Depending on others, can we?

We hope that in this life people can be depended upon. That when people say they are going to do something, that they do it. Most of us tend to keep those types of people around us, so it is easy to do most of the time.

Then there are the times when we make plans, or try to accomplish something and the person who we are doing that for, somehow jerks the rug out from under us. It happens, and when it does, the first thing you need to do, is say "this won't happen again". Life is too short to waste on people who are ill prepared, not of their word, or change their minds midstream without giving you a clue this may happen. When people go back on their word, never trust them again.

I am a very generous person. I don't have much to give, but I always give what I can financially, time-wise and attention-wise. I NEVER leave someone hanging, nor waste their time. NEVER.
When this happens to me, it is something that not only upsets me, but you can guarantee that the next time you need my help, I won't be available. Life is too short and too many people need a hand.

When you find that there are people in your life who do not keep their word, who ask you to do something requiring time, money, or energy, and then say "never mind", then do not ever promise that person help again. They will not change, the same scenario will play out. When you are on the other side of things, make it easy for people to assist you , and accept help gracefully. A friend yesterday who was in a similar situation said he told the person who was jerking him around, "beggars can't be choosers" and he felt badly about saying that. I told him, not to feel bad, that and MORE was warranted. The old saying means, if you want help, accept the help, don't make demands and order people around, tell them how to do what they are doing, and claim the help isn't good enough.

I have seen so many people act poorly over the last several days, I am trying to chalk it up to something energetic.  I don't know though...I think people just aren't as "stand up" as they used to be. I think we live in a world of "instant gratification", and that dictates how people react.

I spent the last several months preparing to help a friend, who now says..."never mind", and there is a similar situation on the burner. There is the man I spoke to yesterday who is being told how to do what he is skilled at, by a person who needs help and doesn't have a clue. There is a female friend who wrote to me about a project that was cancelled, and the people didn't bother to tell her. She was still working on it.

My time is precious. My husband's time is also. Everyone's time is precious, it is something that you can NEVER get back. When people are doing something the right way, the way they have been taught, trained, or instructed, don't tell them it isn't good enough, or that they have to do it your way. Don't insult people like that, nor take away their free will and force them into your mold. Take people as they are, teach if need be, but don't try to make them be in your same mold. If we were all the same, the world would be a boring place.

There is much to accomplish in this world, both in the practical world and in the spiritual world.
Get things done. Get them done well, and make sure that while doing so , you waste no one's precious time.

Make sure that you can depend on the person you are working with.When they show they are undependable, don't help/work with them anymore. Don't waste anyone's time, and don't allow them to waste yours. 


Do the right things for the right reasons!





Peshaui Wequashimese




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