Trust and Respect

Trust and respect are things that everyone wants. Some do not deserve either, and some have a hard time giving them. These two parts of human interaction are earned. There are people in this world who have fancy titles or even self imposed ones, that think those titles give trust and respect.They do not, nothing hands trust and respect to anyone, although people are assumed to have those qualities.

Remember the old saying "respect your elders"? It is something that is being explained to children these days. The issue? There are older generation people doing bad things, like molesting children. We cannot give carte blanche status to elders anymore. There is also the fact that being older doesn't make you smarter. The saying was meant to give respect not full out obedience. It meant if Granpa is wrong you don't shout out in front of the whole family reunion "You were always a moron", it means you have a discussion with him off to the side.

Being older, a clergy member, an official, an anything , does not give you blind obedience. You then make the choices we always talk about in the blog, you discuss the issue first , and then you walk away. You don't just walk away without discussing the issue, as that causes more issues on both sides, and you don't stay in a bad situation.

If you want trust and respect from people, earn it. Be nice to them, always. Be considerate to them, and listen to them. People who want respect are usually miserable people who like to push others around, using them as their personal slaves. "Get me this, do that for me..." Then when the victim tires of the indentured servitude, they are called disrespectful, when they are not. To get respect you also have to give it. When you talk to people like they are dirt, they they won't respect you. When you don't give thanks after asking someone to do something, they won't respect you


 When you are hypocritical, people will not respect you.

There is no title, object, or situation that gives you automatic respect. Even some tribes would pick up and move out on a chief if he acted badly or made bad decisions. There is nothing that gives you power in this world, but your deeds!

Bring good energy and people around you, the Universe is sorting the deck. People who are not on the same level with you will be taken out of your lives, fade out or walk away, let them go. Never chase after anyone. Never. New people come in that will help facilitate your path, whether it is a good one or bad one. Like attracts like , and things are still being sorted out.

DO the right things for the right reasons.




Peshaui Wequashimese





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