Thursday, December 19, 2013

...and then what?

The hot thing to do these days is "ghost hunt"...we who know what we are doing, prefer the term paranormal  investigations. Everyone with a few dollars and a little nerve can get in on the excitement, which is fine...to a point.

The past 30 years or so , I have spent learning about the paranormal. I am not just talking ghosts and haunting, but all of it. Energy work, healing, cleansing, the psychic world, belief systems of the world, ancient religions, other beings (like black shadow people, earth spirits) ley lines, dowsing, and on and on and on.
There is so much there that is interconnected and effecting other aspects  of each other.

When you go to a home to investigate, just getting a noise, an EVP, or seeing a shadow, doesn't tell you a thing. Seeing these things doesn't even mean a home is haunted, and if you provoke activity, the place may not even be haunted at all! You have to know or find out many things. First, is there a haunting, a genuine haunting? I have said many times, every house has a spirit or two. We carry them with us all the time in the form of guides. When people say their kids are talking to their invisible friends, it doesn't necessarily mean "ghosts", it could well be their guides. We cannot ever enter a building and there not be a spirit in that building since we carry them in all the time.

When we decide there is something going on, it still doesn't mean a haunting. A haunting requires consistent and continual activity that stays at the same level or increases, otherwise you simply have had spirit activity, or paranormal phenomenon.

Then you have to fine tune that a bit, for example, is the activity intelligent, residual, poltergeist , nature spirits or negative? You need to know how to figure all this out, and better yet, you need to know WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT.

When families are scared or having issues, just leaving that night saying "Yup, it's haunted" doesn't help them.
You have to be able to advise them or directly help them. You need an expert, someone who has been studying and experiencing things for a long time. You need people that understand the other side, how it works, the levels, the types of energy that can come through, and how to address that.

Too many people watch TV, go on a few organized hunts and then fancy themselves "ghost hunters", they go into people's homes, stir the pot and leave. This helps no one, it sometimes gets some EVPs for the investigators, but that is about it. The family isn't helped, and the activity may actually worsen.

When Uncle Joe who has passed is wandering around the house at night, that is fairly easy to address. What if the person were a suicide? What if it is non human? What if it is Nature Spirit activity or poltergeist activity? Do you know what to do? If the answer is "no" don't be leading , or forming a "ghost hunt group". Learn from experienced people. The ones who know how to handle each eventuality are rare. The ones who know how to figure out what is what aren't exactly easy to find either. People who walk around with a camera and a voice recorder are a dime a dozen.

Remember, when Zach Bagans goes into a site, he isn't there to help a homeowner solve their issue, so don't be like Zach.

My husband and I make sure we help people. Our group Paranormal Research and Investigation, Ohio Valley, knows how to investigate and how to help. We know how to figure out what is what and what to do about it. We know how to cleanse and bless the area in different ways. I always think it is funny when people say something like they held up a cross and told the spirit to get out. First of all, human spirits don't care what you are holding....evil stuff will take more than that, and what if the entity is non human or maybe a Jewish spirit? People watch too many movies that they think are informative.

I have said it before and will say it again....learn from knowledgeable people who have been successful in solving issues over a long period of time. Watching all the shows and going to established sites with groups does not a paranormal investigator make!

Be safe out there!





Peshaui Wequashimese




(C)2013 Dr. R M Wolf.. May not be used,copied or reproduced without prior written permission.





Monday, December 16, 2013

You have to BELIEVE AND DO THE WORK

I have clients tell me all the time that they don't understand why things aren't getting more positive and abundant for them. They are saying affirmations, they are setting goals and asking for things, they are doing the work, but nothing is changing. They at the same time tell me how their life stinks, how this person is out to get them, and that one is getting better treatment, and the one of there is always getting what she wants....

I'm sorry I thought that you said you were working in the positive? 



When you are still dwelling on why some other person is, in your opinion, or in fact, getting treated better than you; when you wish ill on those who you feel have done your wrong in the past; when you recite all the bad things going on in your life; when you have issues with everyone you meet and feel that every word out of a person's mouth is a hidden attack...then you are FAR from working in the light, thinking positively and doing the work.

You can say affirmations til the cows come home and NOTHING will happen, unless you are doing it correctly. Doing it correctly means changing your THINKING, your ENERGY, and your BELIEF. You can't just say the words, you have to BELIEVE them and WORK towards them.

Say affirmations as if they are already happening and state your goals. It is easy to find a positive thing to say. I have people who have a roof over their heads, tell me their financial world is a mess, dire, terrible. How can they think positive?





People who manifest well are people who are appreciative. They thank the Universe every day for each good thing. When you believe, and you work it, you will find it easy. Many struggle with this, some to the point where they actually need professional help....but most can do this on their own. Every time you want to complain and be upset about something, do two things, one state your unhappiness. When a person truly does you wrong, tell them about it, but make sure that you aren't just imagining a slight, or making mountains out of molehills. Then look at what good came of it. Thank the Universe for the good, and restate your goal.

It will go something like this: 

My friend "So and So" again made a point to put me down today in front of others.  I am sure this is happening and others have commented to me about it also.

I have told "So and so" that since I feel that she constantly puts me down , I will have to discontinue this friendship. I don't lecture her on it, call her names, or cause trouble in her life, I quietly exit.

Universe, thank you for helping me see the issue clearly and stand up for myself. 

Affirm- The Universe is enabling me to take people out of my life that no longer serve my highest good , The Universe is bringing in new people who are helping me achieve my goals and giving the gift of true friendship which I will return in kind.

Now, keep in mind when we ask for highest good, it may be something we don't like. Maybe we need people to tell us that we are over sensitive about the and So & Sos of the world and need to let some things go.

People think that working towards a higher state and manifesting means only really warm and fuzzy things will happen....not so. When there are things you need to do or learn first, then they are NOT warm and fuzzy. You don't automatically get all the good stuff just because you say magic words....remember I said you have to work it.

To get Prince Charming, you need to BE Princess Charming. To get the great job, you have to be capable, qualified, and get along well with others. You don't just get magic.

 Manifesting is a tool of communication and COOPERATION with the Universe, not the Universe bestowing gifts on you because you are so damn awesome.

When you dwell on and believe others have it better than you.....others WILL have it better than you, you are  manifesting FOR them.

Work it, own it, be it.
Never ask for something to be taken from another (you don't know their life lessons and "highest good"). Never ask for the free will of others to be taken away (make him love me). Never ask for harm for another.

Do the right things for the right reasons.




Peshaui Wequashimese


(C)2013 Dr R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.


Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Ah the internet

The internet is a place where we can go to see places we would never see; to get information; to connect with others; to pay bills; go to school; video chat with family.....the possibilities are numerous. There is a bad side however, to the internet. It allows people who have bad intent, who are misguided, who are emotionally or mentally disturbed,or who are problematic, a platform to spout nonsense.

Worse yet, it allows people to perpetuate the perfect bull. The best way to get away with telling a whopper of a lie is to make sure there is a lot of truth to it. Many people don't check things out at all. They believe if it is on the net it is true (which probably happens less than half the time). I have written many times about not passing along all those "warnings" your friends and family send you . You know the ones about how it is easy for someone to rob your house if you do this, clean your oven if you do that, steal your car if you are here or there....it is endless.

There are places to check this information. Not only are there sites that deal with all the BS and sort it out for you, but there is common sense. There are reliable news sources. Make sure that you check several of those also. Then there are the spoof sites, they write witty satire in a way that gullible people latch on to as real. Make sure you aren't being pranked by a site like The Onion.

Then there are the really bad guys. They have big soap boxes. Webpages, pages on Facebook and other social networking sites. They are negative as can be, and take the stance that they are helping, or exposing. I assume you have heard of the Westboro Baptist Church. They are a prime example. There are many sites and pages now that claim to expose wrong doing, bad people, and more. I don't know who made them the Karma Police, but apparently they think it is OK to enforce their beliefs on the world. They do that "good lie" thing, they start with a fact or facts, and either embellish or make that fact look like a very bad thing. They get their self esteem through putting others down. They are passive aggressive people who have nothing better to do than try to make others look small so they can look big.

I was going to name sites this morning, but then thought...why give them more press, they would love it. They are easy to spot. They don't do it for profit, they do it for an emotional high that makes them feel like they are saving the world. 

When any site tells you someone or something is bad, check it out. Check it out several ways and in several places. When there is one iota of untruth, stop, disregard the whole thing and move on. Sites like these ruin people's lives, businesses and relationships. They are nothing but mean, spiteful and hateful, with a big dose of Holier Than Thou. Bypass them all! Nothing good will ever come of any person saying they have the scoop on who is good and who is bad. Gossip is gossip, even if it is on a webpage.

Be careful out there because there is more MISinformation, than information on the webpage these days.

...and while you even think for a moment of spreading the rumor, remember these two things:

DO UNTO OTHERS


DO THE RIGHT THING FOR THE RIGHT REASONS!



Peshaui Wequashimese



(C)2013 Dr RM Wolf , may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

The REAL Christmas

The following has been taken from past blogs, this is all information about the true roots of Christmas. Now please don't take this to mean there wasn't a Jesus of Nazareth, he just wasn't born December 25, and depending on your belief system, he was a man, a scholar, a guru or the son of God. I don't dictate dogma in this blog. To each his own, however here is the real Christmas (and other holidays) story.

When the "Church" was first founded in the Roman empire, it needed members. This meant that they had to go out and convince the locals to join the church. This was a hard sell, especially in Rome. There were many temples, gods and goddesses. There were fun and interesting celebrations. Things were going very well, people weren't looking for an answer for the most part. The church realized that the best way to get people in the doors, was to make it familiar, and comfortable, so they borrowed the Pagan celebrations and holidays.

Oestre became Easter. It is a fertility celebration, about birthing new animals and growing abundant crops, it fits in with the whole Christian Easter story of rebirth (the world reawakening in spring), and fertility, life, and growth.

Christmas is all about Christ's birth, right? Christ's name IS in "Christmas".  Well, yes, but that is because the Church made it that way. Jesus of Nazareth was born, most likely, in the spring. Scholars argue that point, one group forgoing spring and saying he was born in September. Either way they agree it was no where near December 25. Jesus was born a Jewish boy who went to Temple, born in Nazareth, most likely in the spring time. He isn't a Capricorn, he is most likely a Taurus or Virgo. The Church already borrowed Oestre and made it Easter, so we can't crowd that all together. We have a huge Roman celebration that we need to fit into the scheme of things, Saturnalia. The Saturnalia celebration was very popular, so it became Christmas.

This all wasn't a big secret really, but it wasn't broadcast either. The Catholic Encyclopedia in 1911 stated that "Christmas was not among the earliest festivals of the Church…the first evidence of the feast is from Egypt.” Further, “Pagan customs centering around the January calendars gravitated to Christmas.” Under “Natal Day,” Origen, an early Catholic writer, admitted, “…In the Scriptures, no one is recorded to have kept a feast or held a great banquet on his birthday. It is only sinners (like Pharaoh and Herod) who make great rejoicings over the day in which they were born into this world”.  The way the ancients marked a great man, was by honoring him on the day he died, not on the day he was born. That is a "modern" take on things. This helps us realize that celebrating the birth of Christ is a modern thing, not ancient.

The celebration of Saturnalia was of course to honor the god Saturn. It was a celebration that lasted December 17 through the 23rd. There was feasting, gift giving, parties and sacrifices. The best twist of the celebration was that the masters served the slaves. Everyone was involved in the carnival atmosphere that went on for days and even included gambling. There was singing and dancing in the streets, and human shaped biscuits were made and consumed. No one would want to end this fun festival for a new holiday in the Church! The Roman Catholic Church knew it had to include the celebration to get the people into the church. It took about 200 years. That's right, Christmas wasn't celebrated in the Church for about 200 years after Jesus was born.

Saturnalia was a "festival of light", so, by the way , is the Jewish celebration Hanukkah, celebrated around the same time. Hanukkah is to celebrate a battle. But they all celebrate, in essence, the winter solstice and bringing light to the darkness. The days are now again beginning to get longer the day after the winter solstice (usually December 21 in the northern hemisphere). The light is returning as again the days get "longer". The pagans will tell you that the Holly King is off of the throne and the Oak King has returned to bring back the light.

Saturnalia was always about gifts, family, parties, light, and fun, it just didn't have Christ thrown into the mix until 200 years after his birth. Saturnalia even continued to run hand in hand with Christmas for a while.We added to the celebration as the years went by including bringing in greenery to give us hope that spring would return. This was popular in Eastern Europe, but originated in the North. The Christmas tree has absolutely nothing to do with Christ or Saturnalia, it is a new twist. Some groups will have stories to add the reason for things like the tree, that make it "authentic", but trees had nothing to do with Christmas until modern times.

During the Middle Ages the Church banned gift giving at Christmas saying it was a pagan tradition as it harkened back to Saturnalia. Today gift giving is again included in Christmas, and many "non religious" people celebrate the holiday, some even in its' original form, as a celebration of light!

Today Christmas is a popular holiday , it is both secular and non secular. It is celebrated all over the world in different ways. At the same time, or close enough to it, the Jewish people are celebrating their festival of lights, Hanukkah, and the Pagans are celebrating the winter solstice as a celebration of light coming back into the world.

When the winter is long and the days are cold, it is a little ray of hope to recognize that each day is light a little bit longer. Each day creeps closer and closer to spring.Light and warmth return, and the winter solstice is the beginning of that.

All the celebrations of the Church can be traced back to pagan roots, the fun part is to be open minded enough to find them. It will be interesting when some day a scholar is able to pinpoint Jesus birthday, will we change the date of Christmas or start a new celebration? We already have a day to mark Jesus death, as was the way in the olden days, but we seem to be a few months off on his birthday.

 Some interesting Christmas facts:

Some countries celebrate Christmas on January 6, 7, or 19th. They tried to figure Jesus birth by conception date. Any Mom will let you know how well that works!  Others will tell you that there would be no shepherds about on late December or early January, and that he was actually born in spring or early fall (September). Dates that are popular with scholars include May 20, April 18, and March 25.

Christmas had/has other names: "midwinter", "Yule", "Jol" and "Noel".

Places that don't officially celebrate Christmas include: China (except Hong Kong), North Korea, Thailand, Saudi Arabia, Algeria, Iran, Turkey and Japan.

In many officially Catholic countries, parades are held up up to the time of Christmas, all with a religious nature to them, of course.

The term "Christmas tree" was not recorded until 1835. Christmas trees are German, pagan traditions, not Christian. The first Christmas trees were said to be used in Germany in the 18th century , although they weren't used primarily for Christmas in the beginning, but as a way to celebrate life and the winter solstice. They were ALWAYS green after all!

People began putting up Christmas trees in the US around 1870.

Santa Claus as we know him began as Sinterklaas with the Dutch. There were traditions of gift giving prior to "Santa Claus" in other places, like a witch who tossed gifts down chimneys at Halloween in Eastern Europe.

Other names for Santa include: St. Nick, Kris Kringle, Babbo Natale, Father Christmas, Saint Basil,and Joulupukki.

The modern image of Santa was created in New York thanks to author Washington Irving, who also wrote the Headless Horseman, a Halloween favorite!

Ancient documents on Jesus birth connect him the the sun. Like many powerful entities in many cultures, the sun was a god and was what ruled the earth. Jesus was literally described as the "sun" being born. "...the 'Birthday of the Unconquered'. Who indeed is so unconquered as Our Lord ...? Or, if they say that it is the birthday of the Sun, He is the Sun of Justice."  We managed to change that to "son". There are pages and pages of prophecy about the "sun" being born, not the "son".

Christmas during the Middle Ages included gift giving, but only between those with a legal tie, such as landlord and tenant, or master and apprentice.

The English gave us the dancing, parties, and more public celebrations.

The Puritans in the US tried to ban Christmas. They succeeded in Boston from 1659 to 1681.It took many years after the ban for Christmas to become popular.

The German settlers in PA and NC celebrated Christmas on a large scale at the same time and made it very popular.They brought Christmas to the new country.

Christmas celebrations had died down for a while but were revived in the 1820's thanks to stories by Washington Irving in "The Sketch Book".

President U. S. Grant proclaimed Christmas an official Federal holiday in 1870. 

No matter how you celebrate, enjoy the season!!




Peshaui Wequashimese



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Monday, December 2, 2013

The ME ME ME goes on and on.....

I have written in the past about how TOO many people are focused on only themselves. It is all about what they want, how they feel, what they need, where they want to be. It is about people paying attention to them, and doing for them. There is a sense of entitlement in this country that is pathetic. You are entitled to NOTHING. Not respect, not love, not material goods, not friendship.... NOTHING.

Everything in life that has value, is earned, and it is either achieved by dedication, actions, or earned by work of some sort. It may be schoolwork, manual labor or philosophical work, but it is work.

There was a time when people raised their kids to be their friends, not their children. A time when they told them they were good people, no matter what they did. They set the example that it was always the fault of another person or circumstance. This was a reaction to people putting down others who didn't achieve.We had programs even like "no child left behind", where are those children now?  We went overboard. Now what we have is a bunch of folks strolling the planet that think that the rules do not apply to them. They are perfect, and they can do no wrong. Actually they do wrong constantly and they demand things they have no right to.This has led to people going overboard much more frequently than in the past. They shoot each other over partners or an X-Box. They fail their way through school, live disappointing lives and take and demand from others who have worked hard.

This year we went to the Christmas tree farm to pick out our tree. The farm was entirely roped off except for a few little "entrances" here and there.  I said to my husband, "I guess people trample over the same ground and they want to guide folks down the rows".

I don't think like a lazy, selfish person, so I didn't even imagine the need for the rope. When we went to pick up our tree, we asked. Apparently many folks (usually in SUVs and trucks), were driving all over the farmer's field to pick out their tree. They caused ruts and erosion, two of the farmer's worst enemies. They didn't care, they were just too lazy to walk and find their tree....I recommend Walmart for them next year. They can drive right up and pick it out.

I have heard people complain that their new dating partner spends too much time with ; too much energy on; too much money for....their kids. Seriously? When you are jealous of your partner's kids, you aren't mature enough to be in a relationship. Don't even look for a person with no kids, mature first, and stop thinking of only yourself.

People have no regard for others, just what they want and need. I am happy to say that not everyone has become this horrible, selfish person, but too many have.

It isn't always a material thing they want, it could be attention, love, friendship. You cannot demand any of those things. You can't get them until you GIVE them either. 

Life is cooperation, exchange, teamwork. That doesn't mean that you only do for those who can do for you, but it does mean that you cannot take, take, take. You are entitled to NOTHING, not even a "hello". Some people wonder why their family won't talk to them , their co-workers are all against them, they have no friends, and no partner. They want to know what is wrong with the world. What is wrong is THEM. Make sure you always think of each decision as to how it will effect others. What goes around does come around. Karma is a wheel and it is always turning. You choose what day you will have and what attitude you will have. Choose wisely.


It really isn't all about you......


Peshaui Wequashimese



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Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Perception

Perception is reality....it is YOUR reality. When we perceive something as being a certain way, to us it is that way for everyone. What we have to remember is that it is our reality, not reality. That saying "perception is reality" is not true at all, it needs to be modified to "perception is the perceiver's reality".

Many times we have an idea about how things "are" or how they "should be". Sometimes we are looking for something. When we have those preconceived ideas or ways of dealing with the world, we constantly fool ourselves.

People who are prejudicial are a prime example. They believe that all people of a certain race, creed, or sexual preference, are all the same (and usually in a negative way). When they look at people in their "prejudicial" group they automatically "see" those things that upset them, even though they may not be there at all.They fear those people or situations in some way, and that is why we get a negative reaction.

We cannot apply terms like "all", "always" and "never" to people. It just doesn't work. People are a product of their environment, and that is most profoundly effective before the age of 6 years. That is when we learn how we are going to be. Are we trusting, analytical, open, disbelieving? All of those things are shaped by our environment and our ability to learn and perceive the world.

When people are not taught to have  an open mind, to research, and to not jump to conclusions, they make many mistakes in life. They miss opportunities, friends, even happiness that they would have found in things that were different, unusual, or even a bit scary.

There are people who see signs in everything, people who hear "ghosts" in every creak, and who see issues with people that are really their own issues. When you see a person who uses the same language or terms when talking about others they do not like, you will know what they person persieves themselves as (or fears others will see). People who take , take , take, call others "thieves"; people who decieve and trick, call others "liars"; people who are afraid of their masculinity call others "homos" , or some other similar derogatory term. When you hear the same terms coming out of a person's mouth over and over, you will know exactly what that person is, or believes themselves to be...and perception is reality, right?

Be careful of not jumping to conclusions, as the old saying goes, when you "assume", you make an ASS out of U and ME.

DO unto others!!
DO the RIGHT things for the RIGHT reasons


Peshaui Wequashimese



(C) 2013 Dr R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Monday, November 25, 2013

How to really clean house....

The way to really clean house.....move. Drastic, I know.

I have found things I forgot I had, which isn't really house cleaning, but packing and preparing the house for showings, is a whole adventure. I have cleaned areas that I never clean ,like the tops of door trim (oh please you never clean yours either). I have winnowed out my metaphysical library and will share it with others. I am also pulling some fiction books from a book case that I have read a few times, it is time for someone else to enjoy them. I have tossed things away, given things away, and lightened the load. I have also painted, fixed, cleaned up, replaced and put away so many things, it is hard to list the tally.I can tell you that about 40 bags of leaves left the yard (we have a large piece of property with about 15 trees, big ones, with lots of leaves).

Matt has cleaned the garage, something he has been saying he would do since he moved in here, and you can actually move through there, and GASP, park a car in there!

We have walls repaired where the last owner did a poor job, new lighting, new ceiling downstairs, and the back porch is free of spider webs for the first time in eons...sorry spiders.

The house is CLEAN, it is ALMOST magazine clean.

So onward and forward we go. A new home, another CLEAN home, very clean, and it feels good. We were making plans and they have all come to fruition , each one manifesting to what we wanted and needed.

Now I am going to manifest a quick sale, not just a sale, that is always a good thing, when you sell quickly. When you have a day where you really want to clean your house, act like you want to sell it and sell it quickly, you will be shocked at the difference!

Now to stockpile some wine for our housewarming party!

Manifest well, with good intent & the results are quick and fruitful.


Happy Thanksgiving!
I am thankful for all of you!




Peshaui Wequashimese



(C)2013 Dr R M Wolf, May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.


Wednesday, November 20, 2013

New Horizons

There have been three to four months now where I was thinking of decreasing or ending my time with a group. There were a few things that bothered me from one person making all the decisions and having complete control of club actions, to the group becoming what was "quantity" and not "quality". It wasn't fitting what was comfortable for me, and each trip, each change, was met with an upset, a disaster, or a change that caused an upheaval. Things were changed for the better, then reversed. Things were constantly in flux, all because of personal decisions and issues.

Most recently when helping a client , the local media was called in, which is fine, but it would have been nice if we were all asked first. I didn't mind, but some others did, but they went with the flow to help the homeowner. Club leadership spent more time with the media than the client. I felt so sorry for her. Then, without asking, the leader took the homeowner's Ouiji Board and left with it.They TOLD her they were taking it, but didn't ASK. I had told her what to do with it, and made it safe for her. I wouldn't have bothered closing it off for her, if we were just going to pass it on to a collector, let him do it! I am sure it is in safe hands, but that isn't the point. I felt like I was on an early episode of Haunted Collector.She wasn't asked, and was surprised,  as what we had told her 2 days before was now totally different that what was happening.It wasn't my decision, and to me it was the wrong decision.

I planned on pulling way back and just being around for cleansings and blessings. I wanted to limit my time and schedule other things in , and re-vamp what I was doing with the paranormal. I wasn't here for media attention, drama, or upsetting clients. I was here to help.  It took so long to decide what to do , as I didn't want to let others down, or feel like I wasn't truly helping. I no longer feel that way for sure!

Anyway, it was a bunch of things, all different things that made me decide to limit my time. Then a trip. A trip that included many of the group, and we all had a great time, or so it seems. We were divided into groups, which was a good thing. Apparently I didn't pay enough attention to an individual (who was in another group), and all of a sudden there were meetings, discussions and phone calls about me.

I will be, and always have been,  a person to speak my mind. I tell you , straight up, to your face what I think. I may temper it , and I am always polite about it, but I am flat out honest about it. I approach directly and sincerely. I sometimes take WAY too long and let people walk all over me, which is something I need to change, but I always get there....when I do get there....it is OVER.

This trip included several people who were not from the area, that I rarely see. I spent time talking and laughing with them...about 20 minutes. It was a "hen meeting", a bunch of women laughing. Some came in and joined, others left and went to unpack. A loose , happy, fun gathering. This was hours before the investigation started. We weren't neglecting our duties, but socializing, talking, planning, and talking about traveling to haunted locations out of the area....Well that 20 minutes away from those who run the group was too long.... apparently.

Instead of asking or talking to me about it that night , or even that whole week, it was talk ABOUT me time. I have a problem with that since I am so up front. That had sealed my decision for me. Time to go. I had been nothing but generous, planning trips, giving rides, lending money, paying deposits, holding meetings at my home and more. The thanks I got....being slammed to others while they smiled in my face.

One person said...well "so and so" didn't think you talked to them enough. I am sorry, but last time I looked, friendship works two ways. You see me and I am talking to someone and you want to talk to me, walk your happy butt over and say "hi I want to talk to you". When people hold crap in and gripe about it to others , rather than the person they are upset with, I have NO TIME for those people.I have no time for negative, unhappy souls who spend their lives miserable. I have better things to do.

It wasn't simply being "talked about" it was flat out character assault.It was a barrage that included members, and friends of mine.It all came back to me (I guess no one expected the people who were being "talked to" to notify me). I was being called a liar , and not a true friend, and a plethora of other things. I was shocked, but NOT surprised. This is far from the first time that this type of drama has happened in this group. When I found out the reasons why people were upset, I felt like I was in third grade, not even high school. I quit. Like I said, I pull no punches, I quit loud, hard, and with finality. When I am done, I am done.

I had been talking to some others prior about having a travel group. Those of us with the time, health and money to make multiple long trips around the country going to haunted sites. Rawlins, Wyoming is one place many of us would love to go. This would not be feasible with the group I was in. It wasn't anything official yet and I even remarked to my husband, and a few friends that the trip where all this drama happened , would be my decision making moment.I was leaving or staying, which would it be.  I had no idea how right I was. The nonsense and childishness  that came out of that trip made me make the decision to go , but also to just have my own investigative group. A group that would vote on everything, help people, and go places and have fun. It would be kept small and NOT include people who were afraid to "ghost hunt", weren't really into it, didn't have emotional or mental issues, never show their face at an event , lived 500 miles away, needed media attention or really couldn't afford to go anywhere. I was tired of dealing with people issues, tempers and drama.

People quickly came to me, others who feel as I do, and they all jumped on board. It started with 7 people and now is a dozen. The group I left went into a day long war. People were ousted if they liked me, were in my group , or defended me. None of which is right, or legal...but that's OK, that is par for the course there and why I no longer am there. I had no problem with people in  my group being in the original group, but the original group did. They were told they weren't allowed to be in my group and to ....and I quote...GET OUT NOW.

I don't have time for control freaks, or drama, or people being hateful and nasty to others. I was so glad I was gone.The fact that people thought they could limit me, yet still have me around to do things, AND talk about me behind my back, FLOORS me . I was good enough to keep in teh group and use, but not good enough to be advised of group decisions. I was good enough to have around to use for blessings and cleansings, but not good enough to not be slandered to the group behind my back. Really?

Just limiting me would have fit happily into what I was looking to do. Not a problem, but use me for my abilities and slam me to everyone behind my back...why would I stay? Simple answer...I wasn't supposed to know I was being talked about. I was supposed to quietly stay and be used and abused....no thanks.

I ended up with 12 seasoned investigators so far. Ones with cars, phones, investigative equipment and the ability to pay for trips. I don't think there will be an ounce of drama , or one issue with that group. Thank goodness.

The hate and untruth that was spewed just because I didn't pay enough homage to one person is something that is beyond imagination, but it did what it has done in the past, made a new group form. This isn't the first time, nor I suspect, the last. It isn't even the first this year! There are very good paranormal groups that wouldn't exist if it weren't for the drama pushing them out to form their own groups. There are now four that I know of,  that exist just because of the drama of this group.

I do remain here for anyone who needs help. Advice, teachings, blessings, cleansings, and of course investigations. I have a group of dedicated and experienced investigators in two states, and they are all wonderful people who get along and have fun. We  hope to add to our group, but are setting the limit at 15.We want quality, not quantity. We are Paranormal Research  and Investigations, Ohio Valley.

This is one of my new horizons, this and a new home are currently happening, and a new center for the raptors is also in the works. I have even more ideas and plans, but one step at a time. All good change, all bringing me into better energy and better company. I am sure most of you now know I have quit that paranormal group, but for those that did not, now you do! I will no longer be associated with them in any way. I remain friends with people in the group and will not allow the leadership of that group to tell me who I can be friends with, and who I can do things with. I would hope others also will not.

When you plan your new horizons, the Universe may have bigger and better plans for you. Go with the flow. Let those bigger horizons come. Closing the old doors are hard for some, and situations dictate how hard they need to be closed, or how firmly they need to be locked. Go with the flow.....and let it carry you on to bigger and better things!


Peshaui Wequashimese




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Tuesday, November 12, 2013

The answer is" when it isn't fun anymore"....

People ask all kinds of questions all day long. I asked myself a question a few months ago and the answer of whether to continue forward, or take another path came down to the same answer you can supply for just about anything. The words may have to be adjusted a little , but basically you know it is time to move on when it isn't fun anymore.

This applies to hobbies, jobs, friends, partners, businesses, and even where you live. There should be an amount of pleasure in all of these things, some more than others, but they all have to have that "fun" or "pleasure" factor, or else it becomes a chore, drudgery, stressful and upsetting. There is no need to add any of those things to life. Now please do not tell me how you can't afford your dream house, so you live in a place you hate. There are not only places in between nirvana and hell, but it is in your power to change it. No one said it would be easy!

It isn't always easy to walk away or make big changes. Sometimes a lot of time, energy and even money is invested. When we cannot find a new avenue however (remember the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results), to attack problems from, we have to walk away.

People think that walking away is a bad thing. It is desertion, it is giving up. It isn't always that. "Giving up" only happens when you have NOT tried everything and have NOT done your best. When you have always given your all and things are not going right it is the Universe's message to move on.

Sometimes things start out differently than they end up. You have high hopes and goals, and they get changed by circumstances, people or availability of money or time. Then the plans need to change and may change to a place where there is no pleasure.

I have a bad habit of making things better for people. That sounds like an oxymoron doesn't it? Being a "fixer" is great until is gets to be your responsibility to fix and maintain, instead of your benevolence. "Help", isn't "help" if another person is not also working towards their goal with you. Then you can be enabling. I don't mind helping, I love helping, but helping means others are participating. Sometimes I get in so deep and am watching what I am working on excel and improve, that it takes a bit for me to realize that the person I was helping is now sitting on the sidelines taking it easy (the reason they needed help in the first place). One of my lessons to learn.

The moral of the story is, if it isn't fun anymore, don't continue. My job is fun, even though there are days when it is frustrating, it still is fun. Every day doesn't need to be a hoot for your life to be fun, but the scales need to be tipped in the right direction! My job is still fun, my marriage is a blast, my hobbies are fun, and my friends are fun. A little adjustment here and there every now and then doesn't hurt, and I do make those adjustments.

Many fear change, and that is usually from the unknown. I don't have a fear of the unknown, but a thirst for the knowledge of it,  to make it known. We are looking at finding a new home, one with more room, less maintenance and more "style". A home we will buy together instead of the home I bought years ago.This will be a major change, and already there are major changes going on all around me. Life is taking off again, and now I have to go and catch up.

Change is good, it finds you new people , hobbies, challenges, and more fun.

Do it until it isn't fun anymore, and while you are at it, do unto others......



Peshaui Wequashimese




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Thursday, November 7, 2013

Need help....ask.

I am sure that you have seen little signs in shops all over that say "Need help...ask". People are usually ready to help , but need to know you need it, want it, and what you are looking for. That means you have to ....ask.

I have seen people do the craziest things. Things from ridiculous to rude in the name of needing help. Sometimes they don't actually need help, but they go through so much energy trying to disguise the need, that they could have used that energy to solve the problem in the first place!

People do so many things to get in their own way. They wait until the last minute to do things, they don't plan, they get in over their heads (both energetically and financially). They are rude to people and then wonder why they don't respond favorably. They rush, they get upset and generally make a bigger mess than there was in the first place. Then they ask for help!

Most recently I have seen and heard from clients of people doing inproper things in the hopes of others "helping". I put "helping" in quotes, as some just want to be lazy and have others actually "do" for them.

When you want help, voice a specific need and see what is offered. Then make your plans and decisions based on that. Sometimes the answer is that you will have to wait to achieve that goal as you are not ready or do not have the help you need.

I have watched people move others around as if they were chess pieces on a chess board to get where they want to be. All they had to do was ask instead of inconveniencing everyone else. It didn't matter if the solution for themselves involved making others need help, it just solved their issue. This is unfair, selfish, and rude. It is reacting in a fear based manner (see yesterday's blog), instead of acting in a positive and faith filled manner.

I have also watched people "fish". They ask for help, but won't explain what is going on. They tell you they need something, but never why. It is usually a dramatic request. A friend was asked for money by another person , but the person would not tell them why they needed the money. The request was denied with a firm, "no".

People also try to manipulate others into helping by making them feel guilty. This is mental and emotional abuse. Never tolerate a person who gets what they want by putting fear or guilt into others.

Threats are sometimes used, "help me or else", this in another example where you just walk away, no need to tie a person like that even stronger to you by repeating a behavior that you will later regret.

Some don't ask at all , but sink nto a huge mess that they need others to pull them out of, they like being "saved", and allow the worst case scenario to happen when it didn't need to.


When you have an issue that needs to be resolved you first have to decide if it is that important. The answer may be to walk away. I have seen people struggling to hold on to cars and homes they can't afford, the answer may just be to sell the item, not to ask for help in paying for it. Then once that decision is made , you have to decide YOUR plan, and you have to have a starring role in the plan, and then see if you need help executing it. When you need help, you clearly state the issue to those whom you think can help and see what solutions are offered. Pick one, and give it 100%. Then make sure that you do NOT get into that same situation again!

The answer is not to inconvenience or change someone's situation in any way to make your better, it is not to make people feel sorry for you or wonder about you. It is to take action.

 As always, "Do unto others" and "Do the right things for the right reasons"

Peshaui Wequashimese




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Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Act, don't react

This past month has been a very busy time. Big decisions were made and are still being made, but the good news is, all of the hard thinking seems to be out of the way. The thoughts were about business, groups I am in, and a very serious change that had to occur. It was also about health, and it was about what the next step in life as far as business and where my husband and I call home will be. I had to put blogging aside for a bit, but I think the ship is steaming along just fine now and I can concentrate on teaching.

The old saying is that when it rains it pours, and it is easy to imagine that it just seems that way because we are already involved in changes, decisions or an outright mess. The next little straw can easily break that camel's back. Yet when you understand energy, you know that everything DOES usually happen at once. When you have productive energy around you , then you are productive, in every aspect of your life.
When you are angry, everything gets a piece of that anger. When you are in peaceful energy, things may be happening all around you, but you are at peace.

So what to do when the deluge comes? Breathe and move forward. The saying that is popular today is "Keep calm and______" . The funny part is that this is NOT new. The "Keep calm" was originally "Keep calm and carry on" and was a motivational poster in 1939 during WWII in England. Everything old is new again. The posters were rediscovered in 2000 and have been making their way into the mainstream ever since.

This is really sage advice. When we act out of fear , we aren't acting , but reacting. Reacting takes no rational thought, just a response that is often one you would not have in saner, calmer and quieter days. When you act out of fear , you never make a good decision. You may go through a process that you call "thinking" , but if it is inspired by fear, it is not CLEAR thinking and will lead you down a path you won't like.

I recently watched a person go through this process. His spiral downward was slightly noticeable at first, then greatly apparent by the end. The thoughtless process made the issue, bigger, more complicated and eventually unsolvable in a good way.

We need to act, not react, and we need to do that early on in the process. I will give you an example, this is something my clients do all the time and it drives me crazy. They lose a job. Bad to do, yes, but that is not something you can "undo" so the "act" and "think" process is already too late. It would be great if they worked to KEEP the job, and sometimes it is inevitable, but most times it isn't. Let's assume for example that after losing the job they get 6 months of unemployment benefits. Guess when they start looking for a job? You guessed it, month six. They also look for a "better job". How hard do you think it is to get a "better" job if you were fired from the last one? Pretty darn hard. It is difficult for people to see their role in things sometimes, but if they had more clear sight, they probably wouldn't be in the "almost losing the job" situation in the first place.

Act, don't react, and always have a Plan "B". Always be ready for life to hand you more change as you are going through the first crises. When change energy is around you, it is all around you, not just in one aspect of your life. Don't react. Stop and think clearly. Get a trusted friend to help bounce ideas off of. Make sure that you ground yourself. Take a walk and expel some of that frustration and anger energy while you are going through the problem solving process.

The energy around you is what you create, so as the British said in 1939, "stay calm....and"  THINK. Stay calm and ACT. Stay calm and PLAN. Better yet, do it beforehand and be ready for just about anything!

Life is what you make it and like energy attracts like energy. Attract the right energy!



Peshaui Wequashimese




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Friday, November 1, 2013

Spirit presence does NOT equal "Haunted"

There are spirits in every place you go. Some are residents, some pass through, some follow you around. People will say that they have no spirits in their house (they always do), or claim because they captured an EVP, or saw something unusual, that the house is haunted. Neither one is actually true.

Spirits are everywhere, so if a spirit in a home or office makes it "haunted" , we are all haunted. Every one of us has at least one spirit guide. What are spirit guides? Dead people. So there is at least one "ghost", of a special nature looking over your shoulder right now.

That spirit guide goes everywhere you go, so you bring a spirit into every building you walk in to. "Haunted" is an overused word. It used to be a terrible thing for a house to be haunted, now it can be a selling feature!  Some homes, and especially hotels and other large commercial buildings , earn a higher asking price because they are haunted. Capturing an EVP does not make a place haunted, it means a spirit (possibly passing thru) had some thing to say to you.

Recently a client told us her house was haunted because a medium saw a little girl there. A medium will see spirits in EVERY building they enter. The spirits are everywhere, and that does not mean a place is haunted.

What exactly makes a place haunted? "Haunted" is prolonged , regular, and obvious spirit activity. It does mean that the spirit most likely resides there, but it doesn't have to. The place may have a bunch of "regulars" who pass in and out. It means the spirit is constantly making itself known in our material world. It may be even getting to the level of wanting you out. When we have spiritual activity of this level, it is a haunt.

When we have activity that is beyond spirits, and involves activity of non human spirits, then it is beyond haunted, the site is possessed or invaded. A site can have both. Sometimes human spirits are trying to control or maintain activity on a level of nonhuman activity.

Some places are merely a place where spirits pass through, they don't stay. When a spirit doesn't stay, it can't be haunted, yet there may be hundreds of spirits there each day. This is a portal, and they exist mostly due to natural circumstances. Things that create portals that are not natural are, Ouiji boards, ceremonies, and large scale disasters. Natural things that make the atmosphere just right for portals are, running water (underground streams for example),  high electromagnetic fields, people with psychic or mediumistic abilities, ley lines, certain crystals, and places of high energy over thousands of years (like the Aztec cities or Stonehenge). Combine any of these and the "traffic" can be phenomenal.

Today people get their information from TV shows. It isn't always "bad" information, but it is usually a tip of the iceberg, and a little knowledge IS a dangerous thing. There are still universities offering parapsychology classes, the science of the "paranormal". I took one back when I was a senior, and it was eye opening. This was before TV shows and books galore. We have come a long way, but knowing what the parapsychology pioneers knew, will help you truly understand the "other side".

Try reading books by Lyod Auerbach and Hans Holzer to start. Go to the arcane to learn more, the Rosicrucians, Masons, and New Dawn. There is so much really good information out there.

Just remember,spirits are everywhere!!!

Happy All Souls Day!




Peshaui Wequashimese




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Thursday, October 24, 2013

The major religions and then some.....

The last few days I have been having an email discussion on religion. Religion in general, not dogma. Dogma is what starts wars , which is just about as ridiculous as we can get as a world population, but it is so. Dogma really is what sets each religion apart, but it is also what always gets in the way. When you clearly look at all the religions you see that they are all basically the same. They all tell you to make sure you do good things, share good things, love others,  and that there is an afterlife.

Then the rules, names, and interpretations step in and negate all that wonderful teaching. I think that today the societies that evolved from the religions are even more accepted, more powerful and teach more, they don't have such dogmatic restrictions.

When I was studying for my second degree and becoming an ordained minister , our school made us learn about each religion. We of course wouldn't have the time to be too in depth, but we had to at least have a working knowledge. We didn't for example, delve into each Christian religion (for example the Protestant, Episcopal, or Catholic ways of Christianity), in depth, but we did look carefully into major differences. We also took into consideration societies that didn't have a religion per se. Many had a "way of life", that was what it was. They did not consider it a religion, and it really was not. An example is the American Indian ways of life. Today some American Indians have become Christian, a religion that was forced upon many, but openly accepted by others, however Christianity is not the "official" American Indian relgion.

The major world religions are Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, Christianity,  and Islam. There is also Bah'ai, and Taoism along with spiritual belief systems like Wicca, and Paganism. Then you can add in the organized teachings of spiritual growth like Rosicrucianism and the Order of The Golden Dawn. Esoteric systems that help people today in growth and spirituality. There are also more centralized or "local" religions , like Mormonism. There are different ways of looking a major religions like Gnosticism. It would be a very long list indeed to get into all the options out there.

They all are full of wonderful teachings. Some reached out to, or developed into secret societies like the Masons or Golden Dawn. All have their own structure, teachings, and tenets. Some are more strict than others, and some are more organized than others, yet there is not a bad teaching among them. All the original ideas go back to the same root. Love, grown, help, and learn.

Unfortunately we have people that take these religions or systems and twist them, people like Muslim Extremists, the IRA and satanic worshipers. Those are people who kill, harm, and use others for their own selfish ways. Please do not look at these people as religious people. They use religion as an excuse to act abhorrently , like the Westboro Baptist Church.

I was asked if reiki were a religion. It is not, it is an energetic healing modality that can be used by anyone trained and attuned to the energy.  They can be Christian, Islamic or Jewish and still learn and share reiki healings.Today many hospitals are allowing, teaching, and accepting reiki as part of their programs, and methods. Doctors have figured out that it doesn't matter how it works, it works.

I remember giving reiki to a friend in the hospital who was hooked up to monitors of all sorts. You could clearly read everything going on with those brightly lit screens. A nurse asked if she could watch us, and we said "of course". She just wanted to see what it was about. When we were finished I turned to see her staring with her mouth half open at the monitors, all the readouts had improved. Blood pressure had dropped, heart rate dropped and smoothed out. She said "Well I guess that really works". We said "Of course it does". (I don't consider a fun night one that includes a hospital....so I am there for a reason).

There are so many ways and so many options open to all who want to try to find a way to guide them. I am not a fan of major organized religion as I think the dogma just drags it down into the muck. It makes it too restricting. Just tell people to "do unto others" and leave it at that. The belief systems, and organized societies do a better job in my opinion. They actually teach people how to be better people, how to grow, how to see beyond what is right in front of us. They teach meditation, they teach acceptance, they teach exploration, they teach love of nature and internal spiritual development. They accept all races, sexual preference and differences and this makes them rich in learning other traditions and development. They consider the individual and their levels and needs. They don't raise the bar so high no one can attain achievements and personal growth.

Organized religion, is not such a good thing, but there are good things that have come from it. Religion restricts. Spirituality fosters growth, and acceptance. Pick one and explore it. Start with one that is not a major world religion and see if something resonates in there for you. Look at Paganism (which is NOT devil worship), Rosicrucian teachings, or the Gnostic Bible. Love nature? Try the Wicca way.There will probably be something in there that strikes a cord for you. Remember, spirituality is basically accepting that there is something bigger than you, and that there is a life after this one where your conscious continues. Knowing those things , really knowing them, will enable you to live a good life in this phase.

Don't let some church or other organization dictate what you HAVE to do. I have heard more horror stories about how people were treated at church, than how they were treated at a bus stop. This isn't a contest, and this isn't a popularity contest. Learn, grow and move to another teaching. Never stop. To stop is to stagnate and spiritually die. When you think you know it all, you have reached rock bottom. Upward, onward and forward!



Peshaui Wequashimese




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Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Would you be YOUR friend

  A reader asked me, " How do I know if I am not being a good friend, I mean I don't have many. And how do I change that?"


First ask yourself  "Would you be your friend?" Think about it really hard. When the answer is "no" you probably already know why you wouldn't, so make those changes. As I told someone yesterday, it will not happen overnight! Get working on those things right away! The sooner you start, the sooner you accomplish the results.

I hear people often say they know they are not a good friend, and they are sorry. "Sorry" doesn't walk the dog. People get tired of "sorry" with repeated bad experiences. The REAL meaning of "sorry" is that you did not mean to do that and will not do it again, so if you are saying "sorry" for the same thing over and over, you are NOT sorry!


When there are a couple of close friends , or even one friend in your life, invite them out and ask them their thoughts on things. Tell them you really want honest answers and help. Tell them to be totally honest and frank, and LISTEN. DON'T argue. (Of course you don't think you are being a jerk, or you wouldn't be doing it). Just listen. Take notes , then thank them and think very hard about why they said. Have them give examples of situations if they can. Don't negate what they say. People's perception of you is their reality with you. Keep them as a friend and don't treat them any differently. You need that friend, and if you take suggestions you just may have a few more!

Work on those things. Honestly and truly WORK on them, because if you do not, you will go through "friends" like Kleenex. Make sure that you know the meaning of "friend" first. They are people who share with you, do things with you,help you, communicate with you, and think of you when fun stuff comes up. They invite you places, they call you just to chat. When disaster strikes they are there, in person, ready to help. They honestly tell you when they disagree with you or they feel that you have screwed up. They do it in a nice way, but they TELL you. Friendship is a two way street. Your phone may accept calls, but it sure dials out too.

When people don't bother with you, they don't want to be bothered with you. Make your changes and then put out the olive branch...."I know I wasn't a good friend, I have really been working on myself and would like to get back to being friends. How about we ________" (fill in the blank with something you know they would enjoy doing.)

Don't hold on to friends that you really don't like because you think they are a necessary evil. When you have friends through a group or group endeavor and need them for that, don't build up a "pseudo friendship", just because you "need" hands, or brains.....participate with them in that function, and then live the rest of your life separately. When you are so desperate that you need that girl who flirts with your partner; that person that doesn't know when to shut up; that angry confrontational person; that "Drama Mama" in your life, YOU have a problem. Dump them and MOVE ON. When you move troublesome people out of a group, usually several more nice people say "thank goodness those jerks are gone", and then they come and join in.

I have had to remove people from my life because they thought I was a free Magic Eight Ball. The only calls I would get from them were when they had a disaster and wanted free psychic information. That won't work with me. There are some people that do that, but my work tires me out at the end of the day, it will any good psychic or medium that puts themselves into their work wholeheartedly. I work 15 hours a day, I don't need "friends" asking for help all the time, at all odd hours, for free. I don't mind helping in disaster situations, but little issues become disasters to some people, and they think that it  is OK to relieve their anxiety by calling...at all odd hours, ringing me on both phones repeatedly...guess where that gets you???? This goes for anything that makes you a "super desirable" friend. Do you have money, power, influence, a foot in a door?? Don't allow people to use you, they AREN'T friends.

We have to weed our garden from time to time as I said (years ago now). It is OK to pull the weeds and plant new seeds. Sometimes people are not meant to be our best friends for life. They are just there for the interim. It is OK. When things fade away, allow them to fade away. When friends leave, only a jerk carries on like an idiot bad mouthing them, threatening them, and carrying on looking for attention. When you act like that, you don't need to even begin to ask why people walk away from you, it is patently obvious.

So to be a better friend, ask the people around you what you need to do better. Then do it. When there is no one to ask, the task is a little harder, but start with the "would I be my friend?" question and work out from there. When there is someone who has recently pulled away, ask them why. It is NOT up to them to tell you why they are pulling away, it is up to YOU to ask "what have I done wrong".

I accept friendships, I reject them. I sometimes even try to be friends with difficult people. It rarely works out for the long run, but I know that. I have even been friends for a while with people just because they were friends of friends. That doesn't always work out too, but that is OK! We are not here to be everyone's best friend forever. It is impossible. Be cordial to others, but you don't have to move them into your space, your heart, your plans, your life. Don't be desperate. Wait for the good ones for you come along. When you have problem people in your life, weed them out or tell them they are difficult. Maybe they will listen, maybe they will shut the door on you, either way, you benefit.

Would you be your friend?????




Peshaui Wequashimese




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Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Fakes- A reprise

There is a lot of talk lately about fakes. They have always been there. Think of the stereotypical woman in long skirts, with a kerchief holding your palm telling you that you will meet a tall , dark, handsome stranger....you get the picture. Today we have that and more. Many of the "fakes" today are actually the emotionally and mentally ill. There are still the outright scam artists , and there is one so close I could throw a rock and hit them, but today the ones who are useless and who can harm you and your wallet include the ones who don't know they are fakes.

I wrote the following blog Feb.14, 2013, and after so much discussion over the past week on fakes, and scammers, I thought I would re-publish it. Hopefully it helps at least one person!

Enjoy!

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My all time favorite question came this morning. It is one that no one has asked that I can remember, but I know I have somewhat addressed it in the past. The email states that there are many psychics, energy healers, and people with their webpages out there. How many of them did I think were sane people, and how many are not. I was told to forget the scammers , but just think about "not in touch with reality".

Tough question, no one has done a study. The lucky part for me is I have a great BS meter built in. I recently read a page a person has on the net that gives information supposedly channeled through them. I have seen and known people who were channels. The key to the real ones....they don't remember a thing they say during channeling. Now this doesn't mean that when your guides speak to you, you won't remember the messages, otherwise what would be the point, but an actual channel has no cognizance of the communication. Someone has to record it in some way for them. Even a conscious channel does not remember and their personality goes away during the channeling. The personality, speech patterns etc. of the channel emerge, not the person channeling. Sometimes people call themselves "channels" when they are something else, like a medium or psychic, and to me if they don't even know the "Metaphysical 101" terms and what they are, you don't need to be "learning" from them.

There are ways , even without a great BS meter to tell the real from the fake, the crazy from the sane, and the scammer from the honest person. It takes discernment and a drop of skepticism. It also usually takes a few communications with the person. Make sure that when you get info, you also get it from someone who gets out into the world in real life and does what they teach, speak, or write about. Many people hide behind webpages and don't read for the public or help out in the local world. I actually like local readings in person better than online or long distance!

I write about psychics (I give many psychic readings every day), the other side (I have been on many investigations, have received messages from the dead and lived in two very haunted houses for most of my life). I have been around authentic mediums and channels, although I profess to be neither.  I know the real thing when I see it, from seeing the real thing and the not so real thing. Forty some years of experience does teach you a lot.

It is hard to put a percentage on something that has never been researched, but I will say that in my personal experience, MOST of the people who are out there with webpages, and in little storefronts are not authentic. Yes, most. Some really have themselves fooled, some are honest to goodness schizophrenics and hear voices for sure, but not from a higher being. Some are scammers, and that is to me , the minimum of the bunch.

Being psychic, mediumistic, etc. is HOT now.  It is the thing to be. It is cool, it is hip, and in real life it stinks. It is work, it is having to deliver messages people sometimes do not want to hear. So every young person who wants attention or has issues has suddenly become gifted in some way. There are things that are so easily faked. Giving messages, not answers, but messages, is the most faked, so channeling. The number two is palm readings. Number three is mediums/psychic information. That is something that has been VERY obvious in my experience. Think about how easy it would be to sit and say "the Universe says this" or "my guide says that". No one can prove it, dispute it, or negate it. It is impossible. You can say whatever you want. People will listen and give you attention. Once you get to psychic information it is harder to fake , and mediumistic information is very difficult to fake.

Percentages....hmmmmm. I will say that most of the "not gifted" believe they are real. Most as in about 90%. Are they insane? That is putting too much on it, emotionally unhappy, probably most of them. Wanting attention? All of them.

The fakes never last long, they won't make it to my 40 plus years, but they do sometimes hang on for years. So let's call the other 10% scammers. Now of the total of all those who work in the metaphysical, I would say that many of them have some talent. After all we are ALL psychic, some just have bigger antenna and know how to use the ability. Having a big enough antenna to help others, I would say that about 25-30% of the population has that ability strong enough to use. That doesn't mean the rest of the population are fakes, they just know they don't have talent, or don't believe the talent exists in the first place.

You will bump into people who aren't so great at the psychic biz before a scammer, but the scammers are out there. You will bump into a person who believes they have talent and don't have any, most of the time you meet a "channel" , "psychic" or "medium". 

I asked one friend who isn't a psychic how she determines who is a fake by their webpages, she says, "Easily, the first giveaway is glamor shots, and many pictures of the "psychic". The second is statements like "100% accurate", and " famous TV and radio psychic" when I have never heard of them. I have to say that her perception is accurate. They have to "lure" you in, and those are the top three ways of doing it! Remember the ones who don't know they aren't talented want attention, the scammers want money.

Those who truly have contact with the other side know that it isn't about glamor or fame or money. It isn't about sexy or mystical looking pictures on your webpage, it isn't about popularity. It is about getting people to think, to react, to even be shaken up a bit. People don't learn until you show them something they have not seen before.

So, how many are people you can't trust for whatever reason? Unfortunately, most of them. That doesn't make them bad people, just disillusioned. Trust your instincts, not fall in love with a sexy photo of a beautiful (or handsome) head shot.

Be careful out there!




Peshaui Wequashimese






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Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Energy goes the way of the Light...always

There are times when things can go haywire for a moment, and sometimes longer, in order to make a change or teach a lesson. However the Universe always sends out energy to put things to right, and it always goes to the light. Always. People do not understand that whether it be politics, workplace, relationships, things happen because they are SUPPOSED to happen. The Universe has everything in divine order. ALWAYS.

You may not like the divine order of things. It may make you uncomfortable, but most times, discomfort is a learning process. It is a way of putting things to right, teaching a lesson, showing you another way that you NEED to see.

When you sit back and watch for a while you will see the energy start to turn things. Some times it is swift and sure, sometimes a process. Sometimes it is serious Karmic energy that makes for a hard lesson, sometimes it is a gentle persuasion, but it is always there. When people try to counteract that, they always suffer. The Universe doesn't punish, but it sure is a strict teacher when it needs to be.

It is easy to stay out of those pitfalls. You simply remember two very easy things.

 1) It isn't all about you.
 2) Do unto others.

That is pretty simple isn't it.

Revenge is not an answer. Taking power or ability away from another is not the answer. harming another is not the answer. Ultimatums are not the answer. Damaging property or welfare of others is not the answer.

Never impose your ways, your will, your situation on another human being. When you want to do it (and it is legal ), go for it, but harm no others in your actions or words.

I have seen energy begin to move in the right way when people do wrong. I watched just last weekend when an event was less attended because of ego and unfairness. Some were told they could not be included in the event as it wasn't to a particular group's ways. The result, many backed out and went to a similar event being held that same weekend. The other event was bursting at the seams with people, not only attending but participating. Energy moves from demanding, hateful, prejudicial people, it moves towards, love, acceptance, and honor.

Never allow someone to hold you hostage literally or figuratively. Always be strong and ready to be independent. Know your stuff and stand strong. There are an awful lot of stupid, hateful people out there who shout loud and strong. They demand to be heard, but you really don't want to hear what they have to say.

DO the RIGHT things for the RIGHT reasons, and Do unto others....and you will never go wrong!

The energy will always go to the light, make sure that you are always in the light.



Peshaui Wequashimese




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Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Villisca, The EVP vs SB7 spirit box.

While going through my recorder yesterday I noticed that I had some EVPs. I was a little surprised as I thought that the SB7 (sometimes known as "spirit Box" or "ghost box"), would pick up everything. It is supposed to be the easiest system for the spirits to use. They have white noise and sounds from radio stations to paste into words and phrases.

The spirit box does NOT pick up everything, and it is still a bit of a mystery as to how this all works.

I still have sessions to go through, and this particular session had NO ghost box running during it. It seems that the longer we were there, the louder and more clear the voices became. I do know that an investigator had her new camera and SB7 batteries sucked dry. She couldn't use either until we left and replaced them. Maybe the spirits used her batteries to communicate better and louder. They are communicating in a different way than those who use the spirit box. We already knew this to be true, however it seems that some spirits who talk on recorders must be older and stronger than spirits who use the SB7.

It looks like you should use EVP recorders to get the older spirits of a place to communicate, and the SB7 for newer. Then last night I had a thought. Maybe the SB7 picks up spirits that aren't even in the location. They are using radio station waves that are all around us. I posed the question to our founder and he agreed it was a possibility. Maybe next time we will have to ask "Where are you?" The old spirits would have to be right there with us for the recorders to pick up their voices, however, do the spirits who use the ghost box? Can they, like the DJ , be miles away? I guess that is a question for Gary Galka. I DO know that when we run recorders and spirit box. We get different voices/answers on both.This means that not only are they using different methods to communicate, btu the SB7 voices cannot be spirits in the room as they do not make a "double voice" on the recorder. It is not a combination of a clear voice and a static ridden voice box voice saying the same thing at the same time. I don't think the SB7 spirits are near enough to us to be picked up by the recorder.

We received VERY different style, attitude and response from the old spirits than the ones on the ghost box. The ones on the ghost box were curt, rude, cursing and never gave any information. The recorder had just the opposite. I think I will stick with my recorder. I always thought that the spirit box was a cool thing, but now I see no need for it, and am not sure exactly where it is picking up from. It is also hard to hear and decipher sometimes. Our team member who has one is going to try a differnt type of speaker, we will see if theat clarifies the responses. Every time we asked how many spirits were int he house on the SB7, we had no answer. Maybe because they didn't know. Maybe they are just passing through or aren't even in the house! When I asked those same questions last year on the recorder I not only got a total, but was told how many males and how many females were in the house. This doesn't mean the spirit box cannot answer those questions, but I think it picks up newer, weaker spirits. They aren't exactly the best sources of information and certainly not as good as old spirits. I guess it is our craving for instant satisfaction that makes the spirit boxes and Shack hacks so popular.

I still suggest a good paranormal investigation team use both systems. 

I still am not sure if my recorded voices are of the Moore or Stillinger family.. We don't have anything to prove or disprove that. I do however have a child singing, and I would think that is more likely a Moore child (it sounds like a boy). I have a song, an "OK", and a spirit mimicking me with "all say" after I said to a fellow investigator, "that's what they all say". I have more on that first session including footsteps and thumps that we heard with our own ears. I still have a couple of sessions to go.

When you can only afford one tool, buy a recorder. Not only will you pick up spirits , but you will have a record of it for later, where with the spirit box, unless you attach a recorder, or tape it with a video camera, the replies will be lost.

The EVPs are being put with video so they can be posted and I will post them at a later date.

There is so much good stuff out there to discover and methods to fine tune. Just remember, do NOT learn all you know from a TV show, and learn from different groups and people. Experiment and see what happens!



Peshaui Wequashimese



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Monday, September 23, 2013

Villisca Part III

This weekend we visited The Villisca Axe Murder House for the third time. The first time was absolutely awesome. We had family members answering, information on the murders, and answers to our questions that were clear and decisive. We had little children singing and talking. We had a VERY creepy house full of things including what we assumed to be the axe murderer. A spirit who interacted both verbally and physically.

This trip was totally different, the one before, also was. There was a lot of spirit activity, but it wasn't all that nice.There were lots of names given and different voices on the voice box, but no real communication. No answers to questions. There were a few "F*&$ you"s and other swear words. There were mostly men's voices. There was no response to questions, especially about the murder.

We had stomps upstairs (probably the "murderer" who is still there); creaks; people getting touched; strange light anomalies (most of which were blue for some reason). We have yet to really go over any evidence, so I can't say if we caught anything or not, but the feel of the place is entirely different.

I don't even believe the family is still there. I didn't feel them , get any response form them, or any evidence of them that night. When a house if full of creepy men, a mother spirit may take her children and moved on.

Some groups have come into the house with all kinds of things, and doing all kinds of rituals etc. None of this is allowed, but that doesn't stop people. Someone may have crossed the spirits of the family over, which is nice, but again, against the policy of the house. After all what good is a haunted house without spirits. The spirits that are there now are basically low life idiots. Now that means you can have a haunt, but when you have spirits that just tell you to "F*&^ off", then that one sound bite isn't worth the trip. We had several spirits give names, or curse at us, but no real communication as in responding to questions. This happens when people go into places and try to bring spirits in. They do seances and bring in Ouiji boards to contact spirits. When you are in a genuine haunted site, a seance and a Ouiji Board (NEVER USE THEM) are totally unnecessary. However there are a bunch of folks running around out there that do not have a clue.

There isn't a "Ghost investigation" test that you have to take before entering a haunted site, so many of these sites are getting ruined by those with good (and bad),  intent that don't understand what they are doing, nor care. They also don't seem to care what the "house rules" are. They figure they are there to make decisions for the owners on what the house should be like.NO site that does these tours allows Ouiji boards, rituals, crossing over rituals, etc.....NONE.

The Villisca house is still haunted, but not half as much fun as it used to be. Many haunted sites are now making sure they have a guide with groups at all times, this is to make sure nothing is ruined, including the integrity of the site as a haunted site. Some places are insisting that you belong to a paranormal group. I am not sure how they can prove that and after all, belonging to a paranormal group doesn't make you smart and responsible. I have seen paranormal groups use flashlights for communication (no it doesn't work AT ALL), and claim that the red area of a K2 indicates a demon (more likely a normal electrical source). I know a group who "sets up angels" at every site they investigate (really, when did they get that permission, right and power???) So there are the uninformed out there with club shirts on.....it doesn't make a difference.

 I just hope people will LEARN and stop doing ANYTHING at a site EXCEPT investigating.

Unfortunately it is too late for Villisca. The atmosphere and opportunity for a good INVESTIGATION into the murders, rather than a just a "haunt",  is lost. Maybe I will find evidence of the family on my voice recorder or DVR, but it was much more interesting and enjoyable to communicate with them in the past rather than the "F bombs" of the present.

When you want to visit a site, get there before some well meaning person ruins it!



Peshaui Wequashimese



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Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Pow wows and drums

We had a wonderful time at the Rockport pow wow. We saw some old friends and made new ones. There were some issues, like a mic not working on Saturday, and being stopped after we started a song, but we persevered.

Our drum strives to do things the best we can. We have permission for every song we sing. We follow drum protocol and teach others as often as possible. We built the drum ourselves and we built it in a strict and sacred way. The entire building was in ceremony.

We welcome people to sit at our drum, but we also do not allow people who are in any way harmful to the drum near it. When people disrespect the drum, they no longer sit on the drum.We ask questions of people that we consider wiser.

We are a group of people who are friends/family, not just drum members.

When Matt and I first were asked about doing a pow wow we had to think. We weren't building the drum to go on the "pow wow circut". I have a business that runs 7 days a week. I volunteer with a raptor program, am an ordained minister, and help with paranormal investigations. I do cleansings and blessings in three different styles. Matt works, builds flutes, and is also in the paranormal group. We didn't want to spend our weekends running all over the midwest drumming. We love drumming, but it is a lifestyle that will take up every weekend you have.

First we asked a lot of questions. We asked established drums that we respected and that we knew followed protocol. We asked elders, we asked everyone we could think of. Their response was all the same.....you will meet a ton of nasty people who all think their opinion is the only one that matters; you will see more jealousy and misinformation than actual help; stand up for yourself and be strong, but don't be nasty or pack up your drum , storm off or run away. Remain strong. Write as many songs or re-arrange as many songs as you can. Lastly...practice. That was it, from everyone we talked to. That is also exactly what we do.

We have met a few nasty people. They are the unhappy of the world, and they think they have special information or entitlement. We deal with them strongly and firmly whenever we "meet" them. We disregard misinformation, and we certainly stand up for ourselves and we are strong. We have yet to walk away, although there have been times when I wanted to tell someone to "F____ off" , "drop dead" or more often..."grow up". The idiots are out there. They forget why they are there. Pow wows aren't about your way, they are about everyone's way. I have had people go out and spread flat out lies, and sadly all were ex members of the drum. They left because we wouldn't do things their way....well they can build a drum and do things their way. The door is open.You would think that the people who become involved with such a spiritual pursuit as drumming can be so ridiculous, but it sure happens. It has happened to other drums, probably just about every drum.

Personal issues, emotional and mental issues, ego and self righteousness are rife in the drum world.

We are always honored when people want to sit at the drum for a song or two. We had two guest drummers this year, and two last year, and it is always an honor. Sometimes the guests become regulars. We strive more than anything to teach, and love to work with children. The energy of our drum pulls people in . Ego drums pull egos in, spiteful drums pull spiteful people in , good vibrations pull good people in . We never accept payment for drumming. We drum for free. A blanket dance is appreciated, but we don't demand a flat fee from anyone. Not from a pow wow, a wedding or a teaching.

This weekend a young man made a grave error that was compounded by more ignornace of the way to do things. Youngsters will make mistakes, but it didn't go unnoticed. We however rolled through it, letting Creator decide what to do about it.

There is always something that happens, and we always roll through it and beyond it. Although we are not always quiet about it. When you are quiet, no one learns and no one grows.It isn't easy, but no one said it would be.

I remain my Grandmother's Peshaui Wequashimese.

Do the right things for the right reasons.






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Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Predjudice still flowing years after 9 /11

Living in a way that is truly spiritual means living not only a love based life, but a positive life. It means more than either one of those , living a fearless life. Fear generates hate. When living the truly spiritual life you will be able to allow each and everyone their way. You won't bash, ridicule, defame, or set out to personally harm anyone or anything. You allow the Universe to make the decisions, but you always do what is right. That means if there is a crime to report, you report it, and step back.

Many waste their time getting upset or fearful over events, and always....yes always, blown up accounts of facts. No one checks facts anymore. No one bothers to see if something is true if it strikes a positive chord with them, they pass it on perpetuating the hate, the lies, the upset, the fear.

People use 9/11 as a platform to voice their views. How pathetic is that? It is not a platform. It is an event that was horrible, and it really had a huge impact on the northeast, and the country. I know, I saw the smoke, I saw Flight 93 fly over my house. I knew people in the city (what we called New York City), at the time. Many laws we have today resulted from that attack. However, using it as a reason to hate anyone, Muslims in particular, is pathetic, prejudicial, uninformed and hateful. Maligning any group, race or religion is all of those things.

I studied religion both times that I worked on degrees in other fields. I know that the Muslim religion isn't about hate, killing, or treating your fellow man poorly. It is just the opposite. It is about community, love, charity, and living a faith based day. People associate the Muslim religion with the 9/11 attacks. These men were not following the Muslim religion, they were crazy extremists who maligned their words and teachings. They are the Westboro Church or the IRA. Would you want your religion represented as a whole by such a group as Westboro? Well when you malign the Muslim religion, you do just that.

Being ignorant of a fact is OK, it is a learning opportunity. Not wanting to know the truth is being ignorant, and that is a whole other issue. You cannot act ignorant and be spiritual. The two are mutually exclusive.

When you put down any religion, race, way or lifestyle, YOU are the one who is doing wrong. You are the one who will receive the teachings of Karma. You are the one who will  have a string of "bad days" as your hard lessons are learned.

Never hate, and never fear. Never pass along information that you have not checked out, and checked out the right way.

Recently a person sent me articles on a cause she believed in. I checked them out and they all were either false, had improper procedures (things we all learned how to do in high school done incorrectly), or the "scholars" and doctors writing the articles were not recognized by anyone (especially the AMA), except the group pushing for their desired results. Any 14 year old high school student could properly research and see the stores didn't hold water. None of them. Research means checking facts, not reading and believing. Research means looking for proof of the opposite of what you believe and weighing both carefully. Then I was labeled "negative" (first time I have been called that!), for not watching yet another inane video.

Make sure that you are not being gullible. People have a bad habit of reading the hate , the rumors, the dirt they want to hear, and buying it lock, stock and barrel. They then remain the most uneducated and aware folks on the planet, although they will tell you how "informed" they are.

Don't hate. Do unto others, and get your act together. Don't pass it on until you check it out. Do the right things FOR THE RIGHT REASONS!

Peshaui Wequashimese




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Monday, September 9, 2013

Vacation and a dose of spooky

This past week my husband and I headed to the Grand Teton National Park. We had been there for a day a couple of years ago when we went to Yellowstone. We loved the amazingly beautiful mountains. They soar up over the landscape in sharp contrast to the world around them. The mountains didn't rise so much as the land around them sunk. The spot that sunk is now known as Jackson Hole (once Jasckson's Hole), and it has become a place for overpriced skiing and shopping.A few of the peaks have glaciers on them, and the "permanent snow" is beautiful to behold.

The park however, is like all national parks, a bargain. You pay $25 to enter it , go in and out, for 7 days.That is $3.57 a day for a carload. It is the best bargain around. When in Teton, you can enter Yellowstone (literally just up the road) with the Teton admission pass. Two parks for the price of one.

Those with not a lot to spend can camp. There are wonderful sites and a grocery, laundry, showers (real ones), and everything else a camper would want. Then in the middle are cabins. Just a room with a bathroom , but the cabins at Colter Bay are all old cabins moved to the site when ranches and other business/homes were deserted for the park use. Ours was a cabin that was part of a retreat for wealthy young girls. Ironically it was called Half Moon cabin (and we have a pow wow drum named "new" moon). Those with bigger bucks to spend can stay in the lodges that are like fancy hotels, but to me I think that is missing the essence of the park.We had a wonderful time there hiking, looking at the scenery, wandering around Jackson, learning the history and visiting the raptor center. We spoke to people from Germany, France, Canada, Japan, Russia, India and England. Hearing the different languages and seeing how they all appreciated the park, reminded me how we all arrived here. We had two rangers helping that were American Indians, so it was all rounded out. The rangers however, got to stay.

We took a million pictures that I need to upload yet, and hiked about 25 miles, walked even more. Hiking in high altitude is not for the out of shape. I was so glad that I have been running again, as I didn't have a problem at all. Some poor woman had a heart attack on a trail and it took over an hour to get to her and medivac her out. I don't know how that turned out for her , but I hope she made it. People don't realize the altitude most of the time. You can usually walk around on flat surface just fine, but stairs, hills, and climbing, grab you in the lungs and make you realize where you are. Mother Nature ALWAYS wins.

The cell phone availability is hit or miss, and there is no internet except in the lobbies of the different housing areas. There is no TV, no radio....don't worry you won't miss it for a second.

We will return to the park one day.

I did find that on the way home that there was a place that is haunted. A closed prison. When it opened it was called the Wyoming Frontier Prison and later the Wyoming Penitentiary. It is in good shape. They offer history tours all day long on the half hour during the temperate months. There is no heat in the winter, so there are no tours then (when the prison was operational, the inside temperature was only 20 degrees warmer than the outside, many froze to death). The prison , or actually museum , was only 1 block off the road where we were traveling.

It is haunted...very. The history of the place and the stories about it are interesting and amazing. The exhibits they have there, and the condition of the place are also amazing. It is well worth the visit just to get an idea about frontier life. The architecture is wonderful and the entryway even includes a stained glass window. We plan on returning for a nighttime investigation. I am sure it will be great. The prison was on an episode of Ghost Adventures recently and well worth checking out.

So we saw the beauty of the Tetons, and visited a raptor center that is saving many raptors. We hiked, we ate, we read books together in our snuggly cabin. We saw animals, such as bear, elk, pronghorn, moose, mule deer, chipmunks, and squirrels. We saw many birds, including the Sandhill crane. It was awesomeness at its' best. Then we tossed in some more history and a dose of the paranormal, and came home.

Hopefully it will not take long to return!

Wyoming, you are a beautiful state! Thanks for the visit!



Peshaui Wequashimese


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