When you listen to internet dating ads, you would think that they are the greatest thing for couples since the village matchmaker. My daily life trying to help those who internet date, tells me the opposite.
The websites are great if you just want to date, no expectations, no promises. Not allowing anyone to get too close. Otherwise their success rate is next to zero. I have people that call each month (or more than once a month) about a person they met on a website. They go through them like water.
Websites allow people who have issues to hide them until you are reeled in. The issues I hear everyday are :
Money borrowed and never returned
Men promising marriage , then disappearing after a few weeks (anyone who wants to marry you on the first date has issues)
Theft
Abuse
Cheating (many of those on line are married and deny it)
Sexual issues
Many on line have emotional, and mental issues. There are tons of alcoholics and drug addicts out there who are lonely.
I have heard of only one happy union, which led to a happy marriage, from internet dating. When there are millions on line, the averages don't strike me as being very good.The bad stories are VERY bad. There have been bank accounts cleaned out, sexual diseases, physical abuse, abuse of their children, destruction of property.
The best way to find "the one" is still the old fashioned way. Know the person and know people who know the person. When your girlfriends make a face when you mention your date's name, take that as a hint. When you are an independent soul who does not need a partner to pay your bills, you find quality.
People on line and living states away can hide so many things that come up when it is too late. Then there is the logistical issue. When your beloved lives far away, how do you combine households? It is hard enough to do that locally. When you have kids, they need to be uprooted from friends and change schools. One of you needs to change jobs, and that is a hard thing to do these days. Someone may need to sell a home. Then, what if it doesn't work out? I have so many clients stranded in unfamiliar cities and states with no friends, becusue they went there for a man who turned out to be a toad, or worse.
Why is everyone in such a rush? Slow down, take your time, and let the Universe bring the two of you together. When you feel you just have to internet date. Take it VERY slow, and don't be afraid to run a check on the person, it costs something like $10.00 to see if Prince Charming owes a bunch of IRS taxes, is about to get arrested for non payment of child support, had his last 4 wives die suddenly, or is actually currently married to one.You can even see his REAL income bracket. I have had all of these things happen (and some several times), to my clients. It isn't worth it. Most importantly, if you have children in the house, see if he is on the sexual predator list, that is free. Many are now using internet dating to get into homes with small children.
Ever wonder why that handsome photo of the well off guy who loves intimate candlelit dinners is even on the net? You should!
The ideal mate is found in familiar surroundings. Not on the internet (at least for 99% of you anyway).Go out and do what you love, and you will find someone on the same path as you.
Be careful out there.
Peshaui Wequashimese
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