Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Soulmate. Metaphysicians in the know , know better.

The most hated word for those of us who were born psychic is the word "soulmate". There are times when you know people are not using it in the spiritual sense, they just mean that they found the love of their lives, their best partner, they are happy, and don't have a complaint in the world. That is a good thing.

Then there are the people who have romanticized the word. It has become a word that justifies their desire and determination to be with a person no matter what, even if they are not interested. The word has become an excuse for obsession, a celestial reason to stalk. 

There is no ONE person you MUST be with for your entire life. It isn't reality. How could a God of any belief system, who gave us free will, then say that" He" gets to pick your closest and most intimate relationship?  He doesn't. You have free will. There are people in our soul group, 111 others there for learning from, teaching, having relationships with, being close friends with, being relatives to. You have a few choices in that bunch. You make the choice out of free will, not the Universe.

Sometimes people ask if they will ever be in a long term relationship. Most will, some won't. Some CHOOSE to spend their lives unmarried, unattached, and alone. It is unusual, but not THAT unusual.
I can however guarantee you that the person you are chasing after, who is married, or who keeps changing their phone number, is NOT a person the Universe deems you are supposed to be with.

 The next question is always "what do they look like", so that they can recognize them. You won't recognize them by me telling you they are tall, with dark hair and wear glasses. I just described a billion people. Don't worry about what they look like. Worry about living your life, and it will happen without you chasing down every tall, dark haired person! The point is , there is not that ONE person out there. So, if your relationship will happen in two years, the Universe doesn't have ONE person standing around waiting for you to get your act together. You can be late, a slow developer who isn't learning the lessons and making the changes that you need to make. We usually don't have a relationship because there is something we need to do. When we sit around for 2 years and dream about the tall , dark haired person and get nothing done in the way of personal growth, the time line just went out another two years! What the Universe has is a plan, it will send the person who is ready, and on the same wavelength (if you have done your work), OR it may send someone who will "teach you a lesson" if you haven't done the work!

We are attracted to people for all kinds of reasons. Unless they feel the EXACT same way about you, it is doomed to failure. It may not even start, or it may last 10 years depending on many factors, but it won't work. Maybe the word soulmate should have as its' definition "two people who are equally determined to be with each other; doing whatever they can for each other without losing themselves in the process, in a relationship full of respect, passion, and love." It certainly isn't "someone you are destined to be with".

We may have Karma to work out with someone, but that doesn't make them a "soulmate". Karmic relationships sound like a good thing, but Karma is always about learning a lesson, so at least for one of you, it WON'T be a good thing....well it will be "good" as in you will resolve Karma and learn a lesson, but that is rarely pleasurable.

"Soulmate" has become a word that those who are not in the know, who learned their craft through New Age websites and "over the top" books, used for luring in the brokenhearted, those who are pining away for someone and will do anything to be with them are a goldmine for the shysters out there. They aren't people to help, they are dollar signs. Some readers who use that word mean well, they just are as romanticized as their clients and live in a dream world of unreality, others just know they can suck your pocket dry.

There are people who are most important in our lives at a specific time. It is always for a lesson, but not a Karmic one. Karmic lessons are usually ugly, life lessons where we have done no wrong and we are experiencing different situations, are not. We need people in our lives to learn our life lessons. Love, sharing, loneliness (you can't know loneliness without knowing companionship!), charity, pain, help, family, cooperation, etc. We can't learn them in a vacuum. We need others.

The romanticism of a "soulmate" relationship is nice, but it isn't reality, just because you are so attracted to a person you can't stop thinking about them, doesn't mean it is supposed to be a realtionship. How selfish would that be! Sometimes these attractions happen for a reason, maybe a catalyst for you to get out of a bad marriage, get your life together, or your finances in better order. Maybe they are in a field you are supposed to enter, but never is it because you are supposed to have sex with them.

There are people who we find in life that are our perfect match. I have mine and I know people who have theirs. They exist, they may even call their partners their "soulmates" in a way meaning they are perfectly happy, and life is good. However, that doesn't mean that some higher being picked that person for them, it sounds nice, it would make a great movie, but THEY picked their partners, and the important part is that their partners ALSO picked them!

When you need to stalk, chase, lie, coerce, and bully; when the person is married, in a relationship; totally uninterested; when they hide when you walk in the room.....they are NOT in any way, shape or form, your soulmate !

We had people make up the disasters of the Mayan prophecies.They wrote books galore, gave classes on how to survive, and attuned people to the stars. A bunch of crap, that is all it was,  Dec 2012 has passed, and no tidal waves. Put the "soulmates" in that same trash can and toss it out to the curb. Find a real and realistic relationship of a person who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them! You need to do the work, and you each need to choose each other.



Peshaui Wequashimese





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