Monday, February 11, 2013

Before you get all lovey dovey....


A few days ago I wrote about not rushing into a relationship just to be in one for Valentine's Day. It amazes me how much weight people put on the day. They have been influenced by Hallmark, jewelry stores and florists. It seems to come down to, if he doesn't spend a bundle, he doesn't love you. BULLCRAP.

Love is about love, not money, better yet, Valentine's Day was not about love. It was about healing and it was originally a celebration associated with the church.

Valentine was Valentinus who later reached sainthood. There were a few Valentines in church history. Saint Valentine (whom the day commemorates), ministered to Christians during the persecutions brought about by Holy Roman Empire, and while imprisoned he healed a jailer's daughter. Sounds more like an ancient scripting of The Green Mile than Love Story.

That is just one of the Valentines. There were several, and more than one SAINT Valentine.  Historians have narrowed it to three that they can verify are not the same person.

St. Valentine had nothing to do with lovers, but he did perform weddings for soldiers that were forbidden to marry, and that seems to be where the current aspect came from. Valentine however was more a priest and healer than a proponent of romantic love. Valentine's Day is still an official feast day in certain denominations.

So who made it a "romance" day? Most likely Chaucer in his writings, and by the 15th century it was said to be a big deal....but remember at that time courtly love and romantic intrigue were very popular.

Now we have it as a money making day. It is a day when suitors show their love by spending money. I would prefer they show their love by romancing me every day of the year (and fortunately I have that in my life). Putting a price tag on your relationship starts to slip over into something else all together, and it isn't a good thing at all.

This Valentine's Day, don't put a price tag on yourself. Don't rush into relationships or try to force them to be something else because of a day on the calender. Have more self worth than that. If you struggle with it, remember that it is a church feast day to honor a saint, that should take the romance out of things....





Peshaui Wequashimese





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