Friends

I have seen that clients have different ways of understanding words for people. Especially in relationships. This morning I was trying to find a word for a person that is a friend, but a little more than a friend. Afterward I looked at my email, and some things that were done and said in the past week, and I looked back at the past year. I sat down and thought...what makes a friend?

Many things have been quoted on friends....cute little , sweet sayings. But defining a friend can be difficult. We have levels of friends too. But true or real friends, what are they?

I then composed an email to someone I know is a true friend, and in writing it, lots of thoughts came to mind about what a friend really is. Then there is the very important flip side to that, what a friend really isn't.

So here are some of my thoughts, and feel free to comment or email me on what you think about a true friend...

True friends:

Are always there when you need them, and sometimes when you don't.

Real friends are helpful without looking for help in return or without making a big deal out of it.

Real friends are people who are totally honest with you.

They always have your back.

The facilitate your livelihood, health, and well being.

They facilitate your dreams and tell you when they think your dream needs adjustments.

They keep their promises to you.

They participate in your activities, even if it isn't "their thing".

They make sure you are always where you need to be.

Speak up for you when you are not there to speak up for yourself.

They don't:

Ever take advantage of the friendship.

Withhold information from you that would benefit you.

Only call or come to your home when they need something.

Put you on the back burner for other friends (your friends should be able to mix with all your friends. There may be things they may not all enjoy as much, but if your friends really love you, they will come and participate)

They don't keep things from you, even if it means telling you that dress DOES make your ass look big.They are flat out honest with you.

They don't talk about you behind your back.

They don't have sex with you.

They don't enable you to harm yourself in any way.

They don't lie, cheat or steal from you.

They don't take the friendship for granted.


I can count my real friends , I know who they are, and that count shifts. New ones come in , old ones fade out. When you have a real friend, value that friendship, FOSTER that friendship. real friends are very hard to find!





Peshaui Wequashimese




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