Friday, December 30, 2011

New Year of 2012

To begin,  I do want to reiterate that there is nothing to fear about 2012. There is no special thing that you need to do to prepare. No special attunement, class, or preparation. Some people taught and attuned others in an expensive class, others sold magical words and potions, all this will do nothing to improve your future nor keep you safe in 2012, as there is nothing to keep you safe from.

The year 2012 is a year where the veil gets much thinner, it allows us to use our direct lines of communication with the Universe more easily. It allows us to tune into and trust our intuition. There will be, and already has been a reshuffling of people to groups where they are associated with those who are on the same path as they, whether good or bad.

The mind will connect more directly with God/Creator/The Universe. We learn about that link from our head to a higher power in many cultures, from the Hopi who talk about the thread coming out of our heads that we need to use when we seek direction from Creator, to reiki where there is a connection made and attuned from the tops of our heads to allow us to heal and have insight into our clients needs. We see "halos" or light in Christian depictions, and we hear of the crown chakra in Hinduism.

The New Year is celebrated many ways in many cultures. In the US we are told to make a resolution. The New Year is a "new start". Don't make resolutions, you won't keep them. Make changes that you are ready to make. Use the following affirmation and have a wonderful 2012.

 Affirmations are words we say repetitively that program our energy and bring it in line with the affirmation. This will bring about help from the Universe to achieve the affirmation. Affirmations are said as if they are already happening. You cannot say it too much, and you have to really have faith in it for it to work.

The year of 2012 will be a positive one for me. It will bring me abundance in every aspect of my life. Everything I truly deserve and work towards, will be achieved. I will be in control of my life and prosperity. I will open up to and trust my intuition and will not allow anyone to misguide me into fear, improper action, or mistrust of the Universe.

Have a wonderful 2012! See you next year!


Peshaui Wequashimese



(C)2011 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Be yourself, and don't go to extremes. Balance

First let me say thanks to all who commented, wrote, or sent me pictures from "People of Walmart" to illustrate what their family members wore...GASP. The "we know why they call them Ugg's cause their ugly" comments were top, followed by allowing your thong to show over the top of your pants, and your pants to hang half way down your butt. All good examples, even though we were talking about age appropriateness. If you are not attending a rave or frat party, or of that age group that does so.....please stop. As a matter of fact, stop anyway, you  guys are right, it is ridiculous at any age.

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OK, a topic that came up a few times yesterday in the comments were how people do whatever their Boyfriend/Girlfriend does. I had folks say that is cute when you are 16 and still discovering the world, but that we should be more secure in who we are at 30-????. A few said that they are all about change and taking on new things, but that just like dressing to look younger, there are people that take on things that young people do, to make people think they are younger, cool, or fun. The comments that mentioned the situation in detail, said they felt that it was because a new person was in a person's life who acted that way.

The flip side of that is that some of your friends will decide to pull away from the group and do other things. Friends do slip away, it doesn't mean that they were not real friends, it means that they are growing, changing and adapting. Going off to take on a new love's passion is not necessarily a bad thing. When the new love makes sure they wall off all friends so they can take advantage of your friend, that is different, but it is a fine line, and remember that your feelings will be colored by your wants, needs and desires. Best thing to do is stand back and see what happens.

Having a new person bring new experiences to your life is not a bad thing. At all. When you don't know what YOU want or like, and just jump from thing to thing, it is time to sit down and see why you can't focus, it still may not be a bad thing. However if you are 40 something and going to the clubs with people less than half your age just becasue you want to be young again.....problem.

We are sent to this earth to live a good life. To learn , grow,  have experiences that we can use to teach others. That means going through a progression, and progressions don't go backwards. When we learn from an experience, we then use that knowledge and life lesson to do better and to help others....or we suffer the fate of Karma in several forms. Karma is an overused word, but it is a reality. Some people get "instant Karma" and others deal with it later , but it always comes into play. The Universe always needs to stay in balance.

Balance and the yin and the yang mean that there are young and old;  smart and not so smart; good people and bad people; people prospering and people starving; people dying young and people living to 100 plus years; the sick and the healthy, the list goes on and on. What the Universe doesn't like is extremes. If you look at the Taiji (the yin/yang symbol), you will see a little dot of white in the black, and a little dot of black in the white. There always has to be a bit of the opposite in everything we are and do, or there is an extreme that causes chaos.

Look at what extremist Muslims do. Kill, in mass numbers. Extremism is never a good thing. Never. Not anywhere. Not in thumping on the Bible or the Koran, not in seeking pleasure, wealth, and even health.

It is OK to have a passion, as long as that does not interfere with your life. Then it is an obsession. I have a client that loves her exotic birds, but she has not gone on vacation in 8 years because she fears that leaving the birds will stress them out and they may die. At this point she may be right. But it isn't a healthy life, never leaving the house because of a pet. We have to make sure that when we are passionate about something we do not slip into turning that passion into a burden.

Take on new things that you like, but know why you like them. Take on endeavors and loves of your love so you can share with them, but make sure that you really want to be there and they really want you to be there. Make sure that you know yourself. Make sure that your new like, doesn't become an obsession that is harmful to you.

Be yourself. Not someone else, not a younger version of you, not a shell of a person who is living just to win a popularity contest. Be you.

Balance.


Peshaui Wequashimese




(c)2011 Dr. R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written agreement.

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Age and body weight appropriate dress.

My daughter and I were watching Dr Phil yesterday. The story was about a Mom who was doing pageants with her daughter, and the stress this caused on their relationship. I couldn't think of anything I ever did to compete with my daughter, and the only reason I could think of for a Mom to want to do that, is to feel young.

 My daughter joked that the Mom needed Stacy and Clinton (from the show "What not to wear"). Then we got into a discussion of people (mostly women), dressing in either an age inappropriate way, or a body inappropriate way.

I know a couple of large women, they are not ever going to fit into clothes bought in the junior section, yet they always look great. They dress well, classy, and appropriate for their size. They are always healthy looking and well groomed. I also know a bunch of over 40 women who try to dress like their kids. Ripped clothes, and teenager styles. They look terrible. Why? Because even though they may look younger than their age, it doesn't mean they look young. Just becasue someone is thin , doesn't mean they look young, or even good! We are so weight and age obsessed in this country, it is unhealthy.

We know a lady with gorgeous blonde hair in a cute, hip, style like the "20 somethings" wear. She is in her late 50's and looks every bit of 60! From the back it looks great, when she turns around it is shocking. The "young" hair" makes her look older!

There are some young Mom's out there, but if you are either more than 20 years older than your child, or over 35, you are pretty much guaranteed to look silly wearing the same things your kid wears to high school or college. Recently I watched some ladies in a store meet up with a "40 something" dressed in a mini skirt that looked like it was caught in a fight between two of my cats on a bad day. She was wearing some other little hip clothes. Daughter was standing by her side. A group of friends stopped and chatted a bit, and commented (nicely) on her skirt. They finished the conversation and walked away, and then they started to laugh. The first comment was "doesn't she look ridiculous?" Another then said "She thinks she looks 18..." and they had moved past my hearing.

You DON'T look slimmer because you are wearing tight clothing, just the opposite actually. You DON'T look younger in a bikini, just becasue you are slim, you look old and starved usually. You DON'T look younger just becasue you are thin, really you don't. You DON'T look thinner with rolls of fat under that tight top and your boobs falling out. You DON'T look younger because your clothes are ripped, you look either sloppy or scared to death of passing the 40 mark. you DON'T look younger with pink, or green, or orange hair, you look like the punk rocker that is fighting getting older.

The ladies that look good, look age and weight appropriate. You may THINK you look 20, and so you can dress 20, but you usually don't. If you are 50, and look 40, dress 40, but not 20. I have seen so many people lately that look silly. Not young, not hot, jut silly.Looking younger than your age is great, but I doubt you really look 25 years younger. I have seen 2 people lately that are taking fast weight loss diet pills. They worked on the waistline, but the faces are drawn, with dark circles under the eyes. These people don't look better, they look worse!

They want to know where the men are, they are hiding, they see you as insecure, silly, and having an age crises that they really don't want to deal with.

We all age (if we are lucky), the ones that do it with grace, are the ones that people think look good. Looking like Joan Rivers isn't fooling anyone. Looking younger than your years because you are healthy, and dressed and groomed well, is the key. There are ladies tipping the scales at 200 that look better than some 120 pounders out there.

God gave you a body to take care of, not to torture into clothes smaller than the frame he gave you. He gave you wrinkles to show wisdom , and he gave you a long life to celebrate with others, don't waste it on trying to be 20 again. Women used to laugh at men who wore toupees and dressed in tight clothing, now they are doing it in a different manner, and looking just as silly. Trust in what God naturally gave you , and don't try to force it to be something it is not.

Be healthy, be happy, and don't try to be or look , something that you are not, otherwise you just end up looking silly.


Peshaui Wequashimese



(C)2011 Dr. R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

What bait are you using?Manifesting requires work

Whenever I have someone tell me how dedicated they are to manifesting one thing and they always get the opposite, I know it isn't the Universe that is confused. I try to explain to people that we do not get what we ask for , but what we really believe we will get. We also have to make sure that we muscle test first to see if something is in our life plan, and we have to work towards that goal.

A couple of times this long weekend I heard stories of people who are manifesting their version of Prince Charming. The description varies a bit, but basically he will be handsome, have a hot body and rich. OK, first what we need here is a reality check. What about the important stuff? You know, things like supportive, loyal, caring, compassionate, fun, witty, stable????

People forget the important stuff, then wonder how they got to be 38years old and not married. The Universe has only so many Brad Pitt's, one actually. We can't always have perfection, and certainly cannot unless we are perfect. Ladies that does not mean a perfect body, it means totally, in other words are you pushy, demanding, and spend, spend, spend? Well then you don't get perfect. A partner is here to be a partner. Not a supplier of jewelry every month, or a sex toy. Some people get those things, but they also work at it, rare is the millionaire who marries the common girl. Life is not a J Lo, Richard Gere movie.

Man pamper women they adore. It is really hard to adore demanding, spoiled, and entitled.

Maybe you have been pampered and spoiled already, and this life is not to be like that. Maybe you took from others so much in your last life (or this one!), it is Karma time. Maybe you chose to be an ordinary citizen, many do! We are much more altruistic before we return than when we get here.

The other part of the equation were several who complained that they only attracted men who were out for one thing, and it wasn't to buy them jewelry. They were non committal, or already married. One went on to tell me how she dresses and looks like Beyonce'. She can't understand why she keeps attracting married men. That's easy. She may look like Beyonce', but that attracts certain men. When you use the bait of short skirts, flashy clothes, a ton of makeup, and the perfect hair, what do you get? You get guys that only care about how you look and how quickly they can take that to bed. They don't care about being nice to you, except to the point where they get into your skirt.

When you are the brightest porch light on the block, you attract the biggest moths. They don't care if they are married, you don't attract quality men by looking like a rock star. You attract horney men who are looking to get laid. You are putting out the wrong bait.

Hanging out at the wrong fishing hole won't get you what you want either. You can't catch starfish in an inland river. You can't catch quality men at the club, the bar, the online dating services. The way you catch quality is actually simple. You dress nicely, but not sexy. You are well groomed, and stand up for yourself. When Don Juan comes knocking, send him packing. You then go and do things that you like to do.

I met my first husband at a car club. I have a classic Mustang and was there to learn and meet people. I didn't go looking for a husband, but I found one. My current husband, I found attending local metaphysical events.  Successful relationships I know of, all started somewhere outside of a bar, club or online service. From vendors, church partners, service group partners, to dog training class, Yoga class, and a book club. The best part is none of them were fishing, but just going about their business. They met in a way that let them know they already had something in common.

First before manifesting, make sure it is something that is in your life plan. No sense trying to manifest a millionaire if you are to be poor this lifetime. Make sure that you are financially stable to attract financially stable men. Also always make sure that you can be independent so if they whole thing goes sideways or he shows himself to be abusive , you won't be stuck.  You will also never sit home alone bored, or feel left out. Then manifest the important things. Don't get too particular about things. It is much easier for the Universe to deliver an honest, loyal man with a sense of humor, who is in decent shape mentally, physically and financially, then a list of hair color, job, type of car, shoe size, favorite food, place he lives, never been married, wants children right away, gives me a gift every day, has the body of a body builder, is financially wealthy, and takes 4 vacations a year. Instead, be reasonable.

Finding a husband is supposed to be finding a partner, so you may find one who is a little better off than you, but finding a partner isn't for financial gain. Equals are the ones who go the long run.

Then fish in the right fishing hole with the right bait. When you constantly dress provocatively, you will get guys that want sex. Don't play games with people either, that ALWAYS backfires, the Universe plays back. Be the best you can be, they go out where your interests are. When you don't have any, you need to work on YOU first. If you are dull, lifeless and broke, who is going to want you? Seriously? Be the best you can be, and then manifest realistically, and honestly. Then go to the right fishing hole with the right bait.

People have a sense of entitlement today. They want people to come flocking to them becasue they want them to,  they look hot, and for no other reason. You are not entitled to attention, respect, honor, or Prince Charming. Never, ever do anything that takes away another person's free will or breaks Universal rules, that means no energy work on a married man, or someone who wants nothing to do with you. It won't work, and it will serve up serious consequences.

While doing all this remember that the most important part to manifesting once you have all the above down, is to buy into it 100%. When you manifest with the thoughts like  "this never works", "I only get men who want sex", "none of the ones that come are anywhere near good enough", that is what you will get, we do not get what we ask for, but what we believe we will get!

The homework has to be done before the belief though... when you manifest correctly it works 100% every time. No exceptions. So examine your method. Are you manifesting that which is part of your life plan? Are you creating a reasonable wish list? Are you on par for what that type of man will want and deserve? Are you fishing with the right bait in the right place? Are you believing you can achieve what you are manifesting?

It isn't as easy as writing it down or pasting a picture of a hot movie star on your fridge, but when done correctly it isn't hard and always works!

Manifest the right way and watch the magic happen!

Peshaui Wequashimese


(C) 2011 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.

Friday, December 23, 2011

Happy , Merry, Blessed....

I will be off the blog for a few days, but I do want to say to everyone, have a Happy Chanukah, Merry Christmas, Blessed Yule, Happy solstice, Merry Kwanzaa, and a Very Happy New Year.

The reason all these tings come at the same time, is that they all come from the same source. You can call that source, the Universe, God, Abraham, Buddha, Allah, Creator, anything you like, it doesn't matter, it is all the same energy.


Be respectful to each other this season, if someone says "Merry Christmas", say , "and to you!" You don't have to be Christian to pass along good will. When you say "Merry Christmas" and someone says, "to you too, I am a Pagan though."  Then you say "Blessed Yule!"

God won't strike you dead. The thing we need most in this world is respect for each other , and each others' beliefs. Spread respect this holiday season, you may just learn a new holiday tradition that you will love!

Happy EVERYTHING!
Happy Friday!

Peshaui Wequasimese


(C)2011 Dr. R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Thursday, December 22, 2011

Abundance

During the Christmas season , keep in mind the spirit of abundance. Christmas Eve is a new moon, and new moons are the perfect time for abundance rituals, prayers, and affirmations.

Abundance does not mean so many presents under the tree that you can't get to it to water it. Abundance means that you have the important things to be thankful for. It may be as simple as the fact that the rain stops to allow you to run into your house without getting wet. It may be as complicated as getting a nice surprise Christmas bonus at work.

We can be thankful for friends, food, our home, even though these things may not be perfect. We can be thankful for our home even though it may need work. We can be thankful for our food even if it isn't filet Mignon.  Take a look around, there are many people in this world worse off, much worse off.

Abundance means enough. There is always just enough. Now, the Universe won't make people abundant as they waste. It will not allow you to be frivolous. Yet, if you take your last dollar out of your pocket, one that you really do not have to spend, and give it to someone who needs it, the Universe will replace that dollar and then some. The Universe can't rain money down, or clothing or food, so it counts on its' human agents to help.

People make the mistake of thinking an abundant Universe will bring them millions and a bigger house every three years. Not so. Abundance means you have a roof over your head. A safe place to be. People live above their means and wonder why the Universe doesn't save their butts when they are about to lose the home they could never afford in the first place. The Universe isn't here to spoil you. It is here to help you. Abundance doesn't mean always having the newest , coolest car, the biggest house, the most shoes. It means having good health (not perfect), food (not gourmet), and friends that make you smile, even when they mess up in life.

Hate your job? Be thankful you have one. Car an older model? Be happy it gets you where you need to go. House needs new paint? Be thankful that you have a roof over your head.

Abundance isn't just money, or material goods. It is health, friends, talents, a positive outlook. Health issues and only a few friends is still abundance. Find the bright spot in everything. It is there, the more you focus on the bright sport, the more the Universe brings in. It is just like that last dollar.

It is of course easier to feel abundant when things are going well, but when you shift that tobeing able to see the good in what you have, you will surround yourself with the good. Attract that abundant energy. Do the new moon rituals and watch the magic happen!! Now, don't slide into Bliss Ninny. Don't make a mess for yourself and say "it is fine". Don't be in an abusive relationship and say "oh he loves me". When something is not part of abundance, change it! Abundance is always good, and being abused is not good at all.

Decide to be abundant and you will be. The people who do themselves most harm are the ones who make excuses.They say things like " I can't find a job because no one can watch my child, I would have to drive to far, they don't pay enough, I want a higher level position and I want to travel" ...in other words there are lots of great jobs out there, but you refuse to allow yourself to be abundant. Life owes you nothing, the Universe owes you nothing, yet it is very generous. Being thankful is step one to abundance.


WORK towards your goals, and achieve!


Be abundant!


Peshaui Wequashimese


(C)2011 Dr. R M Wolf, may not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Can't buy love

There is a tendency for people to try to buy the love of others. Many times this is literal, as in cash, material goods and trips. It never works. Never.

There can be a short period of time when the person sticks around, but they usually have others around them who are also giving them things. Sometimes they flat out ask for things that are way above their means to purchase for themselves, sometimes they call in the make believe sick grandmother, or hurt child.

Not only do people like that give you no loyalty, but they also can make you go broke. Back in the old days rich old men would "buy" women that were young and beautiful. They could afford it, and the women did their best to be good wives, even though they didn't love the men most of the time. Now it is a free for all. Who is the highest bidder? But they don't even pretend to have loyalty. Sometimes they even tell you who bought them what so you can try to outdo the other guy.

I remember a gal once telling me that the man should spend money on her as she looked like Beyonce.  I thought, yeah, but you are a witch on your best day and the Beyonce looks don't last all that long. She was 40 and never married and couldn't understand why. The why was that guys didn't want to put up with her demands, her attitude, and her control. There are a million pretty girls out there......

People, let's think, why would you want someone who looks at you as an ATM? A person who gives you loyalty as long as you have something in your hand to give, but the moment your back is turned, is off on another adventure? Why have a person in your life who is a financial mess, and sucks your wallet dry, because unless your name is Bill Gates, that will happen sooner or later. The people who are the takers of the world do not care , at all, about the givers. They just take, take, take, until the person they are taking from wises up and moves on.

There is a flip side to this, people who don't want the gifts but have a person constantly trying to buy their love and affection even though they tell them, "no". Telling isn't enough. Don't accept the gifts. Widen the gap and make sure that you spend less and less time around that person.

There is someone for everyone, but they are our equal partners. The fairytale romance isn't the one where some guy strolls in and pays your bills. It really isn't. It is the one where you have the same goals, both work as hard at reaching them, and when someone stumbles momentarily, the other one picks up the slack. The key to love is respect, the ability to be independent, teamwork and compassion.

The bills are split 50/50 in our house. There are times when we splurge on each other, and there are big financial decisions that are made together. We don't waste the other person's hard earnings, and we don't ever not have anything we need, and we do have most of what we want. The only thing we want and don't have right now is a house in Sedona!

When the Beatles sang "Can't buy me love" , they were telling the truth. You can buy people, but not deep enough to buy love. You can't even always buy momentary loyalty. It will never, ever, work. Be generous and share with the ones you love, but don't try to buy them, they aren't for sale.

Tomorrow morning is the winter solstice, be ready for your new beginnings that bring the light back into the world!


Peshaui Wequashimese


(C) 2011 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Chanukah

Today at sundown , the celebration of Chanukah begins. Some people look at it as a "Jewish Christmas", but it has nothing to do with Christmas . The celebration is actually one of a miracle associated with the re-dedication of the temple in Jerusalem.

Another name of this eight day celebration is the Festival of Lights, the reason for the celebration is that the Second Temple (more on that in a moment), in Jerusalem was where the miracle occurred, and it was a miracle of one day's worth of lamp oil, lasting eight days.

The reason it is called the Second Temple, is that the first one was destroyed. The area and the times were very violent, and the area of Jerusalem is the home of three of the world's major religions (Islam, Judaism and Christianity). The first temple was more commonly known (after all they didn't expect there to have to be a second), as Solomon's Temple. Solomon's Temple originally housed the Ark of the Covenant. It was destroyed by Nebuchadnezzar II in 587 BCE.

Cyrus the Great of Persia allowed the Jews to come back to the temple in 538 BCE. Around 19 BCE , Herod the Great rededicated the temple and it became known as Herod's Temple. The Romans destroyed the temple (and Jerusalem) in 70 CE, under Titus. The Second Temple stood for about 420 years.

Today a menorah, a sacred nine branched candle holder, is used to light a candle each evening to celebrate the miracle of the oil. The ninth spot is for the candle used to light the others, as the daily candles are to be used for no other reason except to mark the night of celebration. The ninth candle is called the shamash. The word Chanukah means to "dedicate".

The back and forth of the temple is a long and complicated story. From friendliness of a conquering army to allow the Jews to continue their practice, to those who in the name of Romans defiled and destroyed the temple, on more than one occasion. They even slaughtered pigs at the altar to make the Jews never want to use the temple again. All this destruction in the name of power and religion.

The Chanukah celebration of eight days occurs as, when rededicating the temple, there was thought to be oil for only one day, not enough to even begin to clean up the mess, desecration and destruction. The oil however lasted for eight days and the temple was ready and rededicated.

In modern times, a candle is lit each night at sundown and blessings are said. There are sometimes small gifts, and community gatherings. Jerusalem schools close, but not in the US.
 There is no set of strict rules that go with Chanukah like the High Holy Days, it is a more laid back type of celebration. There are traditional foods like latkes (potato pancakes), and games, like spinning a dreidel. Actually any food fried in oil is a Chanukah celebration food. There are stalls in Jerusalem that sell these , and a very popular one is doughnuts called sufganiyot.

There is much history to the Chanukah celebration, and many places to read up on it. This is just an overview of the day.

Chanukah is a family time , and a time to remember the miracle of the oil. It just happens to fall each year around Christmas time.

May your celebrations be fun, enlightening, and healthy.


Peshaui Wequashimese




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Monday, December 19, 2011

Charity for the holidays

Charity is a hot topic this time of year. It is always hard to pick one, but when you pick local (your community) , you will never go wrong. Make sure there is a direct payment or help. When you do not have money, give clothing , food, and items. Sadly financial handouts to individuals on street corners is never a good idea, but hand them food, water or a blanket.

Many groups hand out goods to find out later, that most of those goods were sold for money, and the money (when this happens,) usually turns into drugs and alcohol. Give to food banks, funds set up for victims of tragedy in your town, or at this time of year, give clothing, or whatever items are needed.

There are good people going around this holiday season, paying off lay-aways that belong to strangers. This is an excellent idea. People are paying on them already for themselves , they want the goods , not the money. They are working toward having a great Christmas. They are genuine. The account holders arrive at the store to pay on their account,  to find that there is only a $1 or so still left to pay. One lady who had just become a widow of a wealthy husband, handed out $50.00 payments at a KMart.

There are plenty of ways of helping. Remember that help is to be temporary. When you end up supporting the same people, you are not helping them , you are enabling them to be dependent on charity. Some may think it is all well and good to do that, but you aren't helping at all. Help is in and of itself temporary. When there is help constantly needed, there are problems that need to be addressed. Sadly the reason for needing help, when it is ongoing, is usually do to drugs, alcohol, and mental illness. All things that we can help with, but people choose to over look.

Give wisely, do not give to the same group over and over, give locally, and give without fanfare.
Get to the root of the issue if you have a pet charity. Why do the same people need the same help again and again for years? What is not being addressed?  When you actually change a situation, to a positive, and help people stand on their own two feet, it is the most wonderful feeling in the world.


Be part of the solution , not part of the problem by being an enabler.




Give wisely this holiday season.


Peshaui Wequashimese



(C)2011 Dr. R M Wolf. May not be used, copied or reproduced without prior written permission.

Friday, December 16, 2011

When you are all alone......

Getting back to yesterday's blog, there are times when you are alone. No friends, no family. Take a long , hard look in the mirror.....now, can you have no family or friends and still be OK? Sure. Personally I am living about 900 miles from cousins and such, both my parents are deceased, and I have no brothers and sisters, so that limits family stopping in over the holidays. The kids will be here, but they are getting older and soon their lives may take them in new directions. The friends side however, is full. I have a wonderful husband, great kids, and a pile of wonderful friends....but it wasn't always like that.

I remember a friend describing it as "the desert years". We all go through them at some point. Earlier is better than later, trust me on that. She said that when we are changing paths, moving up and on, and getting to where we need to be, rather than want to be, there is a transition where there is much alone time. It is time to think, communicate with the Universe, and find your path. Not your path "with" or "to" someone, not your road to riches, not fun and games, but a serious and dedicated path to who you really are. Some people wander in that desert of little or no friends, money , family around, for many years. Mine lasted about 3 years, my friend's about 6 years. Once we started doing what we knew we needed to do, instead of running the rat race , then everything smoothed out. We learned what abundance really meant.

We didn't have as nice a house as we had before, but it was better, happier, and we didn't have to fear the mortgage payment. We had a car that worked, but it wasn't new, or expensive. We had everything we needed, including friends, family, and a significant other that was perfect, not just a warm body.We had and still have , true abundance (thank you Universe....).

Which brings us back to yesterday. When you settle for warm bodies, you will perpetually be in the search for the right person. That search sometimes draws you away from friends and family. There are women out there, that as soon as they find a man, their best friends never see them again. Not with him, nor without him. He should be an addition to the group, not a jailer.

Take a long , hard look in the mirror, as it may mean you have a ton of work to do, and if you are alone, there is something that you need to do, you just have to figure it out. It is a thing best done on your own. Sometimes the Universe keeps people away from us because all we do is flit from relationship to relationship.Sometimes people distract us and slow us down from reaching our original path. The hardest thing for people to realize is that the Universe has lots of plans for you, but giving each of us the romance story fit for a Tom Hanks character isn't on top of the priority list. Yes we are supposed to populate the earth and all that, but all that Soulmate crap keeps people from having great relationships. They get hung up on perfection, and sometimes their idea of perfection is unavailable to them. It just frustrates them and suddenly they are 40, never been married, and wondering if they will ever have children. Some fulfill their contract with one person, then move on to "the one". That happens quite frequently. But it all comes in due time. It isn't the top priority on our Universal lessons list.

When taking that look, see yourself as others see you. I had a friend who was divorced. She was gorgeous, smart, funny, and had a good job. Nice lady. No friends but me and a bunch of guys that acted like they were 17, and were double that.  She was a gear head like I was. Why no friends? The gorgeous divorced chick with the hot car? Well if she were 18 she may have had more, but there were a bunch of either married or desperate (over 40 and I want kids before it is too late), women around her, who didn't want her competition in the man hunt or turning their husband's heads. The gear head guys were mostly a bunch of men who either were in their second childhood or never got out of the first one. I told her to take it down a few notches, besides you don't want the man who looks at you and says "you're hot" and nothing else.

She toned it down and Voila'!!!! , Prince Charming came out of the woodwork. They have been married about 15 years now. They have a beautiful daughter and a wonderful life.

Looking in the mirror doesn't mean that you are a bad person, it may, so look long and hard, but look. Don't sell yourself short, but don't let your ego have a field day either, be totally honest. It will be one of the hardest things you have ever done!

Many times we find just the right person , and they are nothing like what we pictured. Many times they have flaws, don't we all? So stop looking for perfection. Find the right person and situation for YOU, not what your Mom wants (like the old saying..marry a doctor please!), or the cute guy your girlfriend is trying to pawn you off on, that you can't stand, and who has been married three times. Find the person for you. Only YOU have input on your choice, no one else!

I told the Universe I was done. Don't send me any men, I will bar the door. Then just to show me who was smarter than who, the Universe sent me my husband. Two points for the Universe. They got it exactly right. I had a tough list too. I mean he had to accept a psychic, and that was probably the hardest part, but I didn't want some bliss ninny....I had a tough list believe me.

Wander through the desert for a while, it will do you good. Life isn't a race to Prince Charming , nor to the grave. It is a set of lessons to be learned, and we all learn at a different pace. We aren't all supposed to be married at 20, have our second child in our third year of marriage, and live happily ever after. We all have different paths, some chose easier ones, some chose harder ones.
Walk YOUR path. Not your friend's , your sister's, your boss'.  Walk it the way the Universe wants you to and watch everything suddenly start to flow.

The women who find the perfect men (and visa versa) are the ones who can stand totally independent (financially & emotionally) , and do not NEED a man. They won't settle ever. They don't need a man to support them, take care of them and their kids, or tell them what to think and do. They can do it all, so they don't settle for a jerk. Be that independent person, man or woman. Desperation brings you crap that you tell yourself is George Clooney.

You may have to turn up the volume, or like my girlfriend, turn it down. Take that long,  hard look, and see what you come up with!

Peshaui Wequashimese




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Thursday, December 15, 2011

Don't wish revenge on anyone.....

There are a great many people out there who are hurt. I don't mean physically, but emotionally and mentally. They fear, hate, and want other people to suffer. I talk to them everyday. So many of my client's have been in bad situations and relationships, even business deals.

Unfortunately it is the time of year when there is so much going on that isn't good. There are scams galore from things that just jerk your chain (like internet stories that get passed around) to outright thievery. There are also people who don't want "to be alone for the holidays". They want a partner.  Partners are sometimes nice to have, but bringing in a partner, who is a problem person, to ruin your holiday, isn't such a great idea.

What about family and friends? When you have no family or friends( that want anything to do with you) , and you didn't just move 1000 miles yesterday for a new job. You have a problem. Why don't you have family and friends? Or a mate? Maybe it is time to take a good long look in the mirror. When we don't like our own company, and don't want to be alone with ourselves, why would other people want to be with us?

However that is a whole other blog for another day.

Today I am going to write about wishing ill on those who have left us or hurt us. There are many people walking around exuding anger over what an ex did to them. When you are angry every day, you allow the person who hurt you to hurt you every day. The anger has to go before you can have anything good come to you. The Universe isn't sending Prince Charming to an angry, vengeful witch (or worlock as the case may be). Remember like attracts like. Anger attracts anger, hate attracts hate, and then there is this wonderful thing called Karma.

When a person causes hurt through personal issues where they are suffering themselves (maybe they are bipolar for instance), the Universe is not going to slam them after the break up for being bipolar. You may be very angry with them, and maybe even rightfully so. The need to wish harm or to have them "hurt just like you" however, doesn't get you anything but more grief, more loneliness and more  upset. You should NEVER wish harm on anyone for any reason. Never ask God , or whatever resonates with you, to punish someone. God knows what happened and what needs to be done. God knows what that person was contracted for before this lifewalk, and God will handle it all just perfectly.You are NOT wiser than the Highest Power, even on your best day.

NEVER do anything that attempts to take away another person's free will, to sabotage their life or cause any harm, or to wish ill will on them or anyone associated with them, it will ALWAYS come back on YOU. The Universe is pretty serious about this, so serious that it comes back threefold. When you have said something like "Why does my ex have a great new romance when I keep getting jerks?", the answer is YOU bring it about. You call them in , you choose them. Usually in desperation. A race to see who will have a partner first. It is all nothing but another run straight to heartbreak.

When you say things like "I hope she does to him what he did to me", you are inviting in all kinds of negativity and disaster. Let the Universe/God/Creator handle it. Forgive, learn from the experience, and move on. Don't be in an all out rush to snatch up the first warm body that comes your way. And I will throw this in one more time also....do NOT ever be where you are not able to be independent. So many women get into relationships with a man (and I am sure it happens the other way around). Where they have no job, no money, no freedom, no friends. The man becomes more and more controlling and suddenly prince Charming becomes the one who holds the key to the prison you are trapped in.Women always say something like "but he was so nice before, what happened?" What happened was total control of your life. He doesn't have to be nice to you anymore. It is a classic way that abusers handle their relationships.

It is a sad but true scenario that many women are in. They can't leave, they don't have a dime of their own, are unemployable, have a child or children depending on them, and no where to go. Their friends and family have been weeded away from them, or ignored while they paid all their attention to Mr Wonderful, who isn't so wonderful. Now they are trapped.

There is no reason to have to have a partner for the holidays. Use all those holiday parties and get togethers to see what is out there, but don't hook up with the first warm body you see who says "hello". When you are desperate, you choose unwisely, and end up in the umpteenth relationship with a toad. It isn't worth it.

A client said to me recently.."but there is nothing to do on Christmas, nothing is open". Not true. Go have a nice Chinese dinner and hit the movies, many new releases are on Christmas Day. But whatever you do, don't go to your own pity party, it will lead to disaster. Go for a hike, go for a drive, read a good book. Don't envy others, but make your life the best it can be!

Choose well, and when things don't go right, don't wish revenge, it will just bring you right back to looking for a mate on the holidays, and another unwise choice. A cycle you don't want to be stuck in!

Choose well!



Peshaui Wequashimese




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Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Ten days til Christmas Eve, and Saturnalia, and Sol Invictus, and...

It happened, it is sneaking up on you! The Christmas holiday! I wrote yesterday in the blog on the winter solstice that the man we know as Jesus was not born December 25, but in the spring time. Some folks wanted to know why we don't just shift Christmas.

First, the church firmly planted Christ's birthday on December 25 for reasons of trying to bring over converts from the pagans. The Romans had a big sun worshiping ceremony at this time, and it blended in with Saturnalia, which also happened around our traditional Christmas date. The other question that popped up was , "What was Saturnalia"? We will get to that in a moment.

Christmas blended in well with the solstice, as many other belief systems had celebrations at that time for the "bringing of light back into the world". If the church had a similar celebration the church would feel "warmer and fuzzier" to the pagans an others. They may then come and join the Church, and that is what the Church was hoping for.

The flip side of that, is when was Jesus really born? The fact is no one knows, there was no reason to keep birth date records at the time, and there are no records of anyone's birth back in ancient times. Birthday celebrations are new things, and birth records are also relatively new. Many US states don't have them before the mid 1800's. People's births were marked by major events. The year's mattered, but not the days.

The only thing known for sure about Jesus' birthday was that he was born when Herod was King. (We tend to pronounce his name Her ud, but it is actually HEE rod) Herod died in 2 BC, so Christ wouldn't be 2011 years old today. Biblical scholars say it may have been as far back as 6 BC, which goes to show if we can't even get a year, we sure can say a day for certain.

Hippolytus is the man who argued for Jesus birthday to be December 25. This happened back in the second century, at the same time there were areas where the church celebrated it on January 6. Because of events at the time, the flocks of lambs (who would not be out at night in the winter, and were most likely sacrificial lambs for spring celebrations), and events surrounding kings, celebrations on going (remember there was no room at the inn),and the "star" which was more likely a comet, points to March. However it is a day that we will never no for sure.

Biblical scholars agree that Saturnalia was the reason that Jesus' birthday was moved to Dec 25, this way it would always be near the winter solstice, a date that changes with the moon. I believe it was more Sol Invictus (Invincible sun), but that celebration led into and became part of Saturnalia.

Saturnalia was an interesting celebration of opposites. The slaves became masters and the masters became the slaves for a day. This was a very popular Roman celebration. It honors Chronus, the youngest of the Titans. It was a week long celebration that ended on December 23, it was so loved by the citizens that when 2 emperors tried to shorten the celebration days, there were revolts. There were presents, gambling, school holidays, parties, sacrifices, and a huge banquet where the slaves were served by the masters. It does sort of sound like Christmas in a few ways.

The Jews believe that it began even earlier than the Roman Empire. They believe that as Adam saw the days getting shorter, he thought that God was angry because he had somehow sinned. He fasted for eight days. Then the solstice occurred and Adam saw that the days were again getting longer and realized this was a way of nature. He then celebrated for eight days.

There were many celebrations going on at this time, well before the birth of Christ. I can more easily picture Jesus as a compassionate Pisces born in March (the last sign of the zodiac, a sign that is said to not reincarnate on this earth), than a stubborn Capricorn (please no email from all you Capricorns out there). It is something we will never know, but it is very interesting to see what other groups believed and did around the time that we now call "Christmas". Christmas is a new holiday in the scheme of things.

No matter what you celebrate from Pagan holidays to Chanukah, to Kwanza, to Christmas...have a wonderful celebration!


Peshaui Wequashimese



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Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Winter Solstice

This year the winter solstice begins on December 22 at 5:30 AM UTC.  Many know that the solstice is the shortest day of the year, meaning less daylight hours, than darkness. It seems bleak, but the ancients didn't look at it this way, they looked at it as a positive turning point. It may be the shortest and hence, darkest day, but what happens the next day? Light happens!

I frequently remind my students that when the Universe closes one door, it always opens another. There are many things that influence that door. Our current conduct, Karma and life lessons have a great impact in what doors are available to us. When we do the right things, the doors are wonderful opportunities. They aren't always perfect, like some spring days, but change is inevitable. The goal is to always make it good change.

The winter solstice can be looked at as the beginning of a long, hard winter, or better yet, as the Pagans do. That being a time when the Holly King makes his exit, and the Oak King makes his return. The days are getting longer and light is returning to our world.

January is named for Janus. Janus is a Roman god who looks forward and backward at the same time. It is very apropos for him to be the namesake of the first month of the Roman calendar. We should look back and say "what have I accomplished, and what do I need to change for the better?", then with all that knowledge from the year before, have a better year.

One of the most notable celebrations of light, is Chanukah. It is a celebration over the return to the destroyed temple in Jerusalem, the Second Temple as it was called. In the rubble and mess was just enough oil supply to light the lamps for a day of work, yet that little bit of oil miraculously burned for eight days, allowing the temple to be restored. There is now an eight night celebration each December to commemorate that miracle. Chanukah means "to dedicate" as the temple was rededicated and used after being destroyed.

Today Jews all over the world light the eight candle menorah at Chanukah to commemorate the re-dedication of the temple. There are also small gifts, and food, but it is not a "Jewish Christmas", it is just that there are many celebrations that surround the solstice, with similar traditions.

The Christians have Christ , "the Light of the World" being born in December (although we know now he wasn't a December child at all) The Church moved his birth to coincide with other events in other belief systems to bring others in to the church. Scholars place his birth in March or April, depending on their calculations which depend on many historical factors. Christ's birthday is still celebrated in December however, from the religious to the mundane.

In Persia (now Iran), the longest night was followed by the Khoram Rooz, the "Day of the Sun".  Certain Romans celebrated Mithra Dies Natalis Sol Invicti , or the Day of the Birth of the Unconquered Sun (and it is the celebration most likely tobe the reason for moving Jesus' birthday to December). The name was later shortened to Sol Invicuts. The Romans also celebrated Saturnalia at that time. Ancient Rome had a celebration of something just about every day. Many times these celebrations involved food, drink, and sex, and that was what the Church wanted to change. The birth of the "son" who brings light into the world, was a direct response to this celebration of Sol Invictus.

Oohji-Taisai, celebrated in the Land of the Rising Sun, Japan. It is a Shinto ceremony where farmers light fires on the mountains to welcome the sun. Japan is not the only place where fires are lit to welcome the sun back, but this celebration has the sun as an integral factor, as the sun is a symbol not only of Japan, but Shintoism. Shintoism is an ancient religion still celebrated today. It honors, in part,  the Sun Goddess Amaterasu.

This is just a sample of what people do to celebrate the winter solstice. It is not just about Christmas and not just about Chanukah. Many get "excited" over the differences in religion, I get excited over the similarities. When we drop the "mine is the only way" line of thinking, we see that many cultures formed the same type of thinking, belief and celebrations, way before they even knew other cultures existed. When we give others the room and respect to celebrate in their own ways without condeming them, we find that maybe we aren't so different at all, after all the same one being, no matter what you call it, made it all. Every last bit of it.

Celebrate and share in the celebrations of others. Learn, research and GROW!



Peshaui Wequashimese


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Monday, December 12, 2011

Seize the moment! Owls in flight

One of my favorite things in the world are owls. Some Native American cultures believe they are harbingers of death or bad news, others revere them for their insight, ability to see beyond the darkness, and their bravery.

I love them, I think that they are beautiful raptors that make our world a better place. Yesterday I was able to see an owl that I had never seen before. I am not an active birder that heads out with a checklist, but I have sat for hours on top of cold mountains to watch migrations of beautiful birds as they move to different climes. I guess I am a semi birder, if there is such a thing.

My latest owl find is the short eared owl. They are beautiful mottled owls that look like they are wearing mascara. They were chasing something is a grassy field, and there were three of them! Owls look like flying footballs and usually soar silently, but these owls flap around. I may have seen them before and had not realized they were owls at all, but might have thought they were hawks or other large birds of prey.

They weren't the only feathered visitors to show off for us yesterday. An eagle soared over the parking area before the group even got started, and there were a bunch of harriers making themselves known. The trip was for owls however, and unfortunately it quickly became too dark to see them.

The problem is we missed out on some owls because we went looking for loons, and other birds when we knew spotters were currently seeing five owls in a field, then when we had three, we went looking for more. When you hear of opportunity, don't scramble around (unfortunately we were captive in another person's car). Stay where you have the opportunity and trust your gut. You can't see all the owls. The owls in one field are doing the same as the owls in the next field and scrambling around just allows you to see the road, not the owls.

Seize opportunity after making sure it is what you really want. Don't settle or grab for things that aren't what you really want, like loons. When an opportunity is sent like an eagle soaring right over head. Stop and take it, then get back to work. It keeps you from missing out.

In life we can't have everything, nor do we get to grab all of the opportunity, we would run ourselves ragged, and miss out on other opportunities. Make a plan and seize the moment!He who tried to see and do everything, ends up doing nothing well.

Happy hunting!


Peshaui Wequashimese



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Friday, December 9, 2011

Beign spiritual means being understanding

We live in an era of political correctness. We have managed to do what the pendulum always does, swing too far to one extreme. Once you have people complaining about another person's religion or tradition, to the point of ruining it or removing it, you are being about as UNspiritual as you can possibly be!

Having a Nativity scene or a Menorah in a government building or worksite in no way takes away from your rights. You don't have to stop and admire it, and if it causes that much upset in you, what you need isn't a removal of a religious symbol, but a good psychologist (or a smack back into reality). The sense of entitlement that people have is disgusting. It is the same sense of entitlement that makes them overspend, be rude to others, and a pain in the butt on the job.


You are entitled to very little. A free education , and some government programs if you qualify. Air to breathe, and that is about it. Everything else is earned. When people try to remove things like Christmas, Chanukah or Kwanzaa symbols or decorations , it is so petty and disusting, that one wonders what the Universe would like to say to that person (beyond "Stop being an attention seeking, self centered idiot please").

You don't have to celebrate a thing, but you also need to allow others to do their celebration. As long as they aren't blaring "Grandma Got Run Over by a Reindeer" into your bedroom window at 1 AM, you really don't need to concern yourself with it. The same goes for public and government buildings. Kudos to the shops along 5th Avenue in NY that still display Christmas decorations, and to the towns who have kept their Christmas decorations on public property (maybe they just don't have jerks living in their town). What comes next, taking Santa out of holiday parades? When it isn't your "thing", then just stay away. The attitude of "I don't like it, so you can't have it either",  is about as selfish as you can get.

I grew up in a city with many people from many parts of the world. We had Christmas decorations on our city and county buildings, and a Menorah . I haven't been there to see anything symbolizing Kwanzaa, so I can't speak to that. No one ever bothered to complain about anyone's decorations.

I think the pendulum needs to start to swing the other way. It does not take away anyone's rights to have such symbols at holiday time. If it bothers you that much, go seek professional help and stay away from the offending building for a few weeks.

We need to consider others in our every day. And if you don't believe in a Higher Power, then those trappings should make you laugh, not get angry. Getting angry over holiday decorations is a sign of a serious emotional and mental issue. Don't ruin it for the rest of us.

Merry Christmas! Happy Chanukah! Happy Kwanzaa! Happy Holidays ! Merry Solstice!

Do unto others.....

Peshaui Wequashimese



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Thursday, December 8, 2011

A Christmas Story

A reader asked me to reprise a Christmas story that I wrote about last year. Every word of last year's blog, including the story from years ago, is still true. Life can be tough, but it really could be a lot tougher. MUCH tougher. When times for our ancestors got tough, the tough did get going. They adapted, changed, and thrived.

Today, when people lose much they don't respond so well. They live above their means, then demand that others help them live above their means. It isn't our world that has changed, but the people in it. They had jobs where they earned more than they were qualified for because money was flowing freely, and now want a job that pays as much, if not more, they had gravy jobs which are all gone. They need to make changes, and maybe after 2 years on unemployment the little lightbulbs will come on.

It is especially tough at Christmas, but I know we have some benefactors where I live who keep their names secret and give to strangers. There are people with good hearts and no sense of entitlement. They say THANK YOU and then share the bounty quietly. So here is last year's blog that so many people loved. It is a true story.

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 People today are very outspoken about how "terrible" their lives are. Their lives really aren't" terrible", and where there are issues, many of them were self perpetuated. When I grew up I was always taught to have money saved for a "rainy day". Our "rainy day" money was never much, but a mishap would never put us into a bad situation, like foreclosure. My Mom made minimum wage or close to it all her life. I was telling Matt the other day how she brought a peanut butter and butter sandwich to work every day, for years and years. She claimed it was her Scottish frugality, maybe it was. I think it was by having parents who lived through the Great Depression.

Now people feel they need to have fancy lunches, living spaces, cars, and are living beyond their means. They forget what happened to their Grandparents and Great Grandparents when times were REALLY hard.

I have written before on the fact that people live beyond their means and it creates havoc. I have also written about charity being just that, and that it begins at home.It isn't a stage for you to stand on and say "look at the good things I am doing", the only reward should be you knowing that you did a good thing.I also have asked everyone to be tolerant and respectful of other races, religions, and cultures.I read a story yesterday that covered all these topics. It is a Christmas story, but it doesn't have to be.

So before you complain about being broke and how it is the government's (or anyone's fault but your own), or how you don't celebrate Christmas, so don't make me look at your Christmas tree, or tell how many charities you gave to in far away places this holiday season.....think about this:

During the Great Depression, a time when people really went without (without coats, shoes, food, shelter), there was a town in Ohio that received a great holiday blessing. One day in the newspaper, there was an ad that said a man wanted to make Christmas happier for everyone. It was 1933, and half the town of Canton was out of work. The ad was "signed" by B. Virdot. He said that if you lived in Canton and needed help with Christmas, write him, and he would send you a check for $5.00.

Now, $5.00 may not seem to be much, but in 1933 it was the equivalent of $100.00. Needless to say , this would solve a lot of problems for families during the Depression and help make Christmas a lot happier. His original ad said he would help 50-75 families. He ended up helping 150 families. No one knew who this man was. A young girl wrote to him saying that her family was not really living in Canton, but lived outside of town on a farm , and if he would send $10, she would clothe the whole family , buy Christmas dinner for everyone and presents. She got the $10.00

Many were families with 10 and 12 children, all with cardboard inserts in their shoes, and a will to work or do whatever they (legally) needed to in order to make some money.

So B. Virdot made 150 families Christmas day a happy one. He then just disappeared into history. The people and town recovered and life went on. One day in 2008 a woman gave her son a suitcase full of letters. He is a writer and she told him they were just "old papers". He read the letters all telling of hard times, starvation, and bare feet in the winter of 1933 Ohio. The names were not familiar to him, nor the person that the letters were addressed to. There were 150 canceled checks in the name B Virdot. His mother told him that B.Virdot was his grandfather. The name made up from the names of his daughters Barbara, Virginia and Dorothy.

His real name was Sam Stone, a Canton businessman. Not only did Mr Stone help those 150 families, and do it without recognition, not only did he not turn down a soul, but Mr Sam Stone was Jewish.Christmas was not a holiday he celebrated. Here is a man who did not live beyond his means, and was not hit hard by the depression, he gave locally, and without recognition, and he gave to people no matter what their nationality (he even gave to a lady who had moved there from Jamaica). All on a holiday that was not part of his culture and belief system! He knew it was important to his fellow townspeople, and he gave, from the heart without recognition, thanks, reward, or prejudice.

We may not all have the financial ability Sam Stone did, but we sure all need to have his heart!

There is only one person left living who benefited from B. Virdot's generosity. She is the only one , besides his family, who knows who he was. Even though he has long gone to his grave, he is remembered by at least one stranger.

Who can be more like B. Virdot, not only this holiday season , but all year long?
(December 2010)






Peshaui Weuquashimese








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Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Buyer beware even in Spiritual

I want to put this message out again , as I am sure you are all still doing your Christmas shopping. The metaphysical/spiritual world has become very popular in the last few years. There are new books, tapes, metaphysical shops all over the world. The problem is that many of these folks are selling what we call "snake oil".

Some just see it as a way to make money , and besides that, have no ill intent (which really doesn't matter what their intent is). Still others will tell you that you need all kinds of expensive wares to make your life better. Some will try to scare you, telling you that 2012 is the end of the world. There is even a man who manufactured a class with attunements copied form the ancient art of reiki, just to make money on the 2012 fear that was rippling through people.Those who were intelligent realized that he made many mistakes in his "ancient rites" even confusing Aztec and Mayan gods. Those who are desperate for answers swallowed it wholesale. The placebo effect made their lives feel better for a little while, but that wore off well before 2012.

There is nothing to fear about 2012. There is nothing you need to buy, nothing you need to study, no attunement that you need to have. When you are going to do some metaphysical shopping research first. Once you find out all the information that you need, go shopping. Make sure that the shop owner/reader/healer doesn't try to scare you into buying or doing anything else. Salesmanship is one thing, but telling people they have a curse on them and it can be removed for a few grand is another story all together. Do not ever act out of fear, as you will always make the wrong decision.

Make sure there is a return policy and that you get your money's worth. Make sure you are getting an authentic piece. A couple of years back I bought what was supposed to be an authentic stone, that left dye on my hands. It was dyed glass.

Just because someone advertises as being spiritual, metaphysical, or religious, doesn't mean that they are anything of the sort.Too many people think that just becasue of the nature of the business (spirituality), that the people running these businesses are spiritual....mostly they are business people, and some prey on troubled people. They know that people who are having difficulties and are vulnerable , or who believe everyone is inherently good, will be easy prey. Don't be , keep your wallet closed unless you know that you are getting the real deal.

Just because they are a "spiritual" or "metaphysical" store, reader, or healer, doesn't mean that they are doing good work. Use references from people that you know and trust as often as possible. When you cannot, just go and check it out, spend only a small amount and see what vibe you get, then find an authority to check out your find. The metaphysical world can suck your wallet dry in record time.

I have some excellent resources of people and goods available , and I am sure there are people in your area that have the same. I don't broadcast names of problem places and people (I let Karma take care of that), but I also don't refer them and I certainly give an honest answer when asked about them. I have worked too hard for too many years studying, researching, and practicing my craft to let scammers make us all look bad. We are already disbelieved by many, just becasue of the nature of our work, and when people enter into the picture who aren't authentic or who are, but just want to get rich on other people's problems, then I have a huge problem with that.

So, buyer beware, even when you are shopping in religious, spiritual, metaphysical shops. Research well (that means LOOK for the bad stuff, not just generally look on the subject), and consider the source. And please remember to never buy out of fear.

Peshaui Wequashimese



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Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Decide for yourself what works for you.....

There are still a handful of people in the world who think that people who do metaphysical work are "evil" or "bad". They also think that Pagans are "bad people". None of this is true but views fostered by the "Church", with  a Capital "C". Back in the day , the Church was (and in the case of the RC Church, and the Vatican), one of the richest institutions in the world. They wanted the business of the people, and having folks succeed, thrive, and heal without them, made them feel very insecure.

They called anyone who was not a part of the Church a "pagan", this meant that you had (in their opinion) , no God spirit about you, you were a heathen and most likely evil. None of that is true, and we know people can be "good" without ever seeing a church. There are places on this earth where a church is not seen in thousands of miles, yet the people are good, wonderful, spiritual people.

Then there is the nature based religion, Paganism. Being a Pagan (with a Capital "P"), is very confusing to most. Many church based folks think that they are bad people. They are devil worshipers. In fact, they are nothing of the sort. They are people who believe that all the answers are in Nature, and if we treat the world correctly, it will treat us well. They are more right than any religion I know. The elements, the flora and fauna, and all of Mother Nature and the Universe is used to request, to heal, to improve their lives.

This is a huge oversimplification, but it is the basic theme. They were never devil worshipers, and you know them more familiarly than you think. Just about every holiday you can think of trickled down from them. Oestre became "Easter";  Samhain became Halloween (and it has absolutely nothing to do with evil or devil worship); Yule and Winter solstice celebrations became Christmas (Jesus was NOT born in December). The church used variations of their celebrations to bring them into the church. Oestre is about fertility, and not only the Pagans had this celebration, but other cultures as well, the same goes for what we now call Halloween.

It is time to lose the old prejudices that we have about anyone who is not a Christian is evil. Buddhists are not evil, Pagans are not evil, Muslims are not evil, Hindus are not evil, Jews are not evil. When any belief system tells you to harm those in other belief systems, you need to run far and fast from that teaching. It is beyond WRONG. It is diametrically opposed to what Christianity is really all about.

All the major conflicts on this earth have been about religion. The Catholics vs. the Protestants in Northern Ireland; Catholics vs Jews; Extremist Muslims vs everyone else. The Spanish Inquisition, what the Europeans did to the Native Americans in the name of God...all horrible things. Again, this is just scratching the surface.

Be aware that just because there is a belief system out there that is different from yours, doesn't make it "wrong" or "bad". The creator/God/Universe created all men, and holds them all dear to its' soul and energy. That includes Pagans, Jews, Native Americans, and everyone else on this planet.

A religion with Ego and an aura of superiority is not a religion at all , but a clique. A clique that empties your pocket without giving an ounce to your soul.

Getting back to the first paragraph, no one who does metaphysical work is a "bad" person. First of all , we all have psychic ability, it is just infinitesimal with some and very powerful with others. It is a gift. The problem enters in where some use the gift in a bad way. They use it to make themselves rich, or harm others. It is never to be used that way. Psychics and mediums are given a gift that they are always supposed to share by helping others.

Someone once asked why we charge money. First in anything metaphysical there has to be an energy exchange, and money is a form of that, and the other part is...we are humans living on this planet. Not angels, not guides, but humans who have to eat, pay the mortgage and put clothes on our backs. When however, people rip you off (you have a dark cloud over your head and I can remove it for $XXXX), then it is a HUGE problem. I have no use for people who use and scam those who are hurting, and neither does the Universe.

Those with gifts are required to help others with their gifts, and we are supposed to do what we can for as little as we can, and that is what the authentic ones do. We are earthly helpers who will help you communicate with the Universe, and those who have passed, more clearly so that you can receive messages that are being passed to you.

"Do unto others" is one of the most intelligent words ever written.....Make sure that you keep it in mind every day and be honest with yourself about it, and you will never go wrong. When any group or religion tells you to hate or harm another, they are not a religion at all, they are thugs. Don't attach yourself to thugs.


Peshaui Wequashimese



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Monday, December 5, 2011

Putting down others with religion.

I saw a few examples of people putting down others this weekend, and it was on a blatant and disturbing scale. From a person who called a poorly dressed lady a "hooker" to a Bible thumper who's "holier than thou"  attitude, showed they didn't know word one about what the theme of the Bible was.

There is a lot that needs to be changed in our society, no doubt about it, however calling people names, isn't going to do the trick. On the religious end of things, those who are truly spiritual realize that you don't need organized religion to be "saved", only the Supreme Ultimate Being can "save" a person. Not a building, person, dogma, creed, belief. And by the way, "It" saves everyone. Yes everyone. Do some have to come back here for some more life lessons? Most assuredly, but that is between them and the SUB (aka Supreme Ultimate Being), not some human who puts themselves above others. Even a priest/pastor/minister cannot save you, they have not been given that right. The whole "save" thing is new, and another misinterpretation of the word.

There are a bunch of folks in my circle. They come from all different backgrounds. Some are older, some are younger. There are many belief systems between them, from Christian to Jew to Native American, to a belief in the Universe as a whole. Some attend church, some don't.None of them put themselves above (or below) anyone else because only their belief system is right. None of them look down on the others, not a one tells them they need to change, or rot in hell. They all get it.

My favorites are the ones who constantly quote the Bible. That action screams "I am insecure and cannot think for myself". Their interpretation of the word is usually opposite the original meaning. The Bible is a funny book, as in "strange". It was written by many hands, and it's purpose wasn't to save you, but to convince (or scare you)into joining the Church. Some of it was written to be taken literally, and much of it is not. The problem is there are a bunch of folks that try to take the whole thing as literal truth. In fact, the Gospel is not the Gospel. Scholars have proven that (and many of them worked for the Church), but people get stuck in their belief system and don't ever take a peek outside of it for pure fear. Fear that they may have been running headlong into a misinterpretation for decades.

My favorite example is when people say "judge not least you be judged", and say that means we should not judge people. Maybe they need to read (and understand), the whole "sermon". We have to judge. We judge whether a person is of good standing before doing business with them, dating them, loaning them money....and we should. What Jesus was trying to get across was "judge wisely and fairly without prejudice". What he really was saying, and got lost in the translation was "don't be prejudicial in making decisions about people". He wanted us to make SLOW, FAIR decisions, not jump to conclusions before knowing the whole story. He wanted us not to rush to crazy conclusions, and yet his sermon on the subject is many times misinterpreted and quoted by people who rush to prejudicial decisions. Aren't they  themselves judging the people they are quoting to? Of course they are, they are hypocrites, and not very bright ones at that!
Modern scholars and preachers have explained this many times, there are whole books on the subject, but those who really aren't as smart about the Bible as they think they are, still quote it in the wrong context.

There is no "one religion" or belief system. God, Creator, the Universe, Buddha, Allah, created all of it, every spec that exists .  Man molded it into his interpretation, but the root, is all from one source. Everything is from one source. "Bad" things are from that one source. Everything is a creation of the SUB. There is no "right" religion or "wrong" religion. There are a TON of people twisting and misusing the tenets of religion from Westboro, to Muslim Extremist, to those that hit that Bible and scream a quote at you (essentially saying , you are a heathen idiot and will rot in hell, while I get to be with God and you don't). Weed those people out of your life. Just because they tell you how religious they are, doesn't mean they even have a clue. When they tell you to do things that you know are wrong and hurtful, they are not speaking for the SUB. When they tell you someone will rot in hell, or their way is the only way, run like hell from them.

Being religious doesn't make people spiritual. Going to church every Sunday doesn't make them do the right things, and a person who never attends church doesn't necessarily do all the wrong things. I know people who have never stepped in a religious institution of any sort, who are better people than many of the others who live on this planet. God is looking for spiritual people, not religious people. When you go to church every Sunday and treat people like crap all week long, that little white building is not going to save your ass.

It is SOOOOOO easy. Just do the right things. My little "catchphrase" is "do the right thing FOR THE RIGHT REASONS", and beating someone down with your religion is never the right thing.

Coexist.

Peshaui Wequashimese



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Friday, December 2, 2011

Charity Charity Charity

Here is a topic that came up last night and it is one that I have spoken about before.

Charity is important each day of the year. It is even more important now. Everyone deserves a good holiday, and people are so focused on Christmas shopping and suc,h that they forget about all their neighbors that need help.

The problem is that too many people focus "away" from home, on "popular" charities, or on giving from the Ego instead of the heart. It doesn't matter even where the hungriest person is, it DOES matter where the hungriest person closest to you is. How can you help others who are miles, states, countries away while your neighbors need help just as badly? You can't do that honestly. We do need to take care of each other, but we need to focus.YOU are responsible for those near you, not someone in Montana , Haiti, or Africa. They aren't going to help, I guarantee you.

Focus means giving locally, no one is coming in from anywhere else in this country to save the children of our little city.

Focus means giving where it is doing some good. Make sure that you are giving through a person or group that ensures the help is going to the people who need it. Make sure that the organization or giver is not corrupt. There have been numerous stories about corruption on a Native American reservation, and most recently about a celebrity pocketing rescue funds. Giving money in this way is a total waste. You should be focusing closer to home anyway ans seeing that your donations are actually DOING some good, and getting to the right people.

Focus means not just emptying our pockets by going through organizations that don't just hand over cash, food and a coat, but work on finding PERMANENT solutions to the issues so that they aren't handing the same people cash, food and a coat next year.

Give a man a fish, feed him for a day, teach a man to fish, feed him for life. Lao Tzu

Don't give from Ego, don't EVER give to get something in return. When every person in the world gives locally and from the heart,in a helpful way, there will be no need for charity any longer. When we throw money around the country and world, nothing happens. There are times where the initial need IS to throw money at the problem, but that should always be a short term solution, otherwise all you create are people who are dependent on you. That solves nothing and helps no one, except maybe your ego gets a boost.

Give to people who are working on their issues. Not to those who do nothing to better their lives. There are no excuses, there are no valid reasons for enabling anyone.

We are here to help our "neighbors" , and that means "charity begins at home". Take care of your household, your friends and family, your community, your state, your country, and keep branching out. Don't branch out until a problem is solved (and if you throw money, food and a coat at the same people every year, you are failing at helping, you are excelling at enabling).

This time of year I can assure you that the food bank needs your help, no matter where you live. Start there. Give clothing, blood, time....you don't need to be rich to give charity.

Give everyone as much of a Happy holiday as you can, no matter who they are, their background, creed or color. No matter their sexual preference, education, or beliefs.


Give in a way that truly helps others , and you will automatically help yourself and your community.


Peshaui Wequashimese



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Thursday, December 1, 2011

Verifying messages are messages.

One of the biggest questions that I get after people start to tune in to their intuition, is "how do I know it is good info"? The fact that they ask this question shows they are going about things the right way instead of saying something like "I dreamed of my ex, he must be coming back to me!"

The fact is, that we all get messages in different ways.

Messages involve all the senses and sometimes none of the basic five. They come from different sources and sometimes come on their own, while at toher times, you have to ask for the information.

The best way , while you are learning, is to keep a notebook. You have to be entirely honest with yourself about this. Write the message, how you received it, and what you think it means( if you can figure that out). Review it each day and see how many hits you get, at what time frame the messages come in (a day before the event, a week?), or are the answers in response to something (being asked a question, hearing a story on the news). Review the dates and times. You may be a person that gets messages better in the morning, through clairaudience. Others may need questions in the afternoon, or after meditating, eating, or sleeping.It is all very personal, and the Universe usually works with your best or worst sense....yes worse. It is almost as if it can be making up for a shortcoming.

Not everything that happens is a message, as a matter of fact, very few things are. When they repeat themselves a few times, that is usually an indication that the Universe is really trying to tell you something. One failure doesn't mean you should quit, sometimes you have to make adjustments, or the Universe wants you to think about how serious you are. But when failure after failure occurs, it is time to take a different path.

Remember the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over hoping for a different result.

Make sure that you are totally honest with yourself. Make sure that you are patient, and that you dedicate yourself to checking and verifying messages. When you cheat, you fool yourself, and the Universe will be happy to provide that atmosphere for you, and fool with you too. It is something that you have to be totally honest with or end up living in a world of misinformation.

Have a separate notebook just for these "predictions" and keep it handy. There is also another little fact that not many will tell you. Psychic information works best for the here and now and past, not the future. Thought psychic meant fortune telling? It really doesn't. The future is so changeable. The Universe is happy to help you with insider info to get you help on making decisions. It isn't there to tell you everything that will happen to you. It won't make a speck of difference. The only time we get warnings , is when we have the power to change important things, and rarely do we have the power to change powerful moments in our lives. The Universe really doesn't care to tell you when John will call, or if you will get the job. What if the answer on the job is "no"? Does it matter? You should be 100% involved in finding a job until you find one. Not stop because you think you have one. There might be a better one out there. The Universe rewards dedication, work, productiveness, not the opposite. Can we get future info? Yes, there are CERTAIN things we can , and there are things that you just are not supposed to know. Death dates being the number one thing you aren't supposed to know!

Let's say for instance you knew that your loved ones were going to die in a terrible accident sometime soon. Do you lock them in a room? Then the building may burn down. There are important events that you cannot change, and there is no reason to tell you so you can worry yourself sick.

Many times people aren't even messaged that they will lose a job. Some see the writing on the wall as they know they have been doing poorly and the boss has written them up 16 times...but others won't see it coming. Why? Maybe you would leave before you were fired and miss meeting an important person. Maybe the new great job isn't ready yet and you would take a crummy one in a panic. Maybe you would not spend money on something that you really should spend money on. The Universe has is all figured out, including you needing to be certain places, in certain events at certain times,  because we are all in an intricate 112 person soul group, and our actions effect the other 111 people. Drastic change causes a domino effect that makes a huge mess.

When used properly, psychic information is a valuable tool, but THE most important psychic information is not information that you ask for, but that which is sent to you. These messages at first may be mundane, like "the mailman in here with my package", but those serve to show you how the messages come and to trust them, once you do, the important stuff flows. Psychic ability is a gift to help others, not yourself. It needs to be shared, and when important messages are received, they need to be passed on.

Never use psychic information to harm another in any way or to manipulate others.


Psychic information is a gift, but it is one with some serious strings attached.When you are ready, buy a notebook and start making notes, you may be surprised how much that ramps up the information. Be aware that normally ,most people are about 80-85% correct in their predictions (that is because we are all really psychic). A good psychic is 85-97%. NO ONE is 99-100%, there are a lot of reasons for that....but that is a topic for Psychic Development class.....

Peshaui Wequashimese



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