012 is that the veil is getting thinner. It is believed to be thinner at certain times of the year like Samhain (Halloween), but this energetic change is part of the natural change for 2012.
I personally have noticed that some information that was not so easily accessible to me in the past, is more readily available. I have seen three "dead people", ghosts, apparitions, whatever you want to call them, in the past few months. Before that , I hadn't seen one in about 6 years. They are flashes that appear just long enough for me to get a clear picture and then they are gone. I am sure their appearances will be clearer and longer as time goes by.
People we know are coming to us either excited or nervous about some newly discovered abilities to "know things". Some of those who have been trying to increase their psychic muscles have told me that things really seem to be moving along now.
...and it is only January.
The other side of the veil is a place of not only those who have passed, but those who never were, and those who never lived in this dimension.It has familiar and unfamiliar, black shadow people for example, as part of its' domain.
There will be a lot of exciting new things this year, intuitively, energetically, and scientifically. It will be a wonderful time to be on either side of the veil!
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used , copied or reproduced without prior written permission.
Part of the energetic change of 2012 is that the veil is getting thinner. It is believed to be thinner at certain times of the year like Samhain (Halloween), but this energetic change is part of the natural change for 2012.
I personally have noticed that some information that was not so easily accessible to me in the past, is more readily available. I have seen three "dead people", ghosts, apparitions, whatever you want to call them, in the past few months. Before that , I hadn't seen one in about 6 years. They are flashes that appear just long enough for me to get a clear picture and then they are gone. I am sure their appearances will be clearer and longer as time goes by.
People we know are coming to us either excited or nervous about some newly discovered abilities to "know things". Some of those who have been trying to increase their psychic muscles have told me that things really seem to be moving along now.
...and it is only January.
The other side of the veil is a place of not only those who have passed, but those who never were, and those who never lived in this dimension.It has familiar and unfamiliar, black shadow people for example, as part of its' domain.
There will be a lot of exciting new things this year, intuitively, energetically, and scientifically. It will be a wonderful time to be on either side of the veil!
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used , copied or reproduced without prior written permission.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
How not to make people like you.
Yesterday was a day of people asking why they didn't have friends or a mate. They start off by giving what they think are the reasons, and those are very telling. They will regale you with how wonderful they are. The qualities they list tell you a lot about them and what is important to them.
When they don't have friends it is because those things that drive us can be over the top. Some people don't just do well at work or school, they excel, but not in a humble, hard working way. It is more along the lines of an invasion, a tromping of the competition and then a gloating, followed by a constant reiteration of how wonderful they are. Then we want to know why no one hangs with us around the water cooler or locker......Really?
Then there are the ones who had personal tragedies. We all heal in our own time, but when every time people see you or a certain situation comes up, they hear about when you had your surgery, your house burned down, your sister lost her infant baby, your husband died and left you penniless, your husband left you for that (insert nasty adjectives here) people get sick of the downer story . People cannot avoid conversations and about divorce, children, money, or accidents just because you are in the room. The "Oh woe is me" crap gets old REAL fast.
One ranted about the newspaper and missing people stories, her family member is missing, that is so very sad, but that means the local newspaper has to stop printing missiong person's stories??? Really? They bother you? DON'T READ THEM. People don't care to listen to ranting, crying and a diatribe about reopened wounds. When they keep reopening like that, you need COUNSELING. You will eventually have no friends, they feel sorry for you, but when you are a downer all the time, they won't want to be around you. People cannot constantly walk on eggshells trying to keep in mind what issues everyone in the room has, we would have to ban all conversations!
Then there was a person who was upset as when she went to parties someone always brought a food she was allergic to. She went on and on about how they could kill her. PULEEZE, when you have allergies that bad, eat before going, watch everything you put in your mouth. I have a food allergy that makes me very ill, none of my friends have made me sick , and apparently haven't killed me yet....But when you go to parties and tell everyone off about what food they brought, don't wonder why you don't get invited anymore. Did you really want to go? Of course you did, it gives you an audience to rant at!
Another person demands her boyfriends have a certain standing financially (this is a hot topic lately). That includes amount of investments, savings, credit score, earnings (there is a minimum for each), type of vehicle, and size home. Let me tell you about successful men who have those things...they don't allow a woman to tell them they have to have something, or a certain level or rating. They are independent, successful and strong and will find a pretty, sweet woman who thanks them for everything they give them, not a woman who has every gift appraised. The woman who says she was more and he has to make it to past her level, will be left lonely.
Friends, real friends are not people who you see at weekly functions , or are on your Facebook list. They are people that have been to your home, and you to theirs. They have laughed with you, cried with you, and know all about your story so you don't have to tell it to them ad nauseam. They hear things from you other than complaints, and they certainly don't hear the same complaint over and over. They are careful about your feelings, but do not wrap you in bubble wrap and sit you on 10 mattresses like the Princess in the The Princess and The Pea.
There are tragedies in every life. You don't always hear about people's tragedies, as some choose not to share them, and others know that sharing them constantly doesn't help, nor does it make people want to be around you. The world is not going to change for you just because you had something bad happen to you.That is not our job, God's job, the media's job, or your spouse's job. It is YOUR job. Everything happens for a reason, even bad things do. Every time. We need to deal with them, and move on. Some move on by being able to tuck it away, others move on by establishing altruistic organizations that help others faced with the same tragedy. Whining about it, does absolutely nothing productive. When the hurt just won't go away, you need help with that, and there is nothing wrong with getting counseling. You will be happier and the people around you will be happier.
When you want to know why you have no friends, partner, or anyone period in your life, then look hard at yourself. Are you scaring them away? Do you ramble on about your terrible thing that happened to you, compete with them to the virtual death, complain constantly about how nothing is good enough? Do you use your friends instead of being a friend?
The world is not here to pamper you. You are solely responsible for your happiness. You have choices always, you may not like them, but you do need to deal with them. People have compassion, but when that compassion is requested every time a situation comes up, it is time for you to learn how to not need that constant compassion.
There are people in wheelchairs playing basketball, and women with no arms taking care of their kids. There are millions of people missing family members due to unnecessary deaths like being the victims of drunk drivers. God isn't punishing you, he is challenging you, and when you do nothing but whine, you fail at the challenge.
People say "walk in my shoes", that works for a short while, then it becomes....if those shoes suck so much, why do you keep wearing them and complaining about them? Change them, and EVERY situation can be dealt with and changed.That is a cop out. We can feel your pain, but that doesn't mean we need to swim in it. Compassion doesn't mean enabling you to be a person who does nothing by cry their life away and wanting everyone else to do something to change it. YOU change it, or don't wonder why you have no one around you anymore. When you know you are hard to like, change what it is about you that makes you hard to like. All these people realized they were hard to like, but wanted others to change and adapt and like them. It doesn't work that way.
We all have bootstraps to pull ourselves up by.......do it, you will be amazed how much better you will feel and how many people come around to congratulate you!
Put on your big girl panties and deal! (Roz Van Meter)
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission
When they don't have friends it is because those things that drive us can be over the top. Some people don't just do well at work or school, they excel, but not in a humble, hard working way. It is more along the lines of an invasion, a tromping of the competition and then a gloating, followed by a constant reiteration of how wonderful they are. Then we want to know why no one hangs with us around the water cooler or locker......Really?
Then there are the ones who had personal tragedies. We all heal in our own time, but when every time people see you or a certain situation comes up, they hear about when you had your surgery, your house burned down, your sister lost her infant baby, your husband died and left you penniless, your husband left you for that (insert nasty adjectives here) people get sick of the downer story . People cannot avoid conversations and about divorce, children, money, or accidents just because you are in the room. The "Oh woe is me" crap gets old REAL fast.
One ranted about the newspaper and missing people stories, her family member is missing, that is so very sad, but that means the local newspaper has to stop printing missiong person's stories??? Really? They bother you? DON'T READ THEM. People don't care to listen to ranting, crying and a diatribe about reopened wounds. When they keep reopening like that, you need COUNSELING. You will eventually have no friends, they feel sorry for you, but when you are a downer all the time, they won't want to be around you. People cannot constantly walk on eggshells trying to keep in mind what issues everyone in the room has, we would have to ban all conversations!
Then there was a person who was upset as when she went to parties someone always brought a food she was allergic to. She went on and on about how they could kill her. PULEEZE, when you have allergies that bad, eat before going, watch everything you put in your mouth. I have a food allergy that makes me very ill, none of my friends have made me sick , and apparently haven't killed me yet....But when you go to parties and tell everyone off about what food they brought, don't wonder why you don't get invited anymore. Did you really want to go? Of course you did, it gives you an audience to rant at!
Another person demands her boyfriends have a certain standing financially (this is a hot topic lately). That includes amount of investments, savings, credit score, earnings (there is a minimum for each), type of vehicle, and size home. Let me tell you about successful men who have those things...they don't allow a woman to tell them they have to have something, or a certain level or rating. They are independent, successful and strong and will find a pretty, sweet woman who thanks them for everything they give them, not a woman who has every gift appraised. The woman who says she was more and he has to make it to past her level, will be left lonely.
Friends, real friends are not people who you see at weekly functions , or are on your Facebook list. They are people that have been to your home, and you to theirs. They have laughed with you, cried with you, and know all about your story so you don't have to tell it to them ad nauseam. They hear things from you other than complaints, and they certainly don't hear the same complaint over and over. They are careful about your feelings, but do not wrap you in bubble wrap and sit you on 10 mattresses like the Princess in the The Princess and The Pea.
There are tragedies in every life. You don't always hear about people's tragedies, as some choose not to share them, and others know that sharing them constantly doesn't help, nor does it make people want to be around you. The world is not going to change for you just because you had something bad happen to you.That is not our job, God's job, the media's job, or your spouse's job. It is YOUR job. Everything happens for a reason, even bad things do. Every time. We need to deal with them, and move on. Some move on by being able to tuck it away, others move on by establishing altruistic organizations that help others faced with the same tragedy. Whining about it, does absolutely nothing productive. When the hurt just won't go away, you need help with that, and there is nothing wrong with getting counseling. You will be happier and the people around you will be happier.
When you want to know why you have no friends, partner, or anyone period in your life, then look hard at yourself. Are you scaring them away? Do you ramble on about your terrible thing that happened to you, compete with them to the virtual death, complain constantly about how nothing is good enough? Do you use your friends instead of being a friend?
The world is not here to pamper you. You are solely responsible for your happiness. You have choices always, you may not like them, but you do need to deal with them. People have compassion, but when that compassion is requested every time a situation comes up, it is time for you to learn how to not need that constant compassion.
There are people in wheelchairs playing basketball, and women with no arms taking care of their kids. There are millions of people missing family members due to unnecessary deaths like being the victims of drunk drivers. God isn't punishing you, he is challenging you, and when you do nothing but whine, you fail at the challenge.
People say "walk in my shoes", that works for a short while, then it becomes....if those shoes suck so much, why do you keep wearing them and complaining about them? Change them, and EVERY situation can be dealt with and changed.That is a cop out. We can feel your pain, but that doesn't mean we need to swim in it. Compassion doesn't mean enabling you to be a person who does nothing by cry their life away and wanting everyone else to do something to change it. YOU change it, or don't wonder why you have no one around you anymore. When you know you are hard to like, change what it is about you that makes you hard to like. All these people realized they were hard to like, but wanted others to change and adapt and like them. It doesn't work that way.
We all have bootstraps to pull ourselves up by.......do it, you will be amazed how much better you will feel and how many people come around to congratulate you!
Put on your big girl panties and deal! (Roz Van Meter)
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Abortion. A personal choice.
This was a topic on the front page of the newspaper today. It is a hot button with many people, especially those from the Roman Catholic church. It, like any topic of such seriousness, gets people's blood pressure up. It gets mine up, but not because I see abortion as a terrible thing, but I see the local diocese wasting tens of thousands of dollars trying to tell other people what to do based on a religion that they may not even belong to.
Like most large life issues, abortion isn't black or white, good or evil. It is grey. There are times when it is even a medical necessity. The Catholic church will have you believe it is a sin, always, and you are a very bad , evil person if you have or perform an abortion. Apparently however it is OK according to the actions of the RC Church , and actions always speak louder than words, that we can kill, maim, torture, in the name of Catholicism. Have wars in the name of it.Force people off of their land and into religious schools and churches, separating families, and destroying cultures that were a million times more spiritual that the people beating them when they refused to recite catechisms. Turn away people who need help because they aren't Catholic, or better yet, prosecute them for being Pagans. Deny help to the Jews and others, because after all the Holocaust apparently never happened( according to the RC Church). It's also apparently OK to allow people to get away with rape and molestation of children. So far, I wouldn't allow the Church to decide what day to celebrate Christmas on.
I find it hard to think that God looks at these actions as doing his good works. I really don't think God believes the RC Church has a track record of good decisions and behavior.
Whether you believe that abortion is a good idea or not, a sin or not, is up to you and something that you need to hold sacred in your life. It is NOT however something a religious institution should be deciding for the whole country. We have Catholics here and we are all more than happy to not bomb your homes or kill your OBGYNs so that you can have all the babies you want. Please return the favor. There are Muslims, Protestants, Baptists, Taoists, Jews, Buddhists, Atheists, Shintoists, Native Americans, and every other belief system and religion on this planet living in this country. Know why? Because we founded this country on separation of church and state. Whether you are for it or against it, I really don't care. I care that people are able to practice their beliefs in peace, but the Catholic Church always has that "Holier than Thou" attitude which attempts to not allow others to practice their beliefs in peace.
The Church needs to keep its' nose out of politics because everyone in this country is not Catholic. People have their own accord with their Supreme Being.
I know two people in my life who had abortions. I totally agree with their decisions. One was totally unable to healthfully have the child, basically it most likely would have killed her. The other had a pregnancy where the child had many physical and mental defects which would have prevented a quality of life. The child was better off on the other side with God where it would be healthy, and the woman, thank God she is still with us. She runs a battered woman's shelter in another state.
To me it isn't about pro or anti abortion, to me it is about a religious institution shoving its beliefs down other people's throats. It is about taking away the very platform this country was built on, and it is about an institution who's track record sucks, trying to tell the rest of us how to live. They talk about saving babies lives, is that to make up for the 125,000 tortured, many to death, during the Spanish Inquisition, or maybe the 11 to 17 MILLION killed during the Holocaust (who were not just Jews by the way) that the Church refused to recognize was happening. Maybe it is to make up for the 60,000 children of "savages" that they felt needed to be removed from their Native American families,and "educated" . That doesn't include missionary work all over the world, or the fact that just about every war fought on this globe was based in religion. Now, not every was a Catholic war, but many were. Is it about making up for the 4,392 priests and other church members that molested children (and each molested multiple children, multiple times, so that number doesn't represent the number of molestations, it is much higher)?
The point is that the Catholic Church is the last institution that should be in charge of anything, or making decisions for large groups of people. The point is the Catholic Church has a bad habit of sticking it's nose where it doesn't belong, and then if you don't go along with their bad decision they will torture, kill, remove, or rape you.
Now please, all you Catholics out there, don't waste time telling me that you will pray for me, or that your religion is wonderful. I am sure that you think so, or you wouldn't be part of it. But please allow the rest of the world the same courtesy. Keep your nose out of people's private lives, as long as they are not storming your churches, burning your altars, bombing your diocese, or any other things that you have done to abortion clinics, (see the world gives you the respect you don't give them!), then leave them alone. Practice banning abortion in the Catholic Church, but leave the rest of the world out of it. God will straighten the rest of us out.
There are a lot of wise and good people on this planet who are put in very difficult situations on a daily basis. People don't have abortions because it seems like fun. People have abortions because they are put in situations that don't leave other options for them, and before you go off on adoption as an option, there are already 129,000 children in the US alone awaiting adoption. Feel free to fill out an application and become part of the solution instead of part of the problem.
Let people make decisions about their bodies based on their relationship to the world and to their belief system, not yours.
Always stand up for your rights, but never to shove them down another person's throat.
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission
Like most large life issues, abortion isn't black or white, good or evil. It is grey. There are times when it is even a medical necessity. The Catholic church will have you believe it is a sin, always, and you are a very bad , evil person if you have or perform an abortion. Apparently however it is OK according to the actions of the RC Church , and actions always speak louder than words, that we can kill, maim, torture, in the name of Catholicism. Have wars in the name of it.Force people off of their land and into religious schools and churches, separating families, and destroying cultures that were a million times more spiritual that the people beating them when they refused to recite catechisms. Turn away people who need help because they aren't Catholic, or better yet, prosecute them for being Pagans. Deny help to the Jews and others, because after all the Holocaust apparently never happened( according to the RC Church). It's also apparently OK to allow people to get away with rape and molestation of children. So far, I wouldn't allow the Church to decide what day to celebrate Christmas on.
I find it hard to think that God looks at these actions as doing his good works. I really don't think God believes the RC Church has a track record of good decisions and behavior.
Whether you believe that abortion is a good idea or not, a sin or not, is up to you and something that you need to hold sacred in your life. It is NOT however something a religious institution should be deciding for the whole country. We have Catholics here and we are all more than happy to not bomb your homes or kill your OBGYNs so that you can have all the babies you want. Please return the favor. There are Muslims, Protestants, Baptists, Taoists, Jews, Buddhists, Atheists, Shintoists, Native Americans, and every other belief system and religion on this planet living in this country. Know why? Because we founded this country on separation of church and state. Whether you are for it or against it, I really don't care. I care that people are able to practice their beliefs in peace, but the Catholic Church always has that "Holier than Thou" attitude which attempts to not allow others to practice their beliefs in peace.
The Church needs to keep its' nose out of politics because everyone in this country is not Catholic. People have their own accord with their Supreme Being.
I know two people in my life who had abortions. I totally agree with their decisions. One was totally unable to healthfully have the child, basically it most likely would have killed her. The other had a pregnancy where the child had many physical and mental defects which would have prevented a quality of life. The child was better off on the other side with God where it would be healthy, and the woman, thank God she is still with us. She runs a battered woman's shelter in another state.
To me it isn't about pro or anti abortion, to me it is about a religious institution shoving its beliefs down other people's throats. It is about taking away the very platform this country was built on, and it is about an institution who's track record sucks, trying to tell the rest of us how to live. They talk about saving babies lives, is that to make up for the 125,000 tortured, many to death, during the Spanish Inquisition, or maybe the 11 to 17 MILLION killed during the Holocaust (who were not just Jews by the way) that the Church refused to recognize was happening. Maybe it is to make up for the 60,000 children of "savages" that they felt needed to be removed from their Native American families,and "educated" . That doesn't include missionary work all over the world, or the fact that just about every war fought on this globe was based in religion. Now, not every was a Catholic war, but many were. Is it about making up for the 4,392 priests and other church members that molested children (and each molested multiple children, multiple times, so that number doesn't represent the number of molestations, it is much higher)?
The point is that the Catholic Church is the last institution that should be in charge of anything, or making decisions for large groups of people. The point is the Catholic Church has a bad habit of sticking it's nose where it doesn't belong, and then if you don't go along with their bad decision they will torture, kill, remove, or rape you.
Now please, all you Catholics out there, don't waste time telling me that you will pray for me, or that your religion is wonderful. I am sure that you think so, or you wouldn't be part of it. But please allow the rest of the world the same courtesy. Keep your nose out of people's private lives, as long as they are not storming your churches, burning your altars, bombing your diocese, or any other things that you have done to abortion clinics, (see the world gives you the respect you don't give them!), then leave them alone. Practice banning abortion in the Catholic Church, but leave the rest of the world out of it. God will straighten the rest of us out.
There are a lot of wise and good people on this planet who are put in very difficult situations on a daily basis. People don't have abortions because it seems like fun. People have abortions because they are put in situations that don't leave other options for them, and before you go off on adoption as an option, there are already 129,000 children in the US alone awaiting adoption. Feel free to fill out an application and become part of the solution instead of part of the problem.
Let people make decisions about their bodies based on their relationship to the world and to their belief system, not yours.
Always stand up for your rights, but never to shove them down another person's throat.
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission
Monday, January 23, 2012
Doing the right thing.....
I had an online discussion yesterday with two colleagues about doing the right thing. To some people that means what boils down to "covering your ass". They aren't the same thing. Doing the right thing means going to the mat. To do what needs to be done, no matter how difficult, time consuming, disrupting or unpopular. Covering your ass means doing the minimum to make sure that when things go sideways, and they always will eventually, you have an excuse. Not a reason, an excuse to show you tried. You gave it a shot, not your best, but you gave it a shot. Excuses are NOT good enough. Neither is covering your ass.
Doing the right thing doesn't mean doing a popular thing, or a fun thing, or taking the easy way out. It may mean a big mess for other people , some who may be friends, but it is always the right thing that needs to be done, not the "half way thing".
When people get caught, it is amazing the energy they suddenly put into things. Energy that should have been spent in the beginning of things, that would have made it all right. We have noticed in four different incidences over the past few days , how people when caught out, act so ridiculously.I watched adults make nonsensical statements, repeat the same thing over and over (that is when you know that the person doesn't have a good argument or a leg to stand on), then resort to personal attacks (that is always when you know you have them), and then when you say, OK, I am getting nowhere, they make a big deal about how righteous they are to stop the discussion that is getting out of hand (they still want to look like the hero AND get in the last word). I saw grown men act so dramatic, nasty and over the top I had to wonder what their mental state was....and we all know you can't argue with a crazy person or an idiot.
It always worries me when I see fanaticism in people. They stop thinking, they don't want to see, they just spew, and spew. They make no sense, and they lower themselves to anything in order to make themselves feel better by reiterating a moot point. They tell you how stupid you are about a point yo uare well aware of, but know means nothing. They hold on to any thin thread they can to make themselves feel better.
Then there is the other way you know the person is a total idiot not worth arguing with, they resort to things like "F You", or something else that just comes out of anger, not a thinking human.
The old me would then pull out all the stops and verbally pummel an idiot into the ground making them scream for mercy, the new me knows it doesn't do a lick of good , but give me personal satisfaction. I, like everyone else, have to answer to a higher power. So I take the High Road. It sometimes seems that you didn't get any sense across, but when people start doing the repeat and personal attack things, you know you hit a nerve, and that they got the message, even though they don't want to admit it. They may rationalize it away, which is simply their loss, or they may actually have a little light bulb come on over their heads in a few days. We can only hope for the latter.
Arguing with idiots just wastes time and energy that you could use doing something else. It is comical to me when I step away and they keep going on and on for hours. That is when I know I won that battle. So our little group laughed at the mindlessness that we had found in peoplelately, shared our stories, and a national story or two, and then went on and had a great day while others continued to bang their heads into the wall.
You cannot have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. You cannot change a fanatic's mind because their mind is not functioning at all in the matter. You are just wasting your time telling people something they DON'T want to hear.
The fun part of this was as psychics, to tune into the situations, and try to get at hidden truths. We all came back with similar unknown information on the different subjects we were having arguments with unarmed people about. Being that we all came up with the same information makes it intriguing. We can't check with the people involved , they would have to incriminate themselves, and some are beyond my reach to verify, I would need a medium....but then it makes sense. We are psychic, duh, so it would make sense that the concept we had about something was right. We are all also college grads, two of us PhDs, and we know how to research, and find info with our heads instead of our hearts.
But besides taking the high road, there is one more little tidbit to remember. Karma. It can be a bitch. I think it played a huge roll in one person's life that we were discussing yesterday. Actually I am sure. Then there is the ultimate Karma, in the end, we all have to answer for our actions. Everyone. No matter how powerful, rich, successful you were in this life, you are right there with everyone else in the end. No perks.The Universe doesn't care about your success, it cares about how and why you achieved it.
No matter who you were.
Do the right things for the right reasons.
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission
Doing the right thing doesn't mean doing a popular thing, or a fun thing, or taking the easy way out. It may mean a big mess for other people , some who may be friends, but it is always the right thing that needs to be done, not the "half way thing".
When people get caught, it is amazing the energy they suddenly put into things. Energy that should have been spent in the beginning of things, that would have made it all right. We have noticed in four different incidences over the past few days , how people when caught out, act so ridiculously.I watched adults make nonsensical statements, repeat the same thing over and over (that is when you know that the person doesn't have a good argument or a leg to stand on), then resort to personal attacks (that is always when you know you have them), and then when you say, OK, I am getting nowhere, they make a big deal about how righteous they are to stop the discussion that is getting out of hand (they still want to look like the hero AND get in the last word). I saw grown men act so dramatic, nasty and over the top I had to wonder what their mental state was....and we all know you can't argue with a crazy person or an idiot.
It always worries me when I see fanaticism in people. They stop thinking, they don't want to see, they just spew, and spew. They make no sense, and they lower themselves to anything in order to make themselves feel better by reiterating a moot point. They tell you how stupid you are about a point yo uare well aware of, but know means nothing. They hold on to any thin thread they can to make themselves feel better.
Then there is the other way you know the person is a total idiot not worth arguing with, they resort to things like "F You", or something else that just comes out of anger, not a thinking human.
The old me would then pull out all the stops and verbally pummel an idiot into the ground making them scream for mercy, the new me knows it doesn't do a lick of good , but give me personal satisfaction. I, like everyone else, have to answer to a higher power. So I take the High Road. It sometimes seems that you didn't get any sense across, but when people start doing the repeat and personal attack things, you know you hit a nerve, and that they got the message, even though they don't want to admit it. They may rationalize it away, which is simply their loss, or they may actually have a little light bulb come on over their heads in a few days. We can only hope for the latter.
Arguing with idiots just wastes time and energy that you could use doing something else. It is comical to me when I step away and they keep going on and on for hours. That is when I know I won that battle. So our little group laughed at the mindlessness that we had found in peoplelately, shared our stories, and a national story or two, and then went on and had a great day while others continued to bang their heads into the wall.
You cannot have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. You cannot change a fanatic's mind because their mind is not functioning at all in the matter. You are just wasting your time telling people something they DON'T want to hear.
The fun part of this was as psychics, to tune into the situations, and try to get at hidden truths. We all came back with similar unknown information on the different subjects we were having arguments with unarmed people about. Being that we all came up with the same information makes it intriguing. We can't check with the people involved , they would have to incriminate themselves, and some are beyond my reach to verify, I would need a medium....but then it makes sense. We are psychic, duh, so it would make sense that the concept we had about something was right. We are all also college grads, two of us PhDs, and we know how to research, and find info with our heads instead of our hearts.
But besides taking the high road, there is one more little tidbit to remember. Karma. It can be a bitch. I think it played a huge roll in one person's life that we were discussing yesterday. Actually I am sure. Then there is the ultimate Karma, in the end, we all have to answer for our actions. Everyone. No matter how powerful, rich, successful you were in this life, you are right there with everyone else in the end. No perks.The Universe doesn't care about your success, it cares about how and why you achieved it.
No matter who you were.
Do the right things for the right reasons.
Peshaui Wequashimese
(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission
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