In the past month there have been situations where many of us said something like this , "If I did that my Mom would kill me." Many of us wonder where manners have gone. Many of us wonder where common sense has gone.
One person told me of a situation she went through and added that she is now a strong woman and she is going to make sure she gets her way. I explained to her strong women make sure they are fine with NOT getting their way. Her actions didn't make her a strong woman, but a rude woman. It took her 4 days, but she apologized and said from asking others their honest opinions, she sees she was making mistakes.
Many of you are terrified of saying to someone..."that wasn't nice". More people need to say it. You many need to "choose your battles" , or wait til an appropriate time to say something, but you have to put the word out there. This woman was happy to hear the "not so good" stuff, and will have a better social life because of it.
Planning a wedding has made me see people do so many things that I would never do. Things I was clearly taught NOT to do, as I was taught it was rude. Social graces and manners have seemed to have gone down the toilet. Not sure what proper protocol is for a situation, ASK!
My Mom taught me a few things while she still walked this earth. The biggest one was manners. Just because you are in bad times, upset, older, achier, young, unschooled, broke, rich... you don't get to use that as an excuse to be rude.
"Do unto others" still applies. If you wouldn't like it if someone did what you have just done or said, go back and make it right. If you wouldn't like having demands made on you, don't make demands on others. Respect ritual and protocol too.Respect the wishes of others when it comes to their time, and space.
Do the right things for the right reasons.
Being demanding, pushy, and rude are not the marks of a strong person, but of a weak one trying to appear strong. They are just plain rudeness.
Peshaui Wequashimese
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