Thursday, March 31, 2011

Common Denominator

When you are having the same issue pop up time and time again, you have to ask yourself...,"What is the common denominator", what is it that caused or was a factor in all these disasters?

The answer most times is YOU.

There is a person who continually gets passed up for promotions, terminated, and laid off from jobs. This person has, from my conversations with them, mental and anger issues. They strongly feel that the reason is that another person didn't do their job right, or they messed up the paperwork, or someone didn't like them...in the end it all comes down to people not wanting to work with an abusive, crazy person. They are quite qualified as to education and experience, but fail miserably at interpersonal relationships. We don't have to love our coworkers, but we sure do have to work well with them on a daily basis.

When you have a theme in your life, look at what the common denominator is. When you have a string of failed marriages, are you really marriage material? Not everyone is. Maybe you keep picking the same "party girl" type and then wonder why the house is a mess when you come home. Look at what the common denominator is!

Life always a financial mess? Are you living above your means? Spending money when you owe thousands? Not a dime in the bank? Then it isn't the bill collector's fault, the government's fault, the Universe's fault. What are you doing to change that? One person said she doesn't have a car to go to work. I work out of my home and I know several others who do also. Not having a car may limit you, but it cannot stop you.

String of jobs? Bad relationships? Health issues even!?

Act like a forensic detective. Sometimes it is hard, as all the roads may point back to you. Be honest with yourself, because it isn't everybody else, it isn't God punishing you, and it isn't a government conspiracy.

Don't be your own worst enemy!

Do the right things for the right reasons!




Peshaui Wequashimese


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Wednesday, March 30, 2011

rudeness abounds

I received so many email yesterday on rude people, and certain situations. Some of it was shocking, some of it, not so much so.

I can tell you that the main reason all this rudeness stems from is the "ME ME ME" attitude. The "I need", "Oh woe is me", "I want" variety.

We all need, and want something. We all have had situations go sideways on us, but that is not a reason to make a person, or worse yet, a group of people have to change and adapt to suit you.

The other things that popped up were:

Not being on time/wasting time (this is the ultimate, it means "my time is important", yours isn't...that is about as rude as you can get).

Making fun of a person instead of addressing an issue.

Drama. Taking a life experience and turning it into a feature length movie, complete with car chase, tears and gun play. (ok that was a little sarcastic, but the stories I read involved all of these in separate situations).

Saying or doing anything that says you are better, more important, or need more/special attention. There are enough divas on MTV, we don't need them in our real lives.

Don't do anything to invade another person's privacy. If you don't trust them, you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.

Keep your paws out of their money, even if they offer. Some people take, others try to buy love, neither works for very long.

DON'T talk about innocent people in a way that is meant to harm, degrade, or cause upset in their lives. Don't lie about what they have said or done. (boy have I seen that happen, thanks "J" for sending that one in !)

Stay out of other people's relationships...if he is unhappy in his marriage, wait for him to get out! Don't mess up a family any more than it already has been.

Never make fun of; put down; degrade, anyone's religion, race, culture or creed.

Put your hands on anyone, that includes...yes hugs. (refer back to the video the other day).

Do unto others!! Do the right things for the right reasons....
It really is very simple.


When wrong is done, tell them, then just take the offenders, and either release the flying monkeys, or put them in your basement and throw away the key.


Mind your manners!



Peshaui Wequashimese



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Tuesday, March 29, 2011

There is a difference between "strong" and "rude"

In the past month there have been situations where many of us said something like this , "If I did that my Mom would kill me." Many of us wonder where manners have gone. Many of us wonder where common sense has gone.

One person told me of a situation she went through and added that she is now a strong woman and she is going to make sure she gets her way. I explained to her strong women make sure they are fine with NOT getting their way. Her actions didn't make her a strong woman, but a rude woman. It took her 4 days, but she apologized and said from asking others their honest opinions, she sees she was making mistakes.

Many of you are terrified of saying to someone..."that wasn't nice". More people need to say it. You many need to "choose your battles" , or wait til an appropriate time to say something, but you have to put the word out there. This woman was happy to hear the "not so good" stuff, and will have a better social life because of it.

Planning a wedding has made me see people do so many things that I would never do. Things I was clearly taught NOT to do, as I was taught it was rude. Social graces and manners have seemed to have gone down the toilet. Not sure what proper protocol is for a situation, ASK!

My Mom taught me a few things while she still walked this earth. The biggest one was manners. Just because you are in bad times, upset, older, achier, young, unschooled, broke, rich... you don't get to use that as an excuse to be rude.

"Do unto others" still applies. If you wouldn't like it if someone did what you have just done or said, go back and make it right. If you wouldn't like having demands made on you, don't make demands on others. Respect ritual and protocol too.Respect the wishes of others when it comes to their time, and space.

Do the right things for the right reasons.

Being demanding, pushy, and rude are not the marks of a strong person, but of a weak one trying to appear strong. They are just plain rudeness.


Peshaui Wequashimese




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Monday, March 28, 2011

Native American spirituality isn't for sale.

Yesterday and today there were two things that had a strong message to them. The message is the same, but one was presented in a funny way, and one in a serious way.The messages came after a discussion about the wedding and what we will be doing during the ceremony.

I have said this several times, Native American spiritual teachings are not for sale. Pretending to be Native in any way, by taking on forms of that spirituality, is insulting. Doing it incorrectly is abominable. Charging for it, is criminal and unspiritual.

If you want to dedicate yourself to the Native way, that is fine. But do it correctly. Don't take one of these crazy New Age classes that promise to make you a shaman or teach you Native Spirituality. There are no such authentic classes. Class is sitting for years with a mentor, a Native mentor. Class is going through things, making mistakes, and being shown the right way by your mentor. Being a shaman or as they are called in this country, medicine man, is a calling. Sort of like the priesthood. You need to have a talent for it(shaman/medicine men are psychic, mediums, or natural healers, they have an innate talent for it).

This is the lighthearted look at the New Age classes out there today:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Db1-nK7yWRA

We call them "airy fairies" or "bliss ninnies". They think they can buy and sell spirituality. No one can.

The other side of that, is there are people with a good heart who want to take on the spirituality of the Native Americans. What they do not realize is, to do that properly, you have to live it , every day. That means that you follow the rituals every day, in every way. You use tradition, and you don't do it half way or your way.You don't take out parts you don't like and add in your personal stuff and call it Native. You don't act native on Tuesdays only or only when you go to a pow wow.

You don't go to a sweat lodge because it is cool (no pun intended). You don't talk about going to a lodge, what happened in the lodge, or use it as a badge of honor. There are people "Playing Indian" way too much these days. Some do it with a good heart, but still, they need to learn, respect, and be genuine about what they are doing. You do it because you are called to do it, not because all your friends are doing it.

Native American ceremony, and items of ceremony are SACRED. This especially includes the pipe, and most notably with the Lakota pipe. Sadly, just because someone has one,doesn't mean they should. There are people walking around with pipes, telling everyone "they are doing a pipe" (a big Faux pas), for someone. They don't even know the first song that needs to be sung to load the pipe, yet they call themselves pipe carriers. That is like me putting on a white dress and funny hat and calling myself the Pope.

That doesn't mean a white man or any other man/woman can't have a pipe and use it. It means that any man (or woman), that wants to use any sacred native item or perform a ritual, needs to be taught completely, properly, and LIVE that teaching. Not just put it away for when drum circle night rolls around.You don't half do the ceremony surrounding the pipe, or skip it because you don't know it. You don't pray with your pipe on Saturday and go to Catholic mass on Sunday. It is disgracing the pipe and the church.

It is becoming difficult to find good NA teachers, they are leery of their students.They are being approached by so many bliss ninnies, fakes, and airy fairies, their heads are spinning. A real, authentic, native teacher will make you prove yourself. Now teachers are going over the top not wanting to take on any more students, just because of all the people out there who "play Indian".

When you learn the right way, from someone with native blood,you are on the right path. You don't use Native rites , rituals, ceremony and items, to be popular or say "look at me", and when you LIVE that native way, when you are authentic,then you can be a white as the driven snow. That doesn't mean that every person of native blood is authentic either! Sadly there are some out there who see your "airy fairy self coming" (like the "teacher in the video), and fleece that sheep til it bleats..... (sheep pun intended!)

Living the Native way means truly doing that. Knowing ALL the parts of the ceremony, using the right tools, and the last thing is the really HARD part...thinking, living, respecting and breathing like a Native American. That is nearly impossible for those raised by non Natives in a non Native environment.

That said, you can be an admiring person, who participates in things that are Native, just do so with respect and honor. That is truly awesome and honoring the native way.

If you are not prepared to take on the whole life, that is OK. That means that you do not present yourself as a teacher, nor a shaman, nor anything of the sort. However, if you are going to do Naive ceremony, like sweats, and pipes, you should be totally dedicating yourself to that ceremony, with the right (NATIVE) teachers...and you don't pay for it in cash. You pay for it in time, dedication, helping your native "family" and being the best you can be.

This all falls under "Do the right thing for the right reasons".

A friend posted this on Facebook today, and it says it quite well:

"There are many sacred items that were gifted to each Nation. Now all those things are used by everyone. Now, we must be genuine when we pray with these things. We must be authentic. Spirituality is a ceremony in and of itself. This is not a religion; it is a way of life. We must be grateful for the truth, the truth of the Creator, not man’s truth." Charles Chipps, Lakota

So now you have heard the same words, from a video made to make fun of people who play "pretend" Indian, to me (that you have heard before), to a Lakota.

This goes for ANY CULTURE, not just Native Americans. Would you walk into the Vatican and start doing your own ceremony in your own way, and when questioned by the guards who come to arrest you, say "Hey Pope, I am just praying for you!". That sounds ridiculous, but yet people to it every day to the native culture!

This isn't a game, You don't join the Native community like you do a church where you sign up and pay your tithe. This is much more serious, and takes dedication.

If you are going to do something this big, do it right....a lesson James Ray learned the hard way.



Peshaui Wequashimese


(The James Ray trial is still on going any you can catch some of it daily on "In Session" on TruTV)



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Friday, March 25, 2011

Psychic vs Medium

First a note, looks like showers today , but it should be clear this evening. Wear the proper shoes if going on the ghost walk...we DO walk in the grass at times...and you won't be able to see puddles on the walkways in the dark.

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Someone wrote and asked what the difference is between a psychic and a medium. I think we have talked about this briefly before, but it is Friday and a quick , easy blog is a good thing!

The basic difference is that a psychic obtains messages about your past, present and future. They can even access past lives sometimes, and get messages from your guides. They can help you find where you need to focus and pass on warnings.

A medium is a person who readily and easily sees and converses with those who have passed over. They bring clear and succinct messages from friends and relatives who have already "passed beyond the veil".

Can a psychic be a medium a and a medium a psychic? I have yet to meet a person who does both well. There is a totally different skill and use of (and type of), brain waves used in conducting conversations with the other side, predicting the future, and just sitting in your chair in this dimension.

Psychics can sometimes access info on those passed by using Akashic records, guides, etc. Mediums can sometimes get information from those who passed about what you need to do differently, or a broken pipe they can see that you can't. But generally, speak to a medium to converse with those who have passed, and a psychic for explaining events, paths and the future.

It's better to get a plumber to look at your pipes than an electrician.


Happy weekend!!


Peshaui Wequashimese





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Thursday, March 24, 2011

There is always one.....

About ten months ago, I emailed a person who broadcast a Narragansett video on You Tube.I asked what kind of song it was, and what it was about. It could be a healing song, a particular dance, an honoring song... I didn't get a response, so I went to other sources and got all my answers. Actually MORE than the answer. I learned a lot and made some new friends.

Yesterday I get an answer to the original question. It was like a study in angry/crazy. In my email I told the person I was Narragansett/Pequot. The answer was so out there, including that they would not translate the song for me (Which is not what I asked), and such thing could only be done in a matter of national security (yes seriously), like Codetalkers. I would have to promise to die for the flag and it wouldn't be cheap to learn.

You start looking over your shoulder for the camera and the people laughing in the shrubbery......

Needless to say, I fired back an email...there were no tomahawks thrown, although the urge was there. I also advised this person that we don't charge for learning NA languages, etc. I can only deduce that this person has "issues", and was most likely locked up somewhere for the 10 months it took to answer the email, or had no clue what the song was about.

Meanwhile , I shared with my Narragansett teachers, who would just LOVE to know who this person is, but of course on YourTube, people go by their little "handles" not their real names. Maybe they will figure it out.

If anyone ever gets an answer like this from a Native teacher, run. The answer may be that they will take you on, but you have to dedicate a great amount of time, dedication and commitment.That is the right answer for certain things, sacred things. When you want to know about regalia, language, history, there should simply be a straight and honest answer. Please do not be afraid to ask questions. All the sane Native Americans out there will be happy to help you. When it is something that is beyond just an answer, as it is sacred, they will tell you that you need time, a mentor, and dedication. They may even point you to a person who will work with you.

I wrote and rewrote the email to this "person", and after the third rewrite, made sure I used Narragansett greetings, and traditional phrases to show them their secret language wasn't all that secret (you can buy a Narragansett dictionary if you want to, and I think I shall!). It took me all my life to find the one jerk, so I guess I am lucky.

So please, if you want to know something, ask. I cannot say each culture you meet up with in life will be so ready to share info, but I would think that every culture would want to share basic information. They all want to be understood and appreciated. When you come up against a person who says they don't share their language because (and I quote), "it is like casting pearls before swine"...move on to someone who understands the real meaning of their heritage.

I suspect that this person didn't know the answer to my question, and after 10 months of trying to find the answer, could not, so I got the crazy email...either that or they were a guest of the state in one way or another.

The fact remains, I found the answer, and much, much, more.


Learn, share and grow...and don't let the jerks of the world stop you from learning.




Peshaui Wequashimese





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Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Words to fit the mood.....

Sometimes it takes a "foreign" word to fit the mood... Sometimes it takes a curse word, and we have all been there....but did you ever try to find just the right word, and discover it isn't of your native tongue?

I have always loved words, languages, books, and listening to other languages being spoken. I would listen to the Navajo station on Sunday mornings in New Mexico, even though I had no idea what they were talking about. For all I know it could be a commercial for dog food, but it sounded so beautiful. You could walk in some shops in Gallup and hear old men speaking in Navajo. It was like being in another world.

To really confuse the situation, my father's side of the family would speak, what I can only fathom, is a "psedo-language". It is probably only spoken by a handful of people. They would use whatever language had a word that best described what they wanted to say. It was a mixture of French, Portuguese, English, and Algonquin words (Narragansett, Pequot). It was hard to ever know what the heck was going on. The good news was that once I got to high school, I aced French. (I didn't ever hear some of the words, and I can only deduce that they were "bad" words). I remember the silly things like "Snap, crackle, pop" was (and this may be spelled incorrectly), "Klick, Klak, Klook".

The Algonquin words were picked up from the Pequot/Narragansett side of the family. The two languages are similar and are Algonquin languages, but they do have different words for some things. A Narragansett and a Pequot would be able to understand each other, probably with some hand gestures and pictures for the more difficult words. They aren't easy languages to speak, read or understand, although to me they are much easier than some other Native languages like Mohawk.

We used "papoose" for any small child. Wampum for any thing that us kids would trade each other for (there is a different word for "English" money, though the word escapes me right now). We ate succotash (cooked ironically not by my Native grandmother, but my Irish one).

I grew up where children spoke all kinds of languages, Spanish and Italian being the two most heard, but there were many others. It was fascinating to hear words and try to figure out their meaning. My Mom taught me to take the roots of the words, and most times, you could figure out the words, especially in the Romance languages. The Italian was very like the Spanish, the words all went back to Rome.

When I reached college I studied Greek for a semester. If that were not enough, I learned to read Hebrew. I now could read forwards and backwards ! All kidding aside, it was all easy, languages came easily to me, maybe from hearing so many (although the "four at once" of my Grandfather was a bit much).I also took conversational Spanish when I worked in Las Vegas.

My Native grandmother knew French too, and I am sure many Natives of the northern east coast at least understood French. So many languages.

Sometimes a word will come out of my mouth and Matt will give me a blank look. The most recent was "nosh", if you say "nosh" in the New York area, everyone knows what you mean. It is a "little snack", a Jewish slang word. Say it in Indiana , and you get a blank stare. In New Jersey when we want a big pizza, we order a large" pie ". Order a large pie anywhere else in this country, and it will most likely include cherries or apples.

But "nosh" is easier than " a small snack". One word instead of three , right?

Sometimes a word in another language is easier or more descriptive to the situation. Sometimes the word just sounds cool.

See what new word you can learn today, even if it is in English!

Ciao!




Peshaui Wequashimese





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Tuesday, March 22, 2011

CH CH CH Changes......

There is a saying (paraphrasing): the only constant is change.

Plato said we can never step in the same river twice, as the waters have already moved on. Change happens whether we are a party to it happening or not. Many don't like when change happens TO them, unless it brings apparent bounty. The fact is, that change always makes something good happen. Always.

It may not always be fun going through it, or your bounty may be to learn a lesson of "never do that again", but there is ALWAYS a positive to change.

I have written many times on life being full of circles, we travel around that circle back to the origin, whether we want to , or realize it, or not. The key is to make those changes easily, and to welcome them.

There are huge changes going on energetically. The Universe is separating people into groups depending on the work they have been doing on themselves and others. Real deal people will be with a small number of real deal people. Fakes with fakes, hypocrites, with hypocrites. Fear based people, with fear based people. People who need to learn lessons, with people who need to learn lessons (remember a long time ago I said the good teachers will be walking out of your lives if you aren't learning? It is already happening). The sad part is that the "negative" groups will have more people in them than the positive ones. A sad commentary on our world.

People who have been working hard the last few years at reaching higher, are cutting out those who refuse to reach higher, from their lives. Groups will grow smaller, then larger again, as the Law of Attraction kicks into high gear.

A song once said....Still don't know what I was waiting for...and my time was running wild, a million dead end streets, and every time I thought I had it made, it seems the taste was not so sweet.(David Bowie)

We can bring on change. We can grow, we can leave the things and people that are not working for us, behind. We can have change happen to us instead, and complain about the world and what is happening to us. Wouldn't you rather be the Captain of your Change Ship?

Change WILL happen. Be a positive influence on it!

Bring about change.
It really is exciting, and always has a good outcome. Always.



DO the right things for the right reasons.


Peshaui Wequashimese





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Monday, March 21, 2011

Welcoming the season

Spring has sprung again.Thank goodness.

We, unlike our ancestors, all know that it will come every year, and have a calendar that fits on our wall, instead of a boulder or temple, to make sure we know just how many days it will be until the next season. We don't have to worry about the gods being upset with us and not delivering warmer weather.

Spring is a great time to start anew. A new project, home, relationship, step or stage in something that you are already doing.Just think "new" and "change". The daylight changes and weather changes help get us in the right frame of mind. Yet many just trudge along, not making any changes, stagnating.

I am making a big change , one many of my friends will tell you I swore I would never do. I am getting married again in just a few weeks. I swore off men several years ago , and told the Universe, "I will never..." The Universe promptly showed me just who was smarter than whom, and sent Prince Charming. I hate when they are right all the time....(he said the same thing too by the way).

So now many of our family and friends will gather with us and celebrate a new beginning.

Now, you don't have to go as "big" as a new marriage for spring, but try something new. One friend has discovered all her clothes look the same. They are the same color and style. She is going out to buy new color and cut. One makes quilts that are traditional looking, she is taking an art quilt class. One reader said she is about to go and try Thai food (which is awesome by the way, and spicy!), for the first time. Another who vacations at the same place every year is going totally across the country this summer.

It can be as simple as buying a red dress and trying a new food, to marriage, moving house and home, and starting a business.

But move forward, learn and grow.
Think positive about it all, and it will succeed beyond your wildest dreams!

A simple way to start the spring is take all those fear based people out of your life. They just hold your energy down. Do some serious spring cleaning, and move on to bigger and better things!!


Learn and Grow!

HAPPY SPRING!



Peshaui Wequashimese





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Friday, March 18, 2011

Ghost Walking

Tonight is our first scheduled ghost walk of 2011, as long as it doesn't rain that is.Some people ask questions that are hard to answer. Not paranormal questions, those are pretty easy, but questions like, "will I see something?". Well, I don't know.

First of all, you have to be watching VERY carefully. Things out there in the cemetery usually don't walk up dressed in neon and shake your hand. Many just flit around from stone to stone in the dark. Black shadow people are the hardest to see.You have to be paying attention, not chatting with a friend, or looking at your feet because you are afraid at what you might see.

You have to be totally open and receptive. This way you won't dismiss something as the wind or a rustling branch when it isn't. Some people are skeptical and others have backgrounds that make it hard for them to see something. When you had an upbringing that these things don't exist (especially in a very religious household), or that they were bad or evil, it will be hard for your mind to accept what it sees as a spirit.

Some think it is disrespectful. There is no disrespect in saying "Hello, just passing through, anyone want to say hello?" Not all spirits hang around, the ones that do , hang around for a few reasons, but one reason is wanting human contact. Those who are firmly on the other side and don't care what the living are doing, don't even know we are there.

Then there are the orbs. Digital cameras are famous for taking pictures of "orbs", better known as dust, water vapor, and pollen. People call them angels (they are not angels, that's like saying a snail looks just like a bus),spirits, and all other manner of things. They are energy. Pure and simple. The two most popular theories are that this energy is believed to be either transporting many souls , sort of like mass transit, or a single powerful soul.I like a third option, an entity we don't have a characterization for yet.

Orbs, real ones anyway, give off their own light. They show up well where there is zero light, so if you don't use a flash, yet there is window light, sunlight, candle light, ANY LIGHT,you can get fake orbs in your pictures. If you don't use a flash, yet still see people, furniture and what not in your photo, you have enough light for fake orbs. There are also other technical causes of so called orbs. A good proof is that you can see orb light reflecting off of other things. You also see orbs with the naked eye many times. The sad fact is that most times (I would say 99%,) of what people say are orbs in their pictures, are not orbs at all.

I have pictures of red dots of light, they almost look like far away tail lights that are orbs. Orbs can be of several colors. I have seen red , blue and green ones.

So, the "will I see anything" question is a hard one to answer.

My favorite evidence is EVPs, we have asked names and received them on numerous occasions. We have had a "lady" tell us "I am so cold". Then there are the deep sighs, grunts, and other noises. Many times we get children's voices. Many times you investigate and don't know that you have met a ghost til you get home and turn on your recorder.

The other thing that sometimes happens is touch. There have been spirits that like to play with hair, touch, push, pinch, and pull on clothing. No one has been hurt by any of them in our group. They can make you dizzy, nauseous, hot or cold though.

Add to that creepy feelings, dead batteries, and freezing cold when it is 60 degrees outside, and you have met up with something, that for lack of a better word, we will call a ghost.

Sometimes we get a lot of evidence, sometimes we get none. Sometimes deer snort and send us jumping three feet into the air. But at the end of the night it is always , at least, a nice walk in the fresh air with like minded friends!

Nothing that "goes bump in the night" has harmed me ever, and I have lived in two (lucky me), very haunted houses. Some night take some brave friends and go out and explore, you may be surprised at what you discover!

Have a great weekend.




Peshaui Wequashimese


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Thursday, March 17, 2011

Why do people LOVE fear and neagtivity????

The question came up yesterday as to why people love fear and negativity. Not everyone of course, but there are a handful of people that spread crazy things all over the internet,their homes and workplace. The stuff they spread is usually anti-government, and always made to get people upset in some way or an other.

There is actually a good way to warn people about REAL issues, but then there are the Chicken Littles of the world who run around screaming "The sky is falling! The sky is falling!"

I tell my readers this and I will say it again....check your sources!!!!

Check on Snopes.com or Urbanlegends.com. When there is no info on there yet, ask them. Just send in a request. Check with major newspapers. Different newspapers (and TV channels) have different faces that they put on stories. Read them and FACT search.

Don't share it til you check it out...and that does not mean looking for the same thing, it means looking for something that negates your fear story. If some crazy webpage says the President is an alien, why don't you check some REAL information sites. Newspapers, colleges, professional associations....not fear mongering sites.Any one with half a brain knows that if I ask the National Inquirer, I will see that Obama is from Mars. Does that make it true? Of course not.

When all "proof" goes back to the same source, disregard it, it is just multiple copies of the same source.

I have seen so much fear and hate published places this past week, it is disgusting:

Fear that we will suffer from radiation from Japan. We will not, the particles do not stand a snowball's chance in hell of ever getting near us.

Americans are buying up all the supplies of radiation pills. Not true. We have a very low supply to begin with, and all of them were sent either to Japan directly, or were part of the supplies given to the people traveling to Japan to help with the disaster.

Obama is playing golf while Japan suffers. First of all....even if this were true...what should he do? Go roll up his sleeves and move dead bodies off of beaches. Of course not. The last thing we need to do is put one of the leaders of the free world in jeopardy. Actually he is visiting Brazil for diplomatic reasons.
Meanwhile, he has been working closely with Japan, sending much needed help. The two biggest helpers to Japan are the US and Russia (which I think is pretty cool, two old enemies working together).Obama has done everything and more that Japan asked of him. We were the first major foreign country on the scene.

Fear, lies, misleading statements, and DRAMA. YUCK!

When we spread fear , we create fear, fear is our worst enemy. It makes people react poorly, and create more chaos. It makes people fight and harm each other. It makes a bigger mess, and causes poor choices to be made. Not to mention that FEAR energy it puts out into the world.

Whenever you see a fear monger, tell them to KNOCK IT OFF, and to GET A GRIP ON REALITY.....and while you are at it, tell them to "put on their big girl panties and deal".

So why do they do it? They do it for many reasons.

Attention, even negative attention is desired by some folks.

Their life sucks. When their life sucks they want you all to know that your life sucks too.

They are paranoid to one degree or another.

They cannot take blame for their own issues , that they have created, so they need to spread it around to everyone else.

They mistakenly believe that when they make other things look bad or worse, they themselves, look better.

They are gullible.

They think that if they "save you" with some "good" information, you will love them and give them the attention they crave.

They love DRAMA, they were brought up in a drama atmosphere and thrive on it.

They are haters. They can't stand other people being happy, content and not living in fear as they do, so they try to create it with others.

Mental illness


Never buy into fear.Never. Never react out of fear, ever.

There is no reason to ever fear.People who believe and trust in Creator, the Universe and God know there is never a reason to fear. People who know about energy work, and the spirit of things, know that they control their world as much as they need to. People who are truly spiritual know that there are always options. The others, fear.

Meanwhile check out your channels that you use to give aid to Japan, or any other group asking for help. There are a lot of fake "Help Japan" sites popping up. Check the site out carefully, it is easy to do. When there is a history of misappropriation of funds in an established group, stop giving, there are plenty of places to help out.


Peshaui Wequashimese





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Wednesday, March 16, 2011

I choose.......

Other readers say to me , "write about how people need to be smacked over the head to get the message". A friend says, write about all the wannabes out there (and another friend met up with some a little while back). Another reader said, more Native American articles, loved yesterday's! A very good friend loved yesterday's too.

Wow, now I have to choose. They are all great topics. When the Universe/Creator/God stops us from doing something , especially in a major way (which prompted a fellow reader to say snow, flood and volcano), it is time to say "Gee I guess I better not do this." The wannabes are the people who read a few books, watch a few TV shows and then start doing energy work on others. They should only do it on themselves. The crap people have been told (and sometimes it really upsets them), by people who don't know what they are doing, is amazing. The bad way people have felt after having someone do energy work on them, is totally unnecessary and sad.(Like Walking Thunder said yesterday, you need to be accepted by the elders). The third topic is always fun, on the topic of Native American culture and spirituality, there is so much to write about, and sadly so many people who are GREATLY mistaken about NA life and spirituality (to the point of "there are no more Natives" to building killer sweat lodges).

So let's start at the top. Messages. We should ask three times before we do anything big. We need to make sure we are ready, that it is in our path, and we are not harming someone else by our actions. It is VERY easy to fool ourselves into thinking that this is what we are supposed to do, just because we WANT to so badly. The mark of a true healer, psychic, energy worker, is knowing how to step aside and let the truth come in, even if we don't want to hear it. So many people are so infatuated with others that they just "know" this is their "soulmate" when what he is, is some other person's husband. Our desires speak louder than the Universe, and we have to learn to listen to the whisper under the loud Ego voice.

People don't think of these things. All they think of is, "I want to ", or "this will be cool / fun/ exciting to do." A friend of mine made plans for a vacation, she had no business going on vacation, she hasn't worked in a year, and the mortgage company is sending threatening letters. She always went before, so she was determined. First she tried to book flights and could not, credit card wouldn't work. Then she got tickets and the flights were canceled (due to snow). I told her, "Get the hint yet?" She did, and did not go on the trip, unfortunately she cannot get the money back.At least she saved on hotel, food and fun, and can use the tickets some other time.

These are pretty huge clues. The Universe wasn't sending mild messages, it was sending strong ones. Especially weather, when the Universe sends you messages by inconveniencing a bunch of other people through a snow storm, TAKE NOTE. So the snow storm kept her home, where she should have been all along.

We also have to make sure something is part of our path. Another person got involved in a religious group. This religion began in another culture (Far Eastern), and there was much to be learned and it was difficult to be excepted into. She was not allowed in to the inner circle, and this was after years of study, and participating in events. You would think the Universe would want us to immerse ourselves so deeply in a religion. The problem was, this was not in her path, and the reason she took that path was for a man. She was in love with a leader in the group. Neither worked out for her.Years wasted and a broken heart.

Don't step on toes, or cause harm. Don't fake it! Just because you want to do something, doesn't mean you should. Just because you do something at home, doesn't mean you should do it abroad. You also need to know whose "territory" you are in, are you stepping on toes? Drastic example, people from California, wandered into Arizona, and set up a sweat lodge (which they had no business doing at all), and eventually, killing people. They did it for the wrong reasons, they build it incorrectly structurally, and built it incorrectly spiritually. They wandered onto a tribe's territory and didn't ask permission, they later said they had help from the tribe, but the tribe didn't help them at all. Sweat lodges aren't for fun. They are an integral part of the Native American culture with a serious importance and spirituality to them. Think of them as going into a mikvah (Jewish spiritual bath), or even a Baptism. It is serious, not for fun and games, or to say "I did it", and certainly not to make six figures the next year (the reason James Ray's followers did). If a born Native isn't building it (and not all Natives are prepared, have the knowledge or are "authorized" to build one), don't go in it!

People are in such a rush to suck up as many spiritual events, practices and knowledge as they can. We call them "spiritual experience vampires". They end up learning nothing, and ignoring signs from the Universe as to what they should and should not do. So take the blizzard for a hint, so the rest of us don't have to then go through the flood and the volcano, while the Universe tries to get the message through your thick skull.

Do the right things FOR THE RIGHT REASONS.

Harm none. Ever.

If you WANNABE...excellent! Learn it the right way before practicing it on others.
The world needs more educated, talented and knowledgeable energy workers.

Don't fake anything.

Always work in the light. Never work out of Ego.

Don't step on others toes, keep your "fun" stuff in your own back yard. Make sure that you are not insulting another culture, religion, or group. Make sure that you aren't setting a bad example. Be a responsible citizen of the Universe. Just because you want to do it, isn't good enough!

OK , I think I covered all the requests today!


Peshaui Wequashimese




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Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Wise Medicine Woman

There is a medicine woman , a Dine' (Navajo), who has been written about several times. She is a powerful medicine woman, but her words about what a medicine person is and isn't is most interesting and very traditional. First she calls herself a "medicine" woman, which all Natives here in the lower 48 states do. There are no shaman here. If you want a Shaman you need to do a lot of traveling, start in South America.

She says some very powerful things , and learned by making mistakes and being corrected by the medicine men. She even tested things on herself to see if they worked well. She is a brave and resolute woman. Her name is Walking Thunder.

She was taught, " ...there are good medicine people, as well as bad medicine people." Her teacher then went on to say that "Because of this you should never trust anybody. Trust only yourself. You have no friends and you have no one you can truly rely on. You are your own friend. And your mind and breath are yours." This may sound a little "depressing", but what her teacher was telling her was to not get sucked into someone's teachings or healings just becasue she likes them. She was being instructed to find out the answers for herself, and to realize that everything she did , she would be responsible for.

The Navajo are very suspicious and careful people, but at the same time they are very loving and helpful people.

She brings up another very important point, one that shows the true Native humility. "All you can do is pray for a person who is very sick. Sometimes they get well, but sometimes you can't get them well.You always have to leave things to the Creator." Many times healers think that they failed if a person doesn't get better. It is not a failure, but Creator's will. We all have a time we are going to go, and that is solely up to Creator.

She goes on to tell that she will not ask a person why they are doing a ritual wrong. The Dine' believe that those who are not following ritual , but changing it, are practicing "witchery", they are changing the ritual to do bad things. When you see a witch, you walk away (or run), and never communicate with them again. It is very important to not make mistakes when doing a ceremony , or ritual. Elders will question those who are learning and tell them that something is wrong when it is not to see if they have true knowledge, and true strength to tell the elder they are correct. They need to have that knowledge and faith that they know what they are doing in order to be powerful healers.

She sums up her life in a small paragraph, words that were passed on from her teacher, He Who Walks Away, " You can't choose to be a medicine person. You must be chosen.If you are chosen, the Medicine People should bless you.In my prayers the only thing I ask for is healing.I never ask for money....Doing things right is the only way."

There is much more to her story, and the ways of the Dine', a wonderful people who believe that when we walk in health and respect of ourselves and others, we walk in beauty.

Walking Thunder says many things which I have passed on to my readers, even before I became familiar with her. Her words tell us first and foremost that we need to do the right things, for the right reasons; we need to realize that Creator is above us, and we do not run the show. We need to realize we do not choose to become a healer (or as people in the US mistakenly call them, Shaman), we are chosen. Money is not what is important in life, abundance is something else totally. Do the ritual the right way, when you do not, you are doing evil, and you may not even know what you are doing by changing small things.being ignorant of the right way can cause you to do harm. Make sure that you do things the right way.

Walking Thunder is a very powerful and respected Medicine Woman.

Someone recently asked me if woman were ever allowed to be medicine people or on tribal counsels. They always were. An example is Weetamoo who was a Wampanoag chief in the 1600's. Women in power is nothing new to the NA community. One Who Walks With Stars was a Lakota warrior. Women fought, led, healed, and kept the camp running. More recently, the now deceased Wilma Mankiller who was principle chief of the Cherokee Nation. Being qualified to do what needs to be done is what is important, not the person's gender.

It may not be important to you to follow the NA traditions, but it is important to them. Very important. Read about powerful Native women, and learn and grow.

Do the right things for the right reasons!



Peshaui Wequashimese


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Monday, March 14, 2011

Spirit of the flute

Yesterday we had a little "flute day" here at the house. It is fun to play with others, and learn a little more about what wonderful (and sometimes not so wonderful), noises we can make with our flutes. Matt showed us some things, but the consensus was, we either couldn't quite do it, or if we could, we would forget how by the next day.

Flutes have a lot of history behind them. My ancestors and the tribes around them even had flutes in their war bundles. The popular theory was that flutes were for courting. They were, especially in the plains, but not everywhere. My ancestors used them as a courting/marriage symbol and had them in their healing and war bundles. The flute had a part in just about every aspect of their lives.
I am sure there is a joke in there about war bundles and marriage, but we will skip that for now, after all I get married in less than 3 weeks.

The flute, like the drum or any other ritual object, has a spirit in it. A spirit that lives in that object and brings its' influence to the situation. Sacred breath (also evident in reiki,) can heal or send prayers. There are certain tribe's war songs that required a flute to be sung (maybe it was easier to carry than a drum).

There are no so many flutes in this house (and a new one on the way), that I think we have a spirit for every occasion...but seriously, they are addictive. Some are plain, some studded with turquoise, some homemade but all have a beautiful voice.
I am about to have my first custom flute delivered to me, and I can't wait to play it!I have come a long way from frustratingly trying to make a stick of wood sound like music instead of a sick goose. Matt has taught a few of us to play, and we now have several additional flute players, a few who have really caught on and play very well.

Some people collect them as art.The flute is a beautiful object, but it's magic is in the breath that comes out of it. Flutes were not made to sit and be pretty or hide in a closet, that is stifling the healing, inspiring voice and prayers.It's an insult to the flute. The spirit feels it is not needed. Play your flutes if you have them. That is what they are for.

My flutes have become an important part of me, and so have my drums, we have shared with others and have grown and learned together. May your days be filled with beautiful music.



Peshaui Wequashimese




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Friday, March 11, 2011

Drums and special kids

Tomorrow is the Raise the Vibration drumming at the Yoga Center on Franklin Ave. Come and join us for an uplifting time, fun, and sending great intention out into the Universe. It does us good, right down to our soul even though we may not realize it.(We drum from 7 until about 8:30).


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Some say it is that the drum reminds us of a heartbeat, I think that is the tiniest part of the basics of the drum. It is that, but much , much more. To me that sound goes back to past lives, it goes back to that which is stored in our DNA.It goes back to when we were all one tribe in what is now Africa. Maybe the heartbeat comes from those same places, but the drum goes beyond that heartbeat. If that were such a huge draw to us, we would all be walking around with stethoscopes on our necks.

There is a part of the drum that speaks to you in words you do not understand, but you get the energy of it. You don't need to understand. I have a son who has autism, and friends and family that also have special needs kids. They were born with different challenges, but yet they all love the drums. Big ones, little ones, slow beats, fast beats...it doesn't matter. The drum is pure magic to them. Some come out of their shyness, some get lulled to sleep, but the drum is magic.

The magic works because they don't worry about what the origin of the drum is, what the meaning of the song is, or any tradition, or legend. They just like it. The sound, the resonating, the energy.

One person told me once it is because all drumming is shamanic and it heals them. Bullcrap. Pure bullcrap. Drumming began as a way of communication between humans. Shamanic drumming is part of certain curing ceremonies (mostly South American), but the drumming itself is much more than that. It is much more primal. Our ancestors chose to communicate with a drum. Why? The answer is because it gets our immediate attention, it goes into our DNA, our energy, our aura, and does things to us.
When you limit the drum to a shamanic tool, you do it a great injustice. That is like me saying screwdrivers are only for removing light switch covers.

The drum was used to give signals during warfare...it didn't have very "spiritual" beginning, yet has become a spiritual tool. The drum has come full circle, it has been through all its' energies and connotations. It has experienced life in every aspect, something we as humans get to do over many lifetimes.

The drum hasn't "cured" my son, nor friend's children, nor other family members, so I can't prescribe to that theory at all, but I do know they love the drum. I remember Matt handing my son a drum that Matt had made at a bonfire out on our property one night. He not only drummed away, but started singing songs. We had a rousing round of B-I-N-G-O (the dog song), and Scott led us through it, drumming perfectly through the whole song. I though one song and he would be off, but no, it was drumming night at the bonfire.We were all laughing and singing and having a grand old time.

The big drum speaks deeply to our friends, and it is so many things.It was made with the intent to teach and heal, and it does just that. It is more than wood and hide. It is an energy all its' own.

For those of you who have a special needs child, try drumming. There are drum circles all over, and the ones that have lots of high energy and different types of rounds seem to work best. Whether they pick up a drumstick or take a nap, the kids will love it in their own way. You may find yourself making or buying a drum after their first drum experience.

Drums are a part of the Universe, and so is the spirit that resides in them, the children KNOW that spirit and respond to it.

Happy drumming!!!


Peshaui Wequashimese

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Thursday, March 10, 2011

Some comments on friends/weeding

The "weeding" blog was so important to so many people. There have been all kinds of remarks, from long emails, to facebook comments on friends, or better yet, non friends.

Here are some of them:


Friends don't say "I am sure you are busy, I will let you go", when you call them. That translates to "I am finished talking to you, I have better things to do."

Friends don't say "I wasn't bothering you, or I didn't invite you, because I know you are busy, instead they say, "I know things are busy over there, what can I do to help?".
The other option given was "HI here I am , here is some (fill in the blank), I will see you later unless you need me to do anything".

A friend doesn't participate in play in your enemy's camp, instead they refuse to play with your enemy and let them know that you are their friend.



Many said they have recently , or are in the process of, weeding their garden. It was not easy for any one of them, but they knew it was necessary. Sometimes "friends" become unhealthy, or just wear out their time with you. Sometimes we just need to make room in our lives for others, and their new perspectives and experiences. When you refuse to see other people's perspectives, or new things, you are spiritually dead. If you think you know better than the rest of the world , you have not even been born.

Sometimes we just grow and our friends do not. We need to move on.

I had a person yesterday tell me that she was told by another not to read my blog. She immediately went and read it, and has been reading it ever since. This person said that they could see why the person who said "don't read it" would say so...that person is , and I quote...all the bad things that are ever mentioned in this blog, she hasn't learned a blessed thing, yet she holds herself up to be religious, spiritual, and pure." So instead of keeping a person from reading the blog, this woman was weeded out of her friend's garden. (If anyone ever tells you to not do something that is your God given right, tell them GOODBYE).

What is terrible is that many email their comments to me becasue they are afraid of being ostracized for speaking their minds. I told them , that is a group you WANT to be ostracized from.

Remember "love your fellow man" does not mean to go and pretend to be his friend; do bad things with him; hug him every time you see him; pair up with him to harm another. It means help as you can, and if you cannot, then step back and cause him no harm. Do not wish him harm, or cause others to hate him just because you do.

I weed haters, gossips, pretenders, egomaniacs, cowards, hypocrites, fakes and those who are apathetic from my garden. They serve no purpose.

WEED WEED WEED....you may not feel good when you are doing it, but you sure will feel good later on!!!


Peshaui Wequashimese






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Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Weeding the garden

Last night I was thinking about people who disappoint or disappointed me. People who do this either out of action or inaction.

People who really have faith in the Universe never disappoint, never fear, never waver. I find it important to have in my garden those who don't call themselves spiritual, but who really are. Some do it without even knowing they are doing it. Some do it consciously and make sure that they act and react a certain way every day of their lives.

Some sadly act out of fear or improperly because they are in a popularity contest. They fool only themselves, and that makes them feel better, but it doesn't work for me. Some are just inconsiderate, rude, or downright criminal. The really "ugly" ones are easy to purge from our lives, but the ones that are "so-so" we usually leave in. I know I had been around a lot of people that I questioned because I didn't want to hurt THEIR feelings. I was pondering all this when the message came in multiple times and ways the past 24 hours, it was, "weed your garden"!

I have seen people totally disagree with others and how they are doing things, but not say a word because then they would be "voted off the island", which means losing the popularity contest. How sad. I would rather walk alone with my head held high, then walk among cowards who are stabbing each other in the back with a beatific smile on their faces.

Inactivity is as bad as actively causing drama and upset to me. People who try to stay under the radar or sit on the fence of life are , to me, cowards. I really have no room in my life for cowards. I also have no room for the greedy, hypocritical, liars, criminals and fakes. There are just too many good people out there. Why fill my garden with weeds, when I am surrounded by peonies, orchids, lilies and roses?

I have met and developed relationships with so many new people over the past year. Honest, real, and truly wonderful people. The Universe sent them to me for a reason. They are not all those of the metaphysical world. I was surrounding myself with those types, and then I realized I was been prejudicial...really. I was only allowing in a certain way of thinking, and then I realized most of them were not the quality I usually surround myself with. Some have awesome talent, but as people, they are cowards, hypocrites and cliquish. They aren't the quality, they were the quantity. Being metaphysically talented or aware,like being musically talented or aware, doesn't make you a good (or bad) person.

So I opened my eyes and looked carefully at all the souls around me, I looked at them with my intuition, and when I saw just a little streak of yellow running down their backs...out they went. Any dishonesty, out they went. Any apathy, out they went. Then today I looked at my Facebook list, and out some went. They aren't BAD people or they wouldn't have been on there in the first place, but they aren't good for me.

Some use Facebook/My Space etc., as a way to make them feel better about themselves , they amass hundreds of "friends" who are not real friends in any sense of the word. Many of them they have never met. That big number at the top of their "friends list" makes them feel loved or important. I never did seek out tons of friends. I was taught to depend on me, and let only good people in. Maybe that is why my life is peaceful, successful, and abundant. For business sake I tried to allow in more of the fringe people, but then I realized that wasn't helping a darn thing.

The people in my "what are friends" blog are the people I want around me. Not a bunch of fluff to make my friends list look good. There is so much in my life that makes me happy from my family to my fiance, to my business, to my achievements, to my health, to our home, to my beautiful real friends. From Mother Nature, to my guides, to my teachers, to my animals. There is so much there, why muddy the waters.
I like strong people because you can always trust them to do right by you. The weak will always go the easy way, even if it is straight over your back.

I always say quality over quantity and that will be my theme today! So many new people, students, and experiences. So many new awesome Native teachers.
I need to time and room to embrace them....

Today, as spring comes around the bend, weed your garden, and I may need to be weeded from yours, as I am strong and growing, I may suffocate those little coward flowers growing in your bed.

Loving your fellow man does not mean you have to be his best friend, it means wishing and causing him no harm. Since some of my so called "friends" have not learned that lesson yet, they went from the garden to the brush pile. Indifference and cowardliness are dark things that need to be weeded out of everyone's life.

Happy weeding!!!



Peshaui Wequashimese






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Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Can't ignore life.

First an emailed statement on Friendship from yesterday:

A friend will hold you, and never say a word but let you know through their touch that you are going to be OK, and that this will pass.

There were lots of positive comments sent on the blog, but only one more description.


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Yesterday there were three (ah that magic number), instances of people basically saying "if I ignore it, it will go away". Just for the record, that NEVER works. Sometimes it works for a short time, but never permanently. There is even more to it, when it comes back, it is usually worse than it was in the beginning.

Crazy people do not become sane. Evil people become more evil. Ignoring a problem doesn't mean the complainer will just shut up and go away. Medical problems always come back bigger and stronger.

Would you ignore your child hitting you and calling you a name? Would ignoring the pet urinating on the couch make it stop? Will turning a blind eye to a lover cheating make them be loyal to you? No, of course not, so why when the issue is bigger than a small child, pet, or equal do we suddenly go to ignore status? Fear. You know what I say about acting out of fear. It always makes you choose the wrong decision. The other side of the coin is "bliss ninny ". Bliss ninnies never take action and expect it to just take care of itself, THAT never happens. The Universe/God/Creator hasn't thrown any lightning bolts in eons. He expects us to step up to the plate, not sit on out butts and hope and pray. He gave us a higher functioning brain for a reason, to figure out solutions.

Ignoring something means not having the courage to face it. It means not wanting to figure out the best way to address the problem. It means being in denial. It means living in unreality. None of this will solve the problem, make it go away, or make it any better.

The desire to "ignore" came up in many ways yesterday. It never would have solved anything in all its' connotations. What it would have done was just make everything still be bad or get worse.

I did some thinking yesterday after the friendship blog, before the "denial" river started to flow in people all around me, and found that I had made and gone back on a decision several times. It was time to "cut the cord" so to speak. I have resolved to keep it permanent this time and not to continue to feel sorry for someone who brings life's issues firmly down upon their own head time after time after time.

Denial, in any form, doesn't do one ounce of good. Failure to address an issue or to respond to one also does no good.We were given brains and souls to address these situations, not ignore them. We are instruments of the Higher Power, and sometimes need to deal with difficult situations. I always do a gut check and then talk to Matt or some other trusted friends to get their take, then I act. When we refuse to act in any way, we are part of the problem.

Are you part of the problem, or part of the solution? Eldridge Cleaver, paraphrasing an old African proverb.

Be part of the solution, and that my friends takes action, response, and sometimes an uncomfortable feeling.


Peshaui Wequashimese


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Monday, March 7, 2011

Friends

I have seen that clients have different ways of understanding words for people. Especially in relationships. This morning I was trying to find a word for a person that is a friend, but a little more than a friend. Afterward I looked at my email, and some things that were done and said in the past week, and I looked back at the past year. I sat down and thought...what makes a friend?

Many things have been quoted on friends....cute little , sweet sayings. But defining a friend can be difficult. We have levels of friends too. But true or real friends, what are they?

I then composed an email to someone I know is a true friend, and in writing it, lots of thoughts came to mind about what a friend really is. Then there is the very important flip side to that, what a friend really isn't.

So here are some of my thoughts, and feel free to comment or email me on what you think about a true friend...

True friends:


Are always there when you need them, and sometimes when you don't.

Real friends are helpful without looking for help in return or without making a big deal out of it.

Real friends are people who are totally honest with you.

They always have your back.

The facilitate your livelihood, health, and well being.

They facilitate your dreams and tell you when they think your dream needs adjustments.

They keep their promises to you.

They participate in your activities, even if it isn't "their thing".

They make sure you are always where you need to be.

Speak up for you when you are not there to speak up for yourself.

They don't:

Ever take advantage of the friendship.

Withhold information from you that would benefit you.

Only call or come to your home when they need something.

Put you on the back burner for other friends (your friends should be able to mix with all your friends. There may be things they may not all enjoy as much, but if your friends really love you, they will come and participate)

They don't keep things from you, even if it means telling you that dress DOES make your ass look big.They are flat out honest with you.

They don't talk about you behind your back.

They don't have sex with you.

They don't enable you to harm yourself in any way.

They don't lie, cheat or steal from you.

They don't take the friendship for granted.


I can count my real friends , I know who they are, and that count shifts. New ones come in , old ones fade out. When you have a real friend, value that friendship, FOSTER that friendship. real friends are very hard to find!





Peshaui Wequashimese




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Friday, March 4, 2011

Not everything is meant to be shared "right now"

I had a person call and ask some really good questions about the metaphysical, and Native American spirituality. She wants to learn all about it, and thought that I gave some really great information at our last drumming. KUDOS! I love people who want to learn!! I answered the questions and then directed them to others for more information.

Some questions I get are very specific and people want to know how to do something that is way out of their depth (and sometimes even mine!). One asked how to form a construct. A construct is basically an energetic being that can be created to perform a certain repetitive task over and over again. Some may have seen them and thought they were zombie like people or mentally ill. They aren't "real" in the sense of you and I , but are energetically real. They are things I personally don't mess with.

You need someone who is an adept at ritual magic (and believe it or not I know two such folks, one was just on Ghost Adventures by the way), and I pointed this person in that direction.

Constructs usually guard ritual areas while the "magician" is away. They do mindless and repetitive tasks well.

The other question was about building a sweat lodge...alarm bells!!! No, I will NOT tell you how to build a sweat lodge. There are two parts to that question, one is structurally how to do it, and the other is spiritually how to do it, just building it without the spiritual end is wrong, wrong, wrong. It is long and complicated, and it isn't for people to do for ha ha's. Some Nations will only allow certain members (like chiefs, medicine people and minor chiefs, like sachems) to build a sweat lodge, although others can assist under their direction. I personally believe that if you have not studied under a Native American mentor, you don't do things like build a lodge. The thread must go back to a Native teacher. That doesn't mean white boys can't build sweat lodges, but only dedicated, tutored white boys can.There should also be several other things that this person has done and participated in that would qualify him to do so (like a Sun Dancer). And helping to build one or watching one being built isn't good enough).

James Ray taught us a valuable lesson. I don't know why sweat lodges have become so hot (no pun intended), but there seems to be a desire for the sweat lodge experience lately. Doing a sweat is SERIOUS, and should be taken seriously. Building constructs is serious and should be taken seriously. Some metaphysical stuff is OK to play around with and experiment with, some is not. Be very careful when treading on another culture's grounds. Want a sweat lodge experience? Go ask (properly) a Native for one. Don't know how to ask properly? Then you don't belong in a sweat lodge yet.

A colleague asked me to mention also, that the lodge is not a place for people with certain health issues. When you can't take the heat of a hot summer day, when it makes your heart pound (or you have heart issues), dizziness, breathing issues or hydration issues, such as kidney problems...or pregnancy...the lodge is not the place to be.

Constructs are hard to impossible to undo. There is a reason for that which is inherent in their being and structure, so make sure you want this being around you FOREVER.

Know the seriousness and permanence of whatever you do. Make sure that you aren't stepping on anyone's toes. Make sure that you really know what you are doing,that requires RESEARCH, as in proper research...

Work your way up to these things. Many times the answer is not "no", but rather "not yet". It, many times, takes years for study to work up to certain things, and gain the right amount of knowledge and direct experience.

Just like you wouldn't perform surgery on yourself, leave the big important stuff to knowledgeable people. Just like you would not let a person who isn't a certified surgeon do your surgery, don't allow someone who "just watched it many times" or "read it in a book" do serious procedures for you. Obtain knowledgeable, seasoned, serious, and certified people for the work.

People think Ouiji Boards are harmless, after all aren't they a toy ? Far from it, there is no reason to EVER mess with such a thing. Tell it that its' door is closed for ever, then burn it and bury it. (The new plastic ones are of course hard to burn, so just bury it).Even seasoned professionals stay far away from Ouiji boards.They have the knowledge, power and gatekeepers to keep the ugly from using that wide open door, but they don't bother, because there are other better, safer ways to do so. (that is the type of knowledge and experience you need).

Know what you are getting into, and know the seriousness of things. Not sure, ask. Not sure who to ask? Ask me, and I will gladly point you in the right direction!

Have a great weekend!!!


Peshaui Wequashimese




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Thursday, March 3, 2011

More rights and responsibilities....

Yesterday the Supreme Court gave the Westboro Baptist Church the right to protest at funerals saying they have freedom of speech. Well, of course they do, however, the lack there seems to be more in the area of manners, consideration and common sense. Their words and actions show that the Bible is obviously a book they never read, completely misunderstand, or better yet, that their leader is a hateful, cruel, sadistic nut, and that is on one of his better days. See , I too have freedom of speech, and although there are more choice words I could use to describe these individuals, I won't.

Mark Twain said it well:
It is by the goodness of God that in our country we have those three unspeakably precious things: freedom of speech, freedom of conscience, and the prudence never to practice either of them
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What Twain was getting at, is that even though you have the freedom of speech, it would be wise not to use it too often, or in an inappropriate way. Westboro knows their rights, but not their responsibilities, as a "church" they should be helping any and all individuals through the process of death and grieving. They fail at one of the most basic responsibilities of a church. But then calling them a church is giving them WAYY too much credit.

I would hope that more of you out there have more sense than these homophobes at the Westboro church. I also hope that any one who sees them protesting calls the police and asks that they be charged with disturbing the peace, creating a public nuisance, inciting a riot , trespass, harassment, or anything thing else one can think of. They want to fight for their rights, then others need to fight fire with fire. Give them a taste of their own medicine, then when at the end of the day, the Patriot Guards leave and funeral is over, the place where the members of the Westboro "church" stood will be empty, and their won't be enough members left to bail their cohorts out of jail.

Do not allow such injustices to exist, condoning such behavior is as bad as exhibiting it.

Do the right thing for the right reasons!



Peshaui Wequashimese






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Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Appreciation

How appreciative are you? I don't really get a true sense of appreciation that people have for things. I get a sense of entitlement. That which you are entitled to , is that which you EARN. It is sort of like respect. So many people are getting "all kinds of excited" over things that are not given to them, or when things are taken away. Then there is another aspect of it, the "this isn't good enough" aspect.

Appreciate everything, no matter how small, no matter how short. Nothing is due to you. Nothing. The things I hear lately, and I have to say that this time the ladies are the main offenders, is sickening. For some reason they think that men, not husbands either by the way, should do things like shower them with gifts (like cars and rent ), send them money, buy everything top notch....all while they do nothing. Then when it isn't good enough or he complains, HE is the issue.

Ladies (and gentlemen), the ONLY thing that you are entitled to , is that which you work for and earn yourself. Period. You are not entitled to gifts, huge engagement rings, total attention from anyone, or to skate on bills. You don't get to live rent free just because you had a bad year (the landlord still has to pay his mortgage). When you depend on another person for all your world goods, you need to be appreciative. The key is to not have to depend on another person for anything. Have your own job, home, and car. This way you are under no one's thumb, you will always have your self respect, freedom, and say in everything. When the relationship breaks up, you are not out on the street. When you are disabled, that is one thing, but so many are looking to live off money provided by foster care (and this is the WORST), unemployment, welfare, and grants when they are not deserving of any of it.

You don't get to live off of me and everyone else who works, nor not pay your taxes while the rest of us do. It will catch up to you and life will get very expensive. A lady who is a friend's mom in NJ, is having her social security checks taken from her since she owes the government so many taxes she never filed. Get smart, and get with the program.

The days of women staying at home to be totally supported by a man, are long gone and women are respected for what they do. Women who do nothing are not respected by anyone.

Since the age of 16, no one ever supported me, but me. There was a few months on unemployment, while I also worked to make ends meet. There was sharing in household expenses, but I was never a "kept woman", except by my Mother when I was a kid.

Have an appreciation for anything and everything. Don't worry that your boss is a jerk, be appreciative that you have a job. Don't worry that your car is 10 years old, be appreciative you don't have to take the bus to work. Don't fuss that you had to have a peanut butter and jelly sandwich for lunch, be appreciative that you were able to eat today!

A friend and I were talking the other night about quilts, since I am making one for my wedding. She always wondered why they had $500 price tags, until she took a quilting class with me. Once she bought the fabric, tools, and put in her time, she knew that $500 cost for a completed quilt, is a great price (quilter's cotton is generally $10 per yard and up. A quilt can take 12 yards of fabric easily). Sometimes we learn to appreciate by seeing the other side of things. LOOK for the other side of things.Be on the giving end.

Always be appreciative and always give a heartfelt "thank you". Never say it isn't good enough or that you should have "the best". You should have nothing but what you give yourself. Give without expectation of return. Give without expectation of recognition. Give locally, and to those who appreciate your generosity.

Manners still do count for much in this world. Being appreciative is just one way of "minding your manners".


Thank you for reading!




Peshaui Wequashimese





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Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Internet Dating- The place to find scammers

When you listen to internet dating ads, you would think that they are the greatest thing for couples since the village matchmaker. My daily life trying to help those who internet date, tells me the opposite.

The websites are great if you just want to date, no expectations, no promises. Not allowing anyone to get too close. Otherwise their success rate is next to zero. I have people that call each month (or more than once a month) about a person they met on a website. They go through them like water.

Websites allow people who have issues to hide them until you are reeled in. The issues I hear everyday are :

Money borrowed and never returned

Men promising marriage , then disappearing after a few weeks (anyone who wants to marry you on the first date has issues)

Theft

Abuse

Cheating (many of those on line are married and deny it)

Sexual issues

Many on line have emotional, and mental issues. There are tons of alcoholics and drug addicts out there who are lonely.


I have heard of only one happy union, which led to a happy marriage, from internet dating. When there are millions on line, the averages don't strike me as being very good.The bad stories are VERY bad. There have been bank accounts cleaned out, sexual diseases, physical abuse, abuse of their children, destruction of property.

The best way to find "the one" is still the old fashioned way. Know the person and know people who know the person. When your girlfriends make a face when you mention your date's name, take that as a hint. When you are an independent soul who does not need a partner to pay your bills, you find quality.

People on line and living states away can hide so many things that come up when it is too late. Then there is the logistical issue. When your beloved lives far away, how do you combine households? It is hard enough to do that locally. When you have kids, they need to be uprooted from friends and change schools. One of you needs to change jobs, and that is a hard thing to do these days. Someone may need to sell a home. Then, what if it doesn't work out? I have so many clients stranded in unfamiliar cities and states with no friends, becusue they went there for a man who turned out to be a toad, or worse.

Why is everyone in such a rush? Slow down, take your time, and let the Universe bring the two of you together. When you feel you just have to internet date. Take it VERY slow, and don't be afraid to run a check on the person, it costs something like $10.00 to see if Prince Charming owes a bunch of IRS taxes, is about to get arrested for non payment of child support, had his last 4 wives die suddenly, or is actually currently married to one.You can even see his REAL income bracket. I have had all of these things happen (and some several times), to my clients. It isn't worth it. Most importantly, if you have children in the house, see if he is on the sexual predator list, that is free. Many are now using internet dating to get into homes with small children.

Ever wonder why that handsome photo of the well off guy who loves intimate candlelit dinners is even on the net? You should!

The ideal mate is found in familiar surroundings. Not on the internet (at least for 99% of you anyway).Go out and do what you love, and you will find someone on the same path as you.

Be careful out there.




Peshaui Wequashimese




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