Monday, July 30, 2012

My way or the Highway....

My way or the highway.

How often have you received that kind of response from someone? The answer should be "never" because we all should know better than to be associated with people like that.There are times when there are ways something should be done, but rarely do these words rise in those instances. They arise because someone wants their way, and doesn't want to hear your perfectly good argument why they can't have it their way.

There was only one time in my life when I heard a version of these words. I don't hang out with bullies nor even begin to condone their behavior, so I don't get into those situations. I told the person who said the words....then have fun doing this alone. It was my boss, and after working 10 hours in the Las Vegas heat without a break, I was walking inside to get a drink. She said "If you do not pick up this person right now, I will get someone who can." Funny words from a person who worked in a branch staffed by two people, me and her. I told her, I am getting a drink of water, and if you get in my way, you are not going to be happy, then have fun doing this alone. I went and got my drink. I then when and picked up the person, and quit the next day. When the big boss found out what happened, she was fired, after all, if I passed out driving a customer back from their home....

Never , ever give in to threats. It may mean not doing something at all because you want to walk away, but it is always better in the long run. General principal says we should never give in to bullies anyway.

The opposite side of this is not to threaten or coerce anyone. Do not make idle threats, and when you give ultimatums, be prepared for people to accept them. So many clients give ultimatums that they will leave their partner, the partner says, "ok go", and they never really wanted the partner to go. Now the relationship is permanently damaged. The partner may be totally fed up, or will never listen to your ultimatums again.

We are not here to make people do what we want them to do. We can counsel, teach, ask, and even debate, but in the long run, you have to allow people to make the decisions that they want to make and act on them. No one rules this universe that lives on this planet!


Do the right things FOR THE RIGHT REASONS!



Peshaui Wequashimese




(C)2012 Dr. R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Books

People are always writing asking, "What book should I read for_____"?
The blank is filled by many things metaphysical, and some not. I am a voracious reader. I LOVE books...There are MANY books on these subjects, but these are good to get started. Here are a couple of suggestions I have made lately:

Little daily positive focus statements:
Messages from the Universe- Mike Dooley

Parapsychology:
It is old, but still a great book to read, then read more current info:
 ESP, Hauntings and Poltergeists- Loyd Auerbach

Reiki:
Reiki a Comprehensive Guide- Pamela Miles

Reincarnation:
Life Beyond- Hans Holzer

Tarot History:
Encyclopedia of Tarot- Stuart R Kaplan (there are several volumes)

Tarot card definitions:
The Tarot Directory- Annie Lionnet
The Tarot - Cynthia Giles

Crystals:
The Crystal Bible Vol 1 & 2- Judy Hall


Metaphysical explained by String Theory or other scientific means-
The Field- Lynne Mc Taggart
Psychology and the Occult- C Jung
Jung The Mystic-Gary Lachman

Your guides, helpers, etc.
Spirit Allies- Christopher Penczak

Focusing on the now, not worrying-
The Power of Now- Eckhart Tolle

Science/metaphysics of the afterlife:
Spook- Mary Roach

These are just ones to start with, if you read all of these you will have a great basis for what goes on, however I would also recommend reading books from other cultures like the Tibetan Book of the Dead, The Tao Te Ching, Bhagavad Gita, etc. When you try to operate from any one specific viewpoint whether Christianity, Judaism, etc., you miss much, this also pertains to Native American spirituality, you need to really see things from a whole different perspective to understand it well. That doesn't mean feeling sorry for the Native Americans, it means seeing things from their viewpoint, which in many times is VERY hard for non- Natives.

There is a whole world out there, and books open the door to it.

One more thing to toss in on the mundane side.

Mysteries with a little humorous twist:
Read the series by Martha Grimes featuring Richard Jury.

When you want to learn a bit of the Navajo culture while reading crime novels:
Read Tony Hillerman's books with Joe Leaphorn and Jim Chee.

Then there is the King, Stephen King. He is one of the best story tellers out there..actually THE best. When horror isn't your thing, he has other books to tantalize you. The Dark Tower series for science fiction lovers, or books like ,The Girl Who Loved Tom Gordon, Under The Dome, The Green Mile or Lisey's Story.They are about people and situations far out of the ordinary, but still in the here and now of this world.

Read...learn and grow!





Peshaui Wequashimese




(C)2012 Dr R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

More reader questions!

OK, some more reader email came in that are hard to make "whole blogs" out of, so we will just round them all together and make a "miscellaneous" blog! Here we go!

How can you tell if an EVP is residual or intelligent? You cannot always know for sure. The best way is to think about what is going on in the EVP session. When in doubt, however, call it residual. When you are having an EVP session and you ask something (like I did at Villisca), "How many spirits are here in the room?", and get the answer "one" . That is intelligent. I went on to ask if it was female...no answer, and asked how many male spirits, and again have an EVP saying "one".

I have EVPs of singing and drumming (Whispers) or babies crying (Carpenter House). They are usually residual. They are just going on no matter if I am there or not. When you get a voice, do not try to make the reply fit your questions. I have seen people with EVPs and Spirit Boxes do more creative/on the spot writing, than Stephen King. When it doesn't fit, it is OK, it is still an EVP, just call it residual.

The other factor for determining is, if you have a psychic or medium with you who tells you that there is an old woman who is angry, and you get an old woman voice saying "get out" you know it is probably intelligent. When there is no male spirit detected and you hear a male voice say "Let's go now!", you know it is probably residual.


Where is the scariest place you have ever been? 

My haunted bedroom as a ten year old.
Since then, I have bumped into "bad stuff" in a cemetery in Indiana, and a clearing in the woods used for who knows what. A big Black Shadow Person strolling down my hallway in NM scared the crap out of me, but that is because I thought someone had broken into my house.That house was creepier than the one I grew up in.

 Things have startled me (things moving and your name being chanted over and over being the creepiest), but flat out scared, not since I was a little kid. Things can make me uncomfortable, but that allows me to know that there is "negative" stuff going on, and now that I know how to address it, it isn't so scary anymore.

People local to IN / KY, try Waverly, it has some creepy moments!
 

What was the most interesting class you ever took?
Reiki (all three levels)


Ever see a full body apparition?
Sure, several times, most recent one was who I assume was Willard Carpenter in Evansville.

Do animals always react to ghosts?
No. Sometimes they just think they are another person in the room. It depends on the intelligence and temperament of the animal, and how the spirit reacts to it, just like a real person.


How many metaphysical/spiritual classes have you taken?
That is a tough one. That I can think of off the top of my head...ten different classes that were major ones, or ones that went on for several days. There was also 2 years spent on my Masters and Doctorate. Short ones...day or less, I have NO idea! 


Have you ever studied mediumship?
I have taken a class, but don't feel that I got anything from it. I know I have had spirits come and talk to me twice in my life, both times I was not ready, and it scared me half to death, maybe the third time will be a charm.

I read the Tao te Ching every day to keep positive. Is there another book that is great for quick pick me ups?
Notes From the Universe- Mike Dooley

How long have you been doing psychic work?
I began helping others at age 11, although I was psychic when I was born.I began working part time in the metaphysical eight years ago, and have worked full time in the metaphysical for almost Seven years. So, over 40 years.

That is it for now!
Keep the questions coming in!!!

Peshaui Wequashimese


(C)2012 Dr R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Don't wait for the Universe to fix it!

One of the hot topics in the news is the Penn State sexual abuse scandal. The NCAA sent a strong message including sanctions against the school. Some do not understand why the whole program is punished because of the acts of one man. Simple answer. There may have been sexual acts by one man, however it was either actively or passively condoned by many.

About 30-40 years ago collegiate sports was a hot topic. There were schools that were doing anything and everything to get prime players and win games. Why? Trophies? Bragging rights? No. Money. Sponsorship. New buildings, and bigger salaries for those who ran the schools. It was a trickle down effect at its' best (or worse). There was a big crackdown, and much, but not all, of that big money manipulation when down the drain.The rules today are much different than years ago.

Now we have a totally different issue. A man who used the football program as his own little harem for sexual deviancy. The problem is, when you have a person like that in your presence, you have a huge problem. He (or she) needs to be immediately, totally, and completely cut out of the program, and prosecuted. There are no other correct options. Penn State chose to look the other way at first, then they tossed him out, but allowed him access to the stadium, fields, and showers where he committed his crimes! Just to save face! The face saving was due to wanting to keep that $50 million or so per year flowing into the Penn State coffers, not something to sneeze at, but you cannot put a price on a young person being abused.

Investigations show what anyone with common sense knew all along. Other people knew, they tried to put a band aid on things. They told other people in the circle, but no one did a THING to stop more children from being abused. Their focus was SAVE THE MONEY, instead of SAVE THE KIDS!

Abusers FREQUENTLY choose jobs and volunteer positions that put them in constant presence of young people. They are your teachers, coaches, scout leaders....it is a shame what they do to the reputation of all the really good people who want to help kids, but they are most usually in these types of positions.

Years of trying to sweep the problem under the rug made more and more opportunity for more boys to be abused. Jerry Sandusky was in heaven. Money, young boys, and a literal playing field for his obtaining and enjoying his perversion. The problem is that others facilitated that abuse. Not because they agreed with it or would do it themselves, but for the almighty dollar.

The fact that many at Penn State are taking an attitude of  "we are being punished unfairly" shows what a hold collegiate sports has at these big money colleges. The NCAA came down on Penn State hard, but it had to. It would be a crime for them not to be punished. I know the ones who are there now may have done nothing, but this guarentees there will not be another Jerry Sandusky, or big money shenanigans at Penn State, or any other school ever again. No other child will ever suffer for a group of people to roll in the dough ever again in big college sports.

Simply, when there is child abuse even suspected, it is the legal duty of all who are in knowledge to report it to higher authorities. When and if nothing is done,it is their moral and legal obligation to report it to legal authorities. This was not done. Everyone thought they could control Jerry Sandusky so he wouldn't hurt more children. They were dead wrong, and they cost not only the peace and protection of these boys, but Penn State its' winning titles.

Don't be mad that the media, or the NCAA, or the world. Be angry with Jerry Sandusky and anyone who turned their head while he abused children.

The Universe always allows us opportunity to make good, to right wrongs, and to be better people. When we fail year after year, the hammer comes down hard. It just did. If this ensures that no other child will be abused in the name of big football money, I am all for it. Maybe someday Penn State fans will understand why it was so important and that they weren't treated unfairly. Maybe one day they will understand the severity of this and how all the others named in all of this literally "dropped the ball". Scholastic child abuse is so regulated that, "dropping the ball" gets you in jail, and fired. Every one of them, it is the way it works, because without all the others turning their heads, Jerry Sandusky would not have had his playground to abuse others. Without them turning their heads, he would have been in jail, where he belongs, a long time ago.

As for Joe Paterno, actions speak louder than his words. He held the power to put an end to it all in a swift, strong manner. With 1 minute on the clock, and the game in his hands, he dropped the ball. When he had a chance to live up to his words for his boys, he didn't do what he always told them to do, he put on his blinders and allowed things to go on.

Do the right thing for the right reasons, and don't wait for the Universe or for someone else to "take care of it". Each day you allow a child to be abused, is a day of hell for that child. Child abusers are the lowest form of life on this planet. NEVER allow, condone, or look the other way . NEVER. There is zero tolerance, and a damn good reason for that. No one was treated unfairly here except the victims.

Go Universe!




Peshaui Wequashimese




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Monday, July 23, 2012

Why doesn't the Universe listen???

I was asked several times over the past 5 days , "Why doesn't the Universe listen?" , in some way or another. It does! It listens all too well! The issue is, "do you know how to speak to the Universe?"

It is of course much easier to see things from the outside looking in. We have a hard time seeing ourselves as making mistakes or having faults, if we did and we truly were working to make our lives better , it would happen. Everyone who asked the question really thought they were doing things to make their lives better. They were reading all the books by the gurus like Dr. Wayne Dyer, and getting their messages for the day sent to their email boxes. Yet when it came to putting that all into practice, they fell flat. Why? Actions speak louder than words.

Two of the folks who asked for help wondered why a good man has not come. They both are making the same mistake. They are accepting in the ones who aren't what they want , and trying to tweak them into being the ones they want. It may be desperation, or impatience, or both. They are wasting time and energy taking men who are "so-so" accepting them into their lives for months and in one case, years, and then they keep sending them away because it isn't working. Then they are talking to them to tell them what is wrong, then taking them back. Guess what happens next? Finding faults, sending them away, taking them back. They  kept repeating that pattern.

First of all, you cannot talk a man into being faithful, being in love, being different. Impossible. When they are working to fit more into a new mold of partner instead of single, you can coach them by telling them it hurts you when they do certain things (like stay out all Friday night with the boys each week), but you cannot take an unfaithful man and make him faithful by nagging him into it. Secondly, if it needs major work, it isn't the right relationship for you, move on.

The Universe happily allows what you accept, it MUST be what you want. You SAY you want better, but you keep accepting worse. These clients didn't understand why "not so nice people" seem to have better lives. Why do they qualify other people's lives as better? Because they have a husband. I am sorry, but there are tens of thousands of women out there that will tell you that they are having huge marital issues, from being sorry they married that particular man to being physically abused. When you see marriage as the goal, and not not what kind of marriage and to what kind of person, and then BE that person, guess what you get? A warm body. When your goal is marriage, you get married, but to what?

Just becasue some seemingly "evil witch" is married to a seemingly "nice guy", doesn't mean the reality is that her life is wonderful and she is happy (apparently she isn't or she wouldn't be such a witch). It also doesn't mean that she is an evil witch, or an evil with to him.

When you want quality, you have to wait for it, it doesn't drop out of the sky. When you want quality, you have to be it. The lady may seem like a crabby old witch to you,she may not be to him, or he may have simply asked for a marriage, and see what he got! You can't know the intricacies of the situation or what people were unconsciously manifesting since they don't even know!

Our unconscious manifesting is stronger than our conscious one, unless we are really cognizant of what we are doing, have total faith in it, and know how to ask for things. The reason is that our unconscious is very strong, it is what we really believe, and what we are to the core. It is powerful, constant and loud. It can speak over the conscious. That is why many ail at manifesting. There are may reasons manifesting fails, but the reason never is the Universe. It is never at fault, it does exactly what you tell it to do. When the conscious and unconscious are on the same page, miracles happen.

Remember that like attracts like, so be the best you can be, have total faith, be specific without being ridiculous (does her really HAVE to be over 6 foot if he is Prince Charming? Really?), be literal, and exact (don't say "send me a nice guy"). Don't settle, you MUST be able to be independent to get the best of the best. A partner is not there to COMPLETE you , they are there to COMPLIMENT you. You need to complete yourself. Be realistic. Be honest with yourself.Remember that these things take time (took me six years to find my wonderful hubby), and that relationship partners are the LAST thing that the Universe is looking to work with you on. There are much more important things in the scheme of things to be accomplished. We do need to procreate, and we sometimes need partners to help do the work in our lives (I mean spiritual work, not laundry), so partners are important, but although to you, having a romantic partner may be all consuming, to the Universe it is the last thing on the list. Working on YOU is the first thing.

So what are you really manifesting? When you accept any man, just to have one while you wait, you are showing the Universe you will settle. When you keep taking ex's back that didn't serve you well the first time, you are showing the Universe you are willing to keep recycling the old, even if it isn't working. You cannot trick, scheme and talk your way into a perfect relationship. It takes TWO people willing to flat out do anything for the other, without that, you have nothing. You cannot be totally enamoured with a person who is not totally into you and expect to be able to make it work, at least not for more than 5 minutes.

Be the best you can be, be patient, and look for a partner, not a movie character.



Peshaui Wequasimese



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Thursday, July 19, 2012

Babies are not pawns, back to the mundane

There seems to be a trend of thinking that having a man's baby will make him commit. I can just about guarantee you, that commitment because you are pregnant, will NOT happen. So many women are upset because the man didn't stick around. Then they have a small child on their hands that they have to attend to by themselves physically, emotionally, mentally and financially.

When a man isn't ready for commitment to one person, he most certainly isn't ready for commitment to two people. When he thinks he can't afford to support a woman, he certainly cannot support a woman and child. Forcing or tricking a man into a commitment will not make him be a better partner. It will make him resent you.  When they aren't ready, they aren't ready.

When you bring a child into the world, you have to be fully prepared to take care of that child. So many times I hear women complain that a man who had no desire to be a father or committed, isn't being a good father, or contributing. Really? That is a surprise? When you add in the fact that he resents being "forced" into a partnership, and it costs him a chunk of money via supposrt, he will be less likely to want to be around you, not more likely.

A child's biggest influence is the same gender parent, since you cannot guarantee the gender of your child, don't start its' life out at a disadvantage. When you want to have a child, there are many ways to do so, and some people that would be glad to help you, as long as you sign off responsibility. However having a child to get a man is the worst idea out there.

Children are not pawns in your relationship. That goes beyond birth to visitation schedules, and divorce. "Talking a parent down" during divorce is extremely harmful to the child and will eventually backfire on you in the long run. Never put down the other parent in front of the child, EVER. It does serious life long harm, and only makes you feel better for a moment.

Children are not pawns....they are not pawns to form a commitment, to make you feel better, to use against an ex, or to lure them back. When we switch over to the spiritual side of things, it is an even worse idea. God/Creator/the Universe isn't amused at one of its' precious creations being used to do your dirty work.

Leave children out of any unhealthy or broken relationship, at least love them that much! nd a final note, if YOU cannot afford to have them, then DON'T.



Peshaui Wequashimese




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Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Questions from readers

I had a couple of questions from readers on different subjects. I like to share these since sometimes others have the same thoughts and do not write in.

1) Do you totally reject all "communication" by flashlight and K2?

Basically yes, they are not communication devices. There are communication devices to be used, use them. If it is a twist flashlight, then the "evidence" to me is ZERO, I would totally discount it. Same goes for K2, is is able to pick up other things. Also , as I said a couple of blogs ago, even if a spirit energy is manipulating a K2, how do you know it isn't just something messing with you? Go back and read that blog for more information on that.

2) When is the new moon for July?

TODAY

3) They say like attracts like. What about ugly girls getting nice, sexy guys?

 First of all the Universe sees everyone as physically beautiful, maybe humans could take a page from that book. The phrase is talking about like ENERGY. Like energy attracts like energy. So bad negative people attract negative people. Happy people attract happy people. Altruistic people attract altruistic people. Looks have nothing to do with it...and beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

4) Why don't you allow people 18 and under to go on ghost walks?

A few reasons. First of all, when out wandering around, you may go onto someone's personal property. If they call the police on you, you can be charged with contributing to the delinquency of a minor (even if you are the parent). It isn't worth it. If you are where you don't have permission to be, that is just part of the charges that can be brought against you.

There is another reason. Sometimes you run into bad stuff. Now that goes two ways.There are times when myself and other people who are out doing these investigations, run into "bad stuff". There are two kinds of "bad stuff". One is everyday stuff, like people who are drunk, high; people who are making/selling drugs; animal issues; crazy people issues, and people hiding/squatting . They aren't always friendly. Some investigators have been shot at by drug manufacturers. Some have almost been run over by dealers trying to get out once they were spotted. There is no reason to involve anyone in this, especially children and young adults.

It is also dangerous out there in a purely physical sense. Cemeteries have fallen stones that you can trip over. There are snakes, spiders, ticks. Recently a stone fell on a boy and killed him. Old buildings have floors you can fall through, and things to trip over or get hurt on.


That being said , there is "bad stuff" out there in the spirit realm. That is more rare than the issues listed above, but it is out there. I have bumped into these things twice. I was able to protect the people with me, and back off successfully each time. What if a person with no knowledge or skills bumped into one of these beings? It could get VERY ugly, very fast. Bad enough if you make your decision to go , but what if you took your child and something "bad" happened? It isn't worth it. I have seen people grabbed, scratched, hit and knocked down. Your child may be all gung-ho and "Zakified" to go ghost hunting, but when they get scratched and punched by something they can't see, it may do damage beyond the physical.

Another reason is, it is all fun and games watching ghost hunting on TV, but when you find yourself alone or even with another person in the woods at night, things feel a lot scarier than they do when you are sitting on your couch. Some kids are great at it, but it really isn't worth the chance. One Zak fan who was 15 went with his Dad ghost hunting....he didn't sleep in his room for 4 months...and nothing "bad" happened. He would probably still be sleeping in his Dad's room if there was a scary event!

The two times I bumped into these nasty things were in places that I had been to several times before, without a problem, so don't think that going to a place you have been to that was "safe", is still safe.


5) What is the easiest way to stop getting all upset about things?

There isn't an easy way...all take time and training yourself. However the way that requires the least pomp and circumstance has two steps. One, live in the moment. When you start replaying the past, or getting upset over it, immediately take focus on the moment. Think about every little thing. Turning the doorknob as you walk through a door, looking at the door, was it painted another color once? It sounds silly, but refocusing your mind and making it check every detail of the RIGHT NOW, will make you focus on the now, so much so, the past cannot sneak in. The same goes for the future. Planning is fine, worrying requires the same "in the moment" focus.

The second half of that is having faith. You need to practice having faith. For some this requires weekly church meetings, or even bi-weekly. Some require a walk in nature, or meditation, or all of the above. The means doesn't matter. Just do it! Once you realize that everything important that happens, happens for a reason, and that the Universe is in control. You will be OK.This is harder to do for some folks than step one, but it is amazing what peace it brings. Learn from everything that happens. Watch for patterns, and when change occurs, accept it. Events that seem terrible in the moment end up being good things in the end. Even when they are a lesson. When we learn from them, we won't repeat the negative feeling event.

Keep sending questions!!!



Peshaui Wequashimese




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Tuesday, July 17, 2012

You catch what you put out bait for.....

I have written on this subject before , but from work over the past few days, it bears repeating. In the world of dating and relationships, you get what you put out. What I mean by that is that whatever bait you put in the water effects what fish bites on the line.

Several women , over the past few days have had complaints that all were different circumstances, but with the same theme. They all either worked out for 6 pack abs, or dress like Beyonce' at a concert...and wondered why they:

Only attract married men looking for a good time


Have a hubby leave them for a younger (more fit/attractive), woman


Get a guy who has no interest in their lives or family, just being out and about in clubs, restaurants etc.


Is not interested in anything but sex


Has been dating for years and will not propose


Treats her like a mindless idiot


Acts all jealous all the time.

OK, Really? This is a mystery? When we portray ourselves as sexy, younger than we are, eye candy, we do not get serious men. We do not get the ones who want real strong bonds, to give respect, and treat us well. When you think that a man taking you to dinner every night to show you off is flattering, it is, and that is all that it is.

Don't confuse sexual attraction or lust, or ego (pretty lady on the arm), with love.

You want to look healthy, and neat, clean and your best. However, when you look like you belong on the cover of a sex mag or the "Sports Illustrated" swimsuit issue, you attract men who are interested in one thing. Your looks. Overdoing the looks angle gets you a shallow man. Give yourself more credit.

Recently I had a client who was a gal who always dressed provocatively. Plunging necklines, short skirts, make up , six inch heels. Did the guys swarm around her? They sure did, but most were married, or wanted one night stands. One finally moved in, didn't treat her well, and when she had a health scare, moved out while she was at work. She thought she would have to have a breast removed, and that would ruin his perfect little Barbie doll. He left without a word.
Fortunately she has not had to have her breast removed, but I told her she has an assectomy......

Another gal was always was in the gym, looking all good and trim. She hit 40 and hubby was off to a 25 year old. Wife looked good, the 25 year old looked great. It is easy to do at 25. They were married 20 years, now she is alone. She would do all kinds of flirty , sexy things and thought that would keep the spice in the marriage....it didn't.There was no foundation there to begin with, and there were probably other issues like marrying so young.  Life is life, and stuff wrinkles, sags, and even if you look great, there is a whole pack of younger ladies that look better. Always. When you have a quality guy that didn't marry you because you were the cutest sex kitten in the pack, then he will stay and not notice the 25 year old gals because he knows that there are more important things and he was attracted to more than your flat tummy.

When you pose like a sex kitten in all your pictures, you get a sex guy. When you always look healthy, happy, classy, and full of life, you get a better pick of men. Men are already visual creatures, they don't need help in that arena.

When you put out the bait of "I am sexy" you get a man who wants sex. When you put out the bait of "I am the total package", you get a man who is the total package. The creeps will be intimidated by you, and you don't need the creeps slowing you down wasting your time.

When I hear women opine that their man left them for a woman who "isn't even pretty", who is "fat", who is in some way non attractive, and she talks about the new woman like she is a dog, I know why he left. He was one of the guys who was looking for more than a pretty face, and flat tummy. He was looking for the whole package and just got the pretty bow on top. It wrapped up a hateful person. That hateful person got left behind. Women think looking very sexy will keep him around while she treats him like a dog...it won't, at least not for long.

So, when fishing, if you want quality, don't put up your sexiest picture on the website, or dress like Beyonce every time you leave the house. There are good guys out there, but when you fish in the ocean for fresh water fish with marshmallows for bait, you will either catch something totally off the charts in a bad way, or nothing at all. (In that instance.... Hope for nothing.)

Present yourself as what you are, not as what you think men want to see!



Peshaui Wequashimese



(c) 2012 Dr R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Monday, July 16, 2012

What is your recipe for life?

Do you have a recipe for life? Do you follow it? The other day I was thinking about what made my life a nice one while there are people that I counsel who have such a hard time. I wrote the recipe on Facebook and it said:

The secret to life. Be honest , be strong. Speak your mind, but make sure you aren't inserting your foot in your mouth when you do it. Help when asked, help when not asked...but ask first before helping. Laugh MUCH, dance, run, sing, til you just can't move or squeak anymore. Explore, learn, grow, don't be afraid to learn you are wrong. Don't be afraid to be right. Do unto others, and treat yourself well. Love flat out, and LIVE life.

I later thought of a couple of other really important parts. That is to not wish ill will to another person. Hoping for Karma is OK, it is like wishing the sun will come up...however, make sure that you realize that Karma is there to teach NOT to punish. People think Karma is the Universe's way of getting back at a person, it isn't. It is the Universe's way of clearly showing them that they went wrong, where they went wrong, and how they could have done things differently. Is that always a pleasant experience? No, not always. However, if you are genuine, you won't even have an issue with what Karma hands you.

The final thought is an important one. Allow the Universe/God/ Creator to take the lead. When you are fighting in any way for something that you feel is the right way, the right person, the right object...and you get emotionally involved in it, you are no longer objective, nor able to do a good job. You become your own worst enemy. The key is to let go, and tell the Universe , "DO what is best for me".

It is pure magic, but not for those who lack faith, for they will have too much fear and start manipulating. Relax, let go...and watch the miracles happen.

So what is YOUR recipe for life????


Peshaui Wequashimese




(C)2012 Dr R M Wolf, May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Ghost shows sometimes are figuring it out too...dos and don'ts.

Many times I see people who are "new" to investigating hautings, imitate the popular shows out there. Shows like Ghost Hunters or Ghost Adventures. There really isn't anything wrong with that,to a point. These folks are using experience and trying new things to see what works. Remember that there is a lot of behind the scenes and editing that goes on. There isn't a ghost instruction manual written by the other side that is full of "how to s".

Remember, they are trying things too, and you can look back at the first episodes and notice that there are things that they do and don't do, from the earlier shows. It is all trial and error, and much of it takes a few nights tromping around in the dark to really figure out. The other aspect of that is that just because it works one way in a certain place, doesn't mean it will work the same way in another, or at all!

So, don't take the activities of the shows as gospel, even they don't. They know they are trying things out and strive for better and better ways to do things.Make sure part of your ghost hunting studies is to talk with someone who does connect with the other side. A medium or psychic that understands the energy of things on both sides of the veil. They have wonderful information and have seen and experienced more that you may be able to imagine. Also use seasoned ghost hunters, and by that, I mean more than 10 years of investigations, to learn from. They have most likely seen most , if not all, there is to see.

Don't provoke. I know Zak does it, but it doesn't always work, it can cause issues, and if you are in someone's home, then then have to live the night out with a pissed off spirit. You can try to get a spirit to respond if you want, by using reverse psychology ("Guess you are afraid to talk to us"), or by trying to bargain ,( "if you talk to us, we will leave"). Please don't get all nasty and use curse words. How would you like it if someone came into what you think of as your space, and started shouting at you to talk to them, called you names, and acted like a half crazed psycho? You wouldn't talk to them, would you? Except maybe for a "get out!".


Don't take down walls, dig on the property, or move things unless you have specific permission to do so. Make sure that the person who owns the property is OK with it, and totally understand what you are doing.


NEVER use K2 meters or flashlights as communication devices. There are many reasons for this. K2 meters can pick up other than ghostly phenomenon, and twist off/on flashlight WILL arc. They will flash on and off all by themselves without ghostly intervention. You can be rattling off questions and the flashlight is arcing, and you think you are talking to a ghost. Why do you think the only electrical item used in "communicating" with ghosts is a twist flashlight? Because it has a tendency to turn itself off and on! Anyone who knows basic electricity will know that flashing flashlights are the farthest thing from paranormal activity. Now, get the old slide switch type or  push button, and you have a better shot at it (still NOT recommended). They also can arc, but it is much more difficult. There are many skeptics in the world, don't give them ammunition they have enough!

We also have MANY tools that ARE communication devices, use one of those.

The other aspect of this is, let's say an entity is communicating with you. How do you know it is what it says it is? It may answer it is a 12 year old boy (two flashes), and be a 50 year old woman laughing her butt off at you. It may be one of those beings that were never human, they are stronger than "dead people" and can more easily manipulate things, so how do you know you aren't "speaking" to one of them? At least an EVP will help you identify young, old, male , female. When you have a flashing light, and no EVPs...all you have is an arcing flashlight."Ghost Hunters" stopped using the twists for communication a few years ago. They use push buttons...although as I said, this should be the last option of communication.

Do not bring anything into the house that carries any type of spiritual power. No voodoo dolls, crosses, ouiji boards. I laugh at the use of trigger objects. I have been in so many actual haunted places, with stuff going on , and no one ever brought anything into the house. When a place is actually haunted, you don't need trigger objects.Never bring in anything that is of a religious or energetic nature, unless the homeowner requests it. NEVER bring in s Ouiji board or other "communication" object. Many haunted sites that allow tours will specifically say not to bring these items in.

Do not move things around. I remember going on an investigation and thinking something moved. A person in the group who was new to ghost hunting moved it, and several other objects. Then we had to go back and figure out where everything was, and make sure that they didn't move anything else. If people are moving objects all over, how do you know the spirits aren't? Take pictures or video of the whole area first and that way you will be sure things moved or not, but people shouldn't move ANYTHING! When you DO have to move something, let everyone know (as in , "I was rolling a ball to the spirit, and he rolled it back!").

Your approach to a building, can make a haunting more active , or not. Your tools, and your methods will make it more successful or not. Doing things the right way will make sure you get authentic evidence. Here is an example. Zak and friends went to Villisca and got just about nothing. They had maybe 5 EVPs, no video. We went, and went with a much softer approach, and I have 48 EVPS, we had an unexplainable photo, a video of a camera getting spun around, two BSP on film, (one indoor, one outside), one person had scratches on her, and one have a blanket tug of war. We had an investigation a million times more successful. We also had spirits talk to us that were not part of the axe murder, a few were from a woman with a very marked southern belle accent.

Your method, and your attitude go a long way. Don't be upset if you don't get anything, that happens. Sometimes they just don't want to come out and play. Make sure that you limit yourself to getting good results in an authentic way, and no one will ever be able to doubt any of your findings. Also, never publish something as evidence until you can totally verify it. Another very important thing is make sure that you have a homeowner's written permission to not only be on the property, but to publish and release any pictures or video of their home.

There are so many places to go, many cost a few dollars, but it isn't terribly expensive if you don't want it to be! Make sure that you are prepared, have the right tools, and use them the right way. make sure that you know what you are doing, and if everything you know about ghost hunting, you learned from Zak Bagans, you still have a TON to learn. He is fun to watch, and gets results, but his style isn't what you should be doing when you walk into a haunted space, especially someone's home.

Happy Hunting!




(C)2012 Dr R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

The truth about..skipping policitcs and moving to marijuana truths.

You can find the truth about most things. The answer is research. People think research is just "looking stuff up". Ah, if it were only that simple.

Years ago when you wrote a book, the publisher made sure it was all on the up and up. They didn't want to be sued or for people to think they were not genuine, so they were very careful as to what got published. The same went for newspapers. There were investigative reporters that found the truth, and not just stories that put the newspapers owners slant on things.

There is still some authenticity out there, but it is MUCH harder to find. You can self publish very inexpensively and say whatever you want to. It can be 100% BS, but you can have a book out there that a lot of people will believe because they WANT to. You can write anything on the net and it goes on a search engine for the world to see. You can start a webpage, for as little as $10 a month and put whatever you want to in there, true or not, and again it goes on the search engines.

Weeding through the BS is harder than ever. There are still professional journals that are usually on the up and up, and if something is doubted, research is done, and another paper will sprout up showing the consistences and issues. There are ways of finding valid information, that skill is unfortunately not taught until college, and not checked and forced upon one until grad school. How many people go to grad school? Not enough.

Rule one is "consider the source". Using politics for example, if I want to find if the Republican Party has a valid argument on something, I would NOT go to a republican source. Not the party, not the Daily Republican Newspaper, and not certain newspapers (as we said above), the Wall Street Journal, Fox News or even the Christian Science Monitor. All are admittedly pro Republican. Of course they will all say that the argument is valid.

Go to the opposite side. Find their sources, check their sources, and the background of those sources. Key the opposite of what you think is true into search keys. For instance if you are looking for proof that Abe Lincoln was not Jewish, key in "Abe Lincoln was Jewish" (yes I am being silly here), and see what comes up.

Consider the source. I remember researching a teacher, there were hundreds of posts on the net by people saying how wonderful he was....BUT all were students and people now teaching and making money off of his teachings. I then researched what non students had to say. I started with colleagues, and people of the culture he was teaching about, and found he was 100% Bullcrap.

Look at current information.What does new studies, new findings, and new events show? Check out the author or researcher and see if they are valid or respected.

Use Snopes, or truthorfiction.com BEFORE passing anything on.


Don't read and believe.The most recent example that is non political is that a reader (under the age of 18), wrote becasue he saw a sign on Facebook saying marijuana was harmless, not addictive, natural. I told him anyone can make a sign (My son was kind enough to make one to announce my birthday and age to all of Facebook). Signs made by people on Facebook are the LAST place you should seek to obtain real information. So, for all who saw the sign....here we go.

Marijuana:

Just because something is "natural" doesn't mean it is good for you. Don't eat the nightshade that is growing in your garden (or many other plants) they are all natural, and they will kill you.


It slows brain development, not so bad if you are 30, but really bad if you are still growing and developing. It actually causes structural damage to the developing brain.


The active chemical is THC. It is a hallucinogen, and will act as a stimulant or depressant, depending on the person and their health. THC changes the way your hippocampus (a part of your brain) processes things. When people already have an issue with mood or mood swings, like being Bipolar, Marijuana is the WORST thing for them to use.


It damages the parts of the brain involved in communication skills, learning capabilities and causes a shortened attention span. When a person uses it over many years, it produces the same brain damage that short term use of more serious drugs cause. So cocaine ruins your brain just as badly as marijuana, it however, does it more quickly.


It contains 50-70% MORE carcinogens than cigarettes. It is also dangerous as second hand smoke, the same as regular tobacco.


There is scientific evidence that there is a link between marijuana users, and experimenting with other , more serious drugs.


It cases chronic cough, bronchitis, and more frequent chest colds.


Most users are overweight and unfit.


Most users are in menial jobs, or have no job, probably because of all the things listed above.


It slows your thinking.


Causes memory loss.


Causes distorted thinking.


Causes difficulty in problem solving.


Increases heart rate.


It impairs your reaction time and motor skills.


Several studies have shown a link between prolonged use and anxiety disorders (like panic attacks),  depression, and schizophrenia.


It is addictive. There are two types of addiction. Physical (like heroin causes), and psychological. Marijuana is psychologically addictive.

Is it the worst drug out there? No, not at all, but it is harmless? FAR from it.There is even more research showing negative issues, most of that on use of marijuana combined with use of other drugs.

For the 18 year old who asked...DON'T do it . Bad enough for the old hippes, REALLY bad for you!

So, when you see a cute little saying on a social networking site, don't take it as fact, research it, REALLY research it. (And I wouldn't take the word of a person who is a daily drug user on anything...and by the way, they will always tell you drugs are cool.)

The final step. USE YOUR BRAIN!! Think! Step outside the "what i want to believe" for a second and THINK. You may be very surprised!


Peshaui Wequashimese



(C) 2012 Dr R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Time and "ghosts"

I was emailed a question asking me about hauntings that are supposed to be at a specific time each day/night. Did I think that was possible.

It isn't a yes or no answer. First of all, we have the concept of time. We, live humans, and that is it. Nothing else does, no other dimension does. Time is a man made concept. We did it so we would all show up in the same place at a required time. The seasons and days existed , yes, but to actually put "numbers" on them, was our idea. The first calendars were found in what is now Zaire (and you thought I was going to say the Mayans, didn't you?). The Egyptians had the first accurate calendar, and the Chinese the first accurate timepiece (a pole that measured the sun).

Spirits, angels, evil beings, nature sprites do not know time. They don't have to. There isn't an angelic meeting everyday at 4:00PM they have to attend, or anything of the like. They go through existence and react when needed. That is why it is so hard to see into the distant future (most authentic psychics will not go out beyond a year).

So to say that a spirit does something by a clock, is totally incorrect. So, how do you explain the  things that happen on a regular basis on a specific day or time? Easy, they are residual haunts. They are just a "tape" playing over and over. The interval may be different, but it is just a loop, no matter what size, that goes on and on and on.Part of that loop will be inaction, and part albeit smaller, will be the "haunt".  It will go on and on when man no longer walks this earth, or until its' energy runs out.

Places that contain a large amount of quartz rock continually charge and energize the "haunt" , and limestone is a great recorder of energy. When you have an abundance of both in the area and a traumatic or high energy event that imprints on it,  you have a residual haunt that goes on and on and on.

Time doesn't matter to ghosts or restrict them. They can see your clock and remember what it means...and if you are supposed to get up each day at 6 AM, and you are still sleeping at 6:15, Grandma may knock over a bunch of pots and pans to get you moving. But anything other than a human spirit has no concept of time. Human spirits do not have time on the other side, so they don't know what time it is, except by loooking at your environment. Doing that will enable them to see (or hear from people's mouths), dates, years, time. You need to have lived in this earth to understand time, or be Creator/God/The Universe....

There are hauntings that have a tendency to happen at certain times, during certain weather events, moon phases, and holidays. They are residual, and are authentic in their own way, but they aren't able to communicate with you .

Remember, ghostly activity can happen at ANY time of the day or night.

Happy ghost hunting!




Peshaui Wequashimese




(C)2012 Dr R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Monday, July 9, 2012

Mundane side- What you do.....

Many times I talk about the metaphysical side of things, but this blog is about the metaphysical and the mundane. The energetic reasons why things happen, what to do and not do, how to ask for things, are the metaphysical side....today we will make it simple to wrap everyone's mind around. We will look at the mundane side. What you do effects others either way you look at it.

Forget Karma for a moment (it is still there rolling away like a giant wheel), but let's just push it to the back of our minds. We are meant to be social. Now , that doesn't mean as in "party animal" it means we are a species that needs other members of the species to survive and thrive. We aren't meant to be in isolation. We frequently come in contact with one and other, even if only for a moment.What we do and say can have an impact on the others.

What brought this to mind was a couple of things that happened this weekend. One was a story in today's papers about a smoking ban that was recently put into law here. Most states have had bans for decades, we are a little slow here. I also feel like I live in THE worst ME ME ME place ever..it IS the worst place I have lived in anyways, and I have lived in 5 states 9 towns/cities.

Bars are saying their patronage is down due to the ban. The other states that have the ban (and that it more than half of the US), do not have bars closing because of the ban. If people want the camaraderie of the setting and none of those settings have smoking...they WILL go there.

Second hand smoke kills people, and not just the smoker. That is scientific fact. Just the smoke coming off the end of a cigarette causes issues, and the smoke exhaled by the smoker causes different issues. There are 7000 chemical compounds in cigarette smoke, 250 are harmful to the health of non smokers, and 69 cause cancer. These are numbers from the American Cancer Society. Not on this topic, but marijuana contains 50-70% MORE carcinogens than tobacco smoke (don't believe that propaganda that marijuana smoking is harmless, non addictive and all that crap).

When you smoke, you are releasing cancer causing substances into the air. For all of the self righteous smokers out there...you KNOW that if your workplace was shown to release 250 harmful substances into the air, and 69 of them caused cancer, you would be screaming "lawsuit", and running for the door. So don't release that on others. It isn't all about you and your habit.

When you live in a household where there are non smokers, you shorten their lives everyday. Your kids, your pets, your friends. You open them to more illnesses every day. You open them to more health issues (like asthma), everyday. Is it worth it?

Think going outside helps? A little, but the smoke has found to seep in through walls ( it IS smoke you know), and go back in through the door with air flow, and you personally,  as a transport. Many places now have signs saying "no smoking within... anywhere from 8 to 15 feet".

So instead of giving in to the addiction, drop it. I know it isn't easy, but my mother died of emphysema from smoking cigarettes, it isn't just lung cancer that can get you! You are ruining your home (non smokers generally don't buy the homes of smokers, they are yellow, nicotine stained and smell bad), your clothing, your pets, your family...and you.

We have so much data now that shows us how dangerous this is. If you live alone, have your own health care, and don't plan on moving...puff away.

The other thing that got to me this weekend was how drivers (and this is far from the first time I have seen this), locally ignored emergency vehicles. Emergency vehicles that were literally stopped a few feet from them, so they wouldn't run over them. I remember a few months back watching an ambulance try to get through a light for (I timed it), a minute. The whole length of the light, and then a left run signal running traffic in front of them. Does a minute mean a life? In an emergency situation, it can. But there is more to that. That was one light. I doubt it was the only light on the way to the emergency, and that people were more responsive at other lights.

When I lived in Las Vegas, people stopped immediately for emergency vehicles. They were able to drive at a quick and constant speed. They also had little sensors on the trucks that changed approaching lights green for them. They never had to stop, wait, blow the air horn, and be stalled by idiots.

This weekend I watched three people flying through a light not 2 feet from a serious traffic accident, immediate in front of a fire truck and police cars (with lights, sirens, and horns blaring). I watched a person who was staring at the accident while rolling through the light (not watching where he was going), almost run over an emergency responder on foot. What is wrong with people? I know we all want to get to where we are going, but at the expense of someone's life? We stopped to help, while others got as close as they could to take pictures and leave (and this was BEFORE help got there).

Again, these emergency responders ( a firetruck several police cars, ambulance and fire chief car), were all piled up on the other side of the road from the accident for about 20-25 seconds. It may not seem like much, but it literally can mean life or death. It also means lack of comfort for that time. There were three terrified children in the car bawling their eyes out. They were unhurt, or at least they seemed to be, but one lady had a serious head injury. Again, that was ONE light. So , let's say there were 10 intersections between the emergency responders and the accident. Ten times 25 seconds is 250 seconds or more than 4 minutes. Can 4 minutes without help make a change in the outcome from further damage to death? It sure can.

When an emergency vehicle comes up behind you, IMMEDIATELY pull over. Get out of the way. One lady did stop. Right in the path of the firetruck between it and the accident. I cannot even begin to think of where her head was at. If the world is that oblivious to her, she probably shouldn't be driving.

Emergency responders are wonderful angels in human form. They DAILY put their lives on the line for others. They are trying to get to where they can help others. This isn't about you getting to the store, your friend's house, or work. This is about someone's life. The timing is so important, every second counts. It may make the difference between the child who is drowning being saved with no issues, being saved with brain damage, and being dead. Stop for emergency vehicles, because it really is NOT all about you!

After this incident my husband and I drove a few miles to have dinner, we saw 3 people flat out run a stop sign without even slowing. I sometimes wonder what strange place it is that I live in! When we got home, we saw where there was an accident just down the road caused by a person running a stop sign and causing an injury. The firetruck that was coming to the accident that I called in...they were just leaving an injury accident 8 blocks away!!

AS I write this another serious accident occurred with a truck in flames. People of Evansville...WISE UP!

Please remember that every action you take, ESPECIALLY irresponsible or negligent ones, result in others being harmed in some way. Sometimes it is miniscule, sometimes it is major. Now let's bring our old friend Karma back in the picture....OUCH, makes it much worse, doesn't it.

Before you do ANYTHING think of others near you. Your rights exist but they come with a list of responsibilities and you do NOT get to exercise your rights without being responsible.


Do the right things for the right reasons.





Peshaui Wequashimese



(C)2012 Dr R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Be careful what you ask for...even rain.

There is a movement on Facebook to bring about rain. It is something or other about everyone doing a rain dance. I had someone say to me that she bet I was going to be out there dancing away.

Nope.

 I joke sometimes that I am going to go out and do a rain dance....I don't. She made the comment in a jovial way, but we are all hoping for a little rain. It won't save our lawns at this point, but it would be nice not to have to conserve water.

I was taught long ago, and again more recently,  the seriousness of such actions. I have seen people "drum for rain" (or end of rain, snow , wind...), or what ever method they thought they would use to second guess Creator. You NEVER pray , dance, drum "for rain"....why? First of all, Creator knows better than you, what you need. Droughts are a necessary and important part of Mother Nature doing her job. It is insect control, animal overpopulation control, and weeds out less healthy animals and plants.

Secondly, I know that we are never to tell Creator, God, or whatever belief system is your own, how to do their job. You can say something along the lines of "You haven't sent us rain in a while Creator and we know that you have good reason for this, but please send us what we need , if we have done anything to offend you, we apologize".

Most Native American Nations believe that if it doesn't rain (or any other needed thing is not given), it is becasue we have somehow offended Creator.  The elaborate ceremonies, the songs, the dances are not to "make it rain" but to ask for forgiveness, or crop abundance. The NA community doesn't tell Creator how to bring about relief.

Thirdly, always be careful what you ask for. The Universe is very literal, and does grant wishes, manifest with you, and answer prayer. Yesterday we got a few drops of rain. In the midst of that, some folks got hammered, but it wasn't just rain. It was trees down, power out (in 100 degree weather), accidents, and property damage. Is it worth watering your already dead grass with rain to have an elderly person without air conditioning? A person with a tree on their home? A visit to the emergency room for a car accident? Food rotting in the warm fridge? No, of course it isn't. Is it worth having all that on your conscience? Not for me it isn't.

When life isn't going all that well, look and see why. When you are in a drought condition, realize that this is a normal part of nature and is necessary. Pray that Creator or Gad can set things back to balance quickly, but don't tell him/her how to do their job. You are as clueless as a newborn about these things compared to the Highest Power.

Real Medicine Men will always tell you that you need to know how to stop things you started, or send spirits back before you have any business calling them in. You learn the spirit sending songs and learn them perfectly, before you learn the spirit calling songs, dances, or ceremony...Real Medicine men (please don't call them Shaman in the US lower 48), only do things as directed by Creator, not because they think it is a good idea, or because they  think that is what the group wants. That is why it is impossible to take a class and be a "shaman". Shamanism chooses YOU, you do not choose it, and you need an innate ability and talent to communicate with those we cannot see to even "apply for the job".

And for all of you that thought all us "Indians" run outside with our hand drums, and meditate or do a rain dance...you have GOT to be kidding.  Be careful what you ask for, and if you always ask Creator to do what is best, it always will turn out for the best.  

Don't doubt Creator's process. Doubt your faith that Creator is doing the right thing for right now.

(For some really wonderful information about ceremony for abundant crops, and help from Creator in life, read the book Book of The Hopi , by Frank Waters). Meanwhile, leave the rain schedule up to Creator, you may not like his method, but he knows what he is doing much better than you do.



Peshaui Wequashimese.



(C) 2012 Dr R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Independence...not just for July 4

Over the last few days I have heard stories of women (and a man), who have allowed themselves to be sucked into a situation where they are stuck, controlled, and feeling uncomfortable. Those who are regular readers of the blog know that I always say that to be in a really positive and equal relationship, you need to be able to be independent. These people are waiting for someone to swoop in and save them. A real man or woman, will never swoop into someone's marriage and take them away. They won't cross boundaries. Can you get a person to do that? yes. Quality person? No. You need to take care of your business and not get another person to do your dirty work for you. There is a little thing called Karma. Also, no game playing. Getting pregnant, lying about another person available to you, and other games are just going to buy you more trouble than yo can imagine. Don't start up a relationship with people who are incarcerated either! Come on people, PLEASE use your power and strength to do what needs to be done, not what is easy or comfortable.

There are energetic reasons for all of this, but also practical reasons. No one person can control the other, intimidate the other, limit the other, abuse the other, when you are both independent. You always have to have the ability, not only spiritually , but financially, to walk out the door. When one partner is making six figures and you are only making $30,000, you still have enough to live on. Maybe not as well as on six figures, but it is worth a million if it keeps you from being controlled, abused, limited or intimidated.

There are women's shelters for women to go to, but you don't want to go there unless it is absolutely necessary. Abusers many times limit the woman's contact with family and friends, so their partner is more under control. NEVER allow that to happen, when it starts, RUN away! Go to a friend, a family member, but don't stay!  When the relationship goes bad , be able to go and get a room at a hotel, and find an apartment. Be able to feed yourself and your kids, be able to be safe. Be able to live on your own. Anyone who is not able to live on their own is a person who can fall prey to a controlling or abusive person. 

Not only is it good in case something goes sideways and you want to leave, but what if the other party leaves? What if they die suddenly? What if they are incarcerated? What if they become seriously ill? Then what?

Everyone of us should be doing something.You can have your own business, but have money coming in. Have a savings, have little or no debt. Start working on it TODAY. Those of you locally who need a job, I know of 4 people looking for good help, don't give me the "economy" excuse!

The government is helping people go to school. GO if you need to!

When you are independent, you make the family more secure, you make yourself feel more worthy and appreciated, you have opportunities of other things like a bigger social circle, and people to help out in crises.

Never allow another person to use , control, or abuse you , or to make you feel bad about yourself. Be independent and that never will happen!! Independence doesn't mean that you keep money, secrets, and time from your partner, it means you share it. Two incomes is always better than one, but if something "bad" happens, you are prepared. Independence isn't just for the 4th of July!




Peshaui Wequashimese



(C)2012 Dr R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Monday, July 2, 2012

Black Shadow People does not equal "Evil".

Black shadow people are an interesting bunch. The "real" black shadow people are an entity that is in our shape, but does not ever communicate with us. They can walk right up to you in pitch black and stand right next to you, without you knowing they are there. They can blend into walls, floors and any convenient shadowy place. They can become one with the darkness around them. They never make a sound, and are the ninjas of the beings of the other side. Stealth is their main aspect. They seem to be studying humans, and observing us, maybe just as we study and observe the other side through ghost hunt investigations.

People mistake their black color with evil. They are not evil. People mistake their non communication with evil, that is not the case either. People also mistake the two other beings that resemble black shadow people as BSPs and as evil. They are not. People equate demons with BSP, they are not. I have been in the presence of evil on one or two occasions, and believe me when it happens, you will know it. The feeling around BSP is nothing like the feeling around evil.

There are two other ghostly phenomenon that people confuse for BSP, because they look like them, and another that are black shadows, but I wouldn't call them "people". First off, many apparitions, in trying to form , have trouble. They may be new at it, weak, or lacking energy to manifest. They sometimes come off as just black shadows, mists, light , or a shapeless form. They are not BSP, but dead humans! The other kind are a group that also never communicates. They can be in the form of a human, most likely with a hood, or what seems to look like a monk's robe. Some are little like dogs, or cats, some like big birds, some like small people of 3 feet or less. They seem to hang around where there is a lot of death, or was. Some people associate that with thinking they are bad, I have seen many, been around many, and they have never hurt me in any way. They can startle you, but they don't purposefully hurt you. They can make you feel bad if they pass through you, but their main goal seems to be guarding the places of the dead. I am sure if anyone started doing "bad" things, like desecrating graves, they would come out in force. They will mess with you, even surround you, they can change form and shape, but they will never communicate with you. They can make you feel "icky" by sucking energy out of you, but that is so that you are weaker, and they are stronger, that way,if you are up to no good, that will be an advantage. When they see you are not, they leave you alone. They hang in the background, but they don't "attack". They are not evil either.

So there are the regular "humanoid" BSP, the ones who are all kinds of shapes and guard/guide the dead, and ghosts who can't quite form. None are evil. The ones who are ghosts that can't form lived in this dimension, the other two did not.

Now, the other night on a TV show there was a "devil type thing" that was seen as a black shadow. That doesn't make him a BSP. Demons (which is what this was, just a very powerful one), can take ANY shape. A demon, especially a powerful one, can appear as a shadow, a demonic looking imp, a beautiful young blonde haired girl, an animal, anything. They don't have a form, they can make themselves whatever they want to, and they feed off of your fear. So , if you are in the place of a demon and you fear BSP, it will look like a BSP. If you fear being fooled by a pretty little ghost, a pretty little ghost it will be. If you fear a devilish looking being with fangs...a devilish looking being with fangs it will be. It can also lure you in by being the pretty little girl, or some other harmless looking being, like a puppy.

There are not "evil black shadow people". BSP do not communicate at all with anyone, so if it communicates with you, it is not a BSP. Remember it is easy to be fooled by the other side, even your dead uncle Joe can appear as he did when he was 20 , even though you knew him from age 45-79.

BSP can give people the creeps, I find them fascinating. I lived with one for a short while. He was leading people (dead ones), down my hallway almost nightly. He never did anything to me or my property...except scare the heck out of me when I thought someone in a black hoodie had broken into my house.

They (BSP) may even be psychopomps (this is what I suspect), but they are not demons. Demons will do all kinds of crazy stuff, not just blend into the walls and disappear. Be careful of going into places where you are afraid, you just may see exactly what you fear most!


Happy Haunting!



Gina





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