Whenever I have someone tell me how dedicated they are to manifesting one thing and they always get the opposite, I know it isn't the Universe that is confused. I try to explain to people that we do not get what we ask for , but what we really believe we will get. We also have to make sure that we muscle test first to see if something is in our life plan, and we have to work towards that goal.
A couple of times this long weekend I heard stories of people who are manifesting their version of Prince Charming. The description varies a bit, but basically he will be handsome, have a hot body and rich. OK, first what we need here is a reality check. What about the important stuff? You know, things like supportive, loyal, caring, compassionate, fun, witty, stable????
People forget the important stuff, then wonder how they got to be 38years old and not married. The Universe has only so many Brad Pitt's, one actually. We can't always have perfection, and certainly cannot unless we are perfect. Ladies that does not mean a perfect body, it means totally, in other words are you pushy, demanding, and spend, spend, spend? Well then you don't get perfect. A partner is here to be a partner. Not a supplier of jewelry every month, or a sex toy. Some people get those things, but they also work at it, rare is the millionaire who marries the common girl. Life is not a J Lo, Richard Gere movie.
Man pamper women they adore. It is really hard to adore demanding, spoiled, and entitled.
Maybe you have been pampered and spoiled already, and this life is not to be like that. Maybe you took from others so much in your last life (or this one!), it is Karma time. Maybe you chose to be an ordinary citizen, many do! We are much more altruistic before we return than when we get here.
The other part of the equation were several who complained that they only attracted men who were out for one thing, and it wasn't to buy them jewelry. They were non committal, or already married. One went on to tell me how she dresses and looks like Beyonce'. She can't understand why she keeps attracting married men. That's easy. She may look like Beyonce', but that attracts certain men. When you use the bait of short skirts, flashy clothes, a ton of makeup, and the perfect hair, what do you get? You get guys that only care about how you look and how quickly they can take that to bed. They don't care about being nice to you, except to the point where they get into your skirt.
When you are the brightest porch light on the block, you attract the biggest moths. They don't care if they are married, you don't attract quality men by looking like a rock star. You attract horney men who are looking to get laid. You are putting out the wrong bait.
Hanging out at the wrong fishing hole won't get you what you want either. You can't catch starfish in an inland river. You can't catch quality men at the club, the bar, the online dating services. The way you catch quality is actually simple. You dress nicely, but not sexy. You are well groomed, and stand up for yourself. When Don Juan comes knocking, send him packing. You then go and do things that you like to do.
I met my first husband at a car club. I have a classic Mustang and was there to learn and meet people. I didn't go looking for a husband, but I found one. My current husband, I found attending local metaphysical events. Successful relationships I know of, all started somewhere outside of a bar, club or online service. From vendors, church partners, service group partners, to dog training class, Yoga class, and a book club. The best part is none of them were fishing, but just going about their business. They met in a way that let them know they already had something in common.
First before manifesting, make sure it is something that is in your life plan. No sense trying to manifest a millionaire if you are to be poor this lifetime. Make sure that you are financially stable to attract financially stable men. Also always make sure that you can be independent so if they whole thing goes sideways or he shows himself to be abusive , you won't be stuck. You will also never sit home alone bored, or feel left out. Then manifest the important things. Don't get too particular about things. It is much easier for the Universe to deliver an honest, loyal man with a sense of humor, who is in decent shape mentally, physically and financially, then a list of hair color, job, type of car, shoe size, favorite food, place he lives, never been married, wants children right away, gives me a gift every day, has the body of a body builder, is financially wealthy, and takes 4 vacations a year. Instead, be reasonable.
Finding a husband is supposed to be finding a partner, so you may find one who is a little better off than you, but finding a partner isn't for financial gain. Equals are the ones who go the long run.
Then fish in the right fishing hole with the right bait. When you constantly dress provocatively, you will get guys that want sex. Don't play games with people either, that ALWAYS backfires, the Universe plays back. Be the best you can be, they go out where your interests are. When you don't have any, you need to work on YOU first. If you are dull, lifeless and broke, who is going to want you? Seriously? Be the best you can be, and then manifest realistically, and honestly. Then go to the right fishing hole with the right bait.
People have a sense of entitlement today. They want people to come flocking to them becasue they want them to, they look hot, and for no other reason. You are not entitled to attention, respect, honor, or Prince Charming. Never, ever do anything that takes away another person's free will or breaks Universal rules, that means no energy work on a married man, or someone who wants nothing to do with you. It won't work, and it will serve up serious consequences.
While doing all this remember that the most important part to manifesting once you have all the above down, is to buy into it 100%. When you manifest with the thoughts like "this never works", "I only get men who want sex", "none of the ones that come are anywhere near good enough", that is what you will get, we do not get what we ask for, but what we believe we will get!
The homework has to be done before the belief though... when you manifest correctly it works 100% every time. No exceptions. So examine your method. Are you manifesting that which is part of your life plan? Are you creating a reasonable wish list? Are you on par for what that type of man will want and deserve? Are you fishing with the right bait in the right place? Are you believing you can achieve what you are manifesting?
It isn't as easy as writing it down or pasting a picture of a hot movie star on your fridge, but when done correctly it isn't hard and always works!
Manifest the right way and watch the magic happen!
Peshaui Wequashimese
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